Many a times, I've wondered what makes a date leave an impression? And what will happen in a date to make the guy want to take you out again and again?
A book I've glanced over told me that guys go on so many dates sometimes that every date is "good," so good that it really makes no difference between date number 1 and date number 100. There are no bad dates anymore in the 21st century; leave that to the 20th. Every date is nice, you talk, you smile, exchange thoughts and habits. Every date makes you feeling happy. But then so what?
That makes so much sense to me. I look around the city, beautiful girls everywhere. Not only that, they have a a nice degree, decent job, travel around the world and are all nice cheerful ladies. So yeah, what makes one particular lady stand out that you would want to take her out again?
What elements in a date would make guys say "wow, I wanna do it again" instead of "It's a nice date, she's nice. But nothing special". How do you make an impression?
Comments (23)
I'm just myself when I go on dates. I like having fun so I talk about nothing that is "serious" because then it just gets boring.
cliche advice for the day:
just be yourself :)
If they're not that into you then whatever it's not meant to be
but you'll always find that one person who thinks you're absolutely fantastic
Just be yourself. Because anything else otherwise would be fake and eventually your true personality will come out.
I don't think its a matter of making an impression. It's simply just clicking with the other person, your personalitys just "mesh" well together.
@GaMeGurLsH@xanga - Exactly. Acting fake will always come back to bite you.
Initiate a game of truth or dare.
isn't it obvious? ;)
this is really an individual preference... for me, i'd say personality and attitude... it's awesome when a girl has a positive attitude towards the challenges, the past, the present, the future, and the world.. and it's even more awesome when she has a playful clutsy cutesey personality; but brave/strong enough to withstand any embarassment...
do notice that looks isn't there; not because it's not important.. i definitely think there needs to be some level of attractiveness, but yeah, the reason why looks is left out is because looks was what made me ask you out..
breakdowns do happen; but the slightest glimpse of acting or faking is definitely a turn off and will result with indisputable future with the fun lovable mr. jack.
Just be yourself, be comfortable, as hard as it may be. If you're laid-back, don't act bubbly and hyper. What's the point of capturing his attention up until he realizes that he's not interested in who you are?
Oh and I think this is obvious, but if you have a few issues at the time, try not to let them show. I recently crossed a guy off my mental possible boyfriend list when he told me that he cries often and sometimes want to kill himself.
._.
@InTheThin@xanga - if a girl told me that, i would've found that depressing... and depressing feeling are turn-offs...
oh yeah, i have a new funny story for my future date or dates... in fact, i actually have plenty of them...
just be yourself and relax and if he doesn't like that then that's his loss. i'm not too serious on first dates, i like to enjoy myself and just hang out and have fun and show the other person that i can have a little fun here and there.
I think it depends on the people. If their personalities click, and they're both attracted to one another, that'll leave an impression.
@kawasaki_saiyan@xanga - I know..seriously. I didn't even know him that well, so I just kind of froze and it was really awkward talking to him for a few weeks after that, knowing that he's depressed but that I also don't...know anything about him?
@InTheThin@xanga - and at the same time, you don't want your date to fall any deeper... well, unless you like that... haha..
in my opinion, the only type of people that would find them intriguing is if they work in a related field...
The purpose of a date is to get to know one another and decide if you'd like to spend more time with the person, not just to get a second date...under any circumstances.
So yeah, be yourself, and hope the other person is doing the same. Because what you'll "catch" depends on the type of bait you use, and if you use something that's not really you..you'll end up with someone that isn't a good fit. That's a waste of time, energy, and emotion for both of you.
don't fake it. If you do indeed fake it, then you're going to have trouble keeping it up. so what if it's a fail date, it's only coffee and a couple hours of your life that is wasted. There are plenty of people out there. You just gotta keep at it.
I like dates that cater to my interests such as watching anime or playing some video games....
"Depressing feelings" are total turn-offs. Just be careful as to not say anything TOO offensive or... bad.
Hmmm... I don't know.... It depends how I'm interacting with the guy... Apparently, my recent date said that I "intimidate the shit out" of him and not in a bad way but just different. Now, I should be used to guys saying that because I've always been head-strong and "dominant" in my direct personality but when he said it, I was worried. But I don't know how else to be, I'm just hoping that my sense of... something will keep wanting him to see me? lol
When I like someone and my perceived chemistry is kind of obvious, I let my interest be known. I ask a lot of questions and when he gets passive, I do press a little to get the answer out. I laugh a lot, and since I use my hands to convey messages quite often, I make sure there's physical contact like bumping arms with him or into him "accidentally" (if you're wearing stilletos and the sidewalk is uneven, it's not a bad set up, lol) and make STRONG eye contact. I make sure I understand what he's saying and am actually listening to his words, emotions behind it rather than contemplating my next move. And instead of doing what most women do; remain passive until the guy makes the next move, take the lead every now and then. Ask him out, give him options to consider and etc.... But then, that's just me. G'luck and have fun! That's what you should keep to mind in the forefronts anyways!
@InTheThin@xanga - Haha oh wow. That's truly frightening. I'd cross him off my list too.
@InTheThin@xanga - haha, I had that happen to me once. I was on a first date at the time.
wow...it seems everyone says be yourself. sounds like good advice. i'll keep that in mind!
I am just myself, like some others have said. That's enough to leave an impression and, if not, oh well. His loss.