Tuesday, 23 June 2009
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Help - This Girl is Confusing.
I've always told myself not to date in the workplace, I've been through that once and I'm almost making a mistake doing it again. This girl and I went to watch "The Hangover" as a friendly "hangout" but it turned into us cuddling and holding hands during the movie. And after the movie she gave me a goodnight kiss. I was going to text/call her the next day but my luck ran out and I dropped my phone in a bucket of water, of all places. The day after that we end up working the same shift together and it was awkward.
I was nervous and tried making small talk but nothing came out, and whenever I asked what was wrong, she said she was tired. Everyone knows that's total bulls hit and there's something on your mind. I ignored it and pretended it was nothing. Two days after that I had just caught her after work and she said she was confused about everything and agreed to talk about it with me, then gave me a peck on the lips before she left.Now, I tried texting her but she never texted back. I kept texting her then I realized that she might have thought it annoying for me to text her a billion times so I stopped. It just bothers me that when we talk in person we have a normal conversation then say that we're talk about our dilemma but when I text I don't get shit.
Today I really wanted to work since she was there, but the only way I could was to close so I could spend an hour with her before she got off work. That hour happened and I came up to her saying "Seriously, we need to talk." How does she respond? She says "Yeah, we do." And what happens at 7? She leaves.
I break down, freak out and almost have an anxiety attack in front of customers. I go on break and call her, saying again that we needed to talk and she says "I'll call you when I get home from my friend's house." Still no call.
So my question is this: Am I wasting my time with this girl or should I continue to be patient and wait for her to come around? any advice helps, I need it.
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She is probably upset that you didn't call her the next day. Find some way to tell her what happened to your phone!
Don't waste your time on chasing a girl who obviously isn't interested in being mature and sitting down to talk seriously.
If you're honestly interested in her then I recommend giving her space and letting her come to you when she's ready. You've already made it clear that you want to talk and now its up to her to respond.
Ask her to marry you.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - This is sure to work.
I usually find that reverse psychology works.. If you like kind of ignore her and pretend you don't care as much, usually the other person comes around and asks you what's up. She has you and she knows this. She knows that you care and that you want things to maybe work out because you keep trying to get her to talk. I would play it cool for a couple of days... try not to text her so much. Maybe send her one text a day saying, hey i hope you have a good day.. but maybe stop pressing the issue so much. See if she comes around.
just leave it......it's the girl's turn to take the next step if she doesnt then there's nothing else for u to do.
Goodbye to mind games.
Theres someone else around, and shes put you both in a competition without knowing. ^^
Girls are pros at hooking guys, and keeping them there, hands down. Up to you to keep up the chase or move on.
Forget her...to me ur wasting ur time on someone who claims she is intrested but her actions are deffinitly speaking louder...its time to get the hint. I think u can find someone better then her.....hey look at it this way...HER LOST!!!!!
I hate these mindfucking games.
If she likes you, she will come to you.
If she's a big girl, she will handle the situation like a big girl.
Seriously. I would move on.
Sounds like she's trying to avoid the situation. You're probably better off moving on.
If she doesn't wanna talk to you, then pretend that "movie hangout" never happened. Just go back to normal. She's most likely playing mind-games with you, so don't fall for the trap.
man, if someone were to o that to me i would just give up.
If she can play games like this, what makes you think she wont in the future?
Also if she really did like you this whole time, she really has a brutal way to showing it. So dont count on it
your reactions to her lack of response is probably scarying her off a bit. usually, guys don't chase the girl to have a "talk" and she's probably freaked out by you too. Maybe she realized how much of a mess she's in because you two DO work together and it's weird to make small talk.
overall, just let her come to you when she's ready. until then, just keep yourself together. don't jump to conclusions and try occupying yourself with other things until then. there's nothing more mind-numbing as willing your phone to ring, i've been there...ugh it's gross!
mindgames SUCK. I'd move on at this point-this chick is buggin
She's a woman player it seems like to me. You need to either leave her a message saying what you feel and she can get back to you on it or just leave it alone. I don't see good happening from this really.
leave her alone and pretend like u dont care about her anymore. shes probably happy playing with ur mind. just leave her, stop calling texting talking bla bla bla unless she starts first. dont be too available or easy.
Sounds like she's leading you on mate. I've had that sort of a relationship with a girl once. I was confused and was tortured by her sometimes warm displays and sometimes just nothing. We went to movies & dinners but I dunno it was complicated. Don't jump to conclusions and just give her space. Who knows maybe she just wants attention from you and if she REALLY wants your attention and you stop giving it to her (by giving her her space and not constantly nagging her to talk/txt etc.) then you may find her coming to you instead.
Why don't you just call her? And if she doesn't pick up, leave a voicemail saying that you couldn't call her the other night because your phone broke and tell her to give u a call back when she gets a chance. If she doesn't call you back, leave it at that. You've left the ball on her side of the court.
She probably doesn't get texting. I didn't have it at all for about a year, and my friends would always complain about how I didn't respond to them, but I never even received their messages in the first place.
Sorry bud but I think you're in the same boat as me. If she doesn't seem to care there's probably a reason, whether it's because it's someone else or because she isn't that interested, or is playing mind games doesn't matter the end result is the same. If she can't even talk to you, then she doesn't deserve any effort from you. If you ignore her, she may come to you but be wary because if she did this once, she'll probably do it again and we all know that's no fun!
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - ahahha
whenever someone says, "we need to talk", what is your gut reaction? mine is a sinking stomach.
perhaps just ask her if she wants to hang out again. ditch the drama. if she says no, at least you know where you stand
wow you almost had an anxiety attack?? yikesss
and ya move on.. shes not worth your time
Don't give her the time of day. Bitches be crazy.
-Kunoichi