Last year, I casually dated this guy for a few weeks. He was really nice and we could have potentially hit it off; however, there was something about him that I just couldn't get past. He didn't have a cell phone. Now, before you view me as completely shallow, hear me out.
In this case, he could afford the phone bill, claimed he wouldn't mind having one, and had no restrictions whatsoever that kept him from indulging in texting bliss. Now, don't get me wrong. I didn't meet my prince charming and blow him off over a Blackberry. I was hesitant about said guy to begin with, but this was the final straw that ensured we wouldn't get farther than the third date.
I know it was his choice not to have a phone, but after years of relying on mine, I found it very inconvenient and almost impossible to reach him.
What do you think? Would you date someone without a cell phone?
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I would if I really liked him...otherwise, no. Who sets up dates with Facebook or email these days?
i dun think so, it depends if im very interested.
does he have the other kind of phone? does he try to reach you? I really don't quite get why this is such a big deal to you.
is there anything wrong with a house phone? seriously...
Wow um, if you didn't like him that much, then I guess that's fine. But if I really liked the guy, I would call his home number? Did that ever cross your mind?
Does he have a house phone? o_O AIM?
Yep. Sure, why not?
if this was the final straw, what were the other ones? i'm sorry, but this does sound really shallow. just because the guy can afford a convenience doesn't mean he should or has to.
People these days are too engulfed in technology... I think it would be nice to get away from the confinement of the cellphone, computer, ect.... if people could manage not being connected 24 7 to everyone through the cell back in the day when hardly anyone had a cell... why not now?
amen, girl.
i dated a guy for a month, and 90% of the time his cell was either out of minutes or dead. i didn't really like him that much anyway; he had a terrible reputation so my guard was alway up but it was a thing of "if i DO need him, i won't be able to contact him", because he was waaaay past the "I still live with my parents and think it's okay!" age (22). i mean, sure, we'd talk on occasion, but because our only means of talking was via cell phones, and he never had his, we probably hung out five or six times tops.
it sort of sounds like he didn't have one because he didn't want to be made available to you- that's what it seems to ME, anyway. but at the same time, i also know that not a lot of guys enjoy talking or texting like us girls do.
Considering I don't have a cell phone... you bet the fuck I would. And if you didn't really like him in the first place, why the hell would you want to be connected 24/7?!
@INxEXISTENCE@xanga - TRU DAT. Amen! Hallelujah!...and allathat.
If I like him, why not?
Of course I would! I rarely use my own cell phone, so I wouldn't expect my boyfriend to be the kind of person who depends on one. I think it'd be cool if he were one of the people who can live without them.
As long as he returns the calls I place to his house, then yeah. I did for a while actually. When I started dating my ex, I had to wait for him to call me from his house or I would call & leave messages if I couldnt catch him. Then when he got a phone, he called me all the time.
Everyone keeps saying "if I like him, why not,?" but I think it's hard to give an opinion on unless you have been in the situation. I can definitely see it being tough to get ahold of someone if they don't have a cell. What if they have to work late? You won't find out until they get home at 10pm, depending on their job, etc. etc.
I dated them before. We contacted each other by our house phones. I mean, that was like years ago before "cell phones" became the big thing. If I was single now, yes, I would date a guy without a cell phone. As long as we both have some way to contact one another.. I'm all down for it.
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - My sister's bf don't have a cell phone, but he always call her when he comes back home from work from his house phone or when he's going out with the boys. :D
House phones are cool.
My boyfriend doesn't have a cell phone, and we're just fine. :D
why not? just harder to communicate..
Im assuming he doesnt have a house fone...if soooo u have issues O_o
I have before, and I used MSN, email, house phone, and in person to chat. He got a cell phone months later.
Without a cell phone, it limits the spontenaity you can really do.
i don't think i would mind. i don't use mine very much anyways, so it would be ok. i am not one for phone conversation anyways, a house phone is just fine for me. Plus im an IM kind of girl anyways.
think about what people did before cell phones. Maybe it's because of the person i am but i find that guys get a little too crazy with cell phones. I don't like being called 8 billion times in a day , random text messages asking "where are you?", and 5 messages in my voicemail. It would be a new approach to the relationship and i wouldn't mind at all.
I would date a guy without a cell phone. If he's worth your time, he'll make sure he'll contact you. If he's out, he's out.