Sunday, 21 June 2009
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What's With the One-Word Texts, Guys?
Everyone knows that stereotypically women use more words than men. I read in a magazine once that were a woman to send a text, it would go something like, "On my way to work this morning a dog ran out in the middle of the road so I swerved. Now I have a flat and I need a ride." A man would say, "Flat tire. Pick me up?"I've been shamelessly flirting with one of my coworkers lately and our primary source of communication for right now other than talking at work has been texting. It's all fine and good except when the guy sends a text that says, "Haha", "Ya", "Lol", etc.
What do you even say to that?
As a woman, I feel when a man sends me a one word text like that, he's subtly sending the message that the conversation has died and he doesn't want to talk anymore. At least, that's the hint I'm trying to make when I do that. I was talking with my brother about the one-worded text thing and he said most of the time that's not it. So basically, he's run out of things to say?
If I change the subject the guy usually has plenty to say for a little while and then we hit a lull in the conversation and here come the one words synonymous to caveman-like grunting.
Does it mean something when a guy sends short texts or are they genuinely just not as communicative as women? What should I say or do differently? What do you respond to one-worded texts?
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Dunno.
When I get 1-word texts, I usually think "2 can play at this game" and then I do my best to use only one-word answers from that point, lol. Childish, yet effective :)
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if people send one word text, i dont text back
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If a guy sends me a text that is only one word (unless it's a question like..."What?", "Why?" or "How?"), I don't usually text back. I take it to mean that he's bored with me or the 'conversation' has seriously died.
@Gerald_Washington@xanga - @Nous_Apeiron@xanga - Haha!
@pawnshop_heart@xanga - But seriously, some guys aren't very talkative when it comes to texting. I didn't have my first cell phone until I was 16 and texting is kind of a chore for me. I'd much rather talk to an actual voice than cycle through a bunch of words and letters to type one sentence fragment.
In my opinion, most guys aren't into "dropping hints", but I could be wrong. Very rarely have I ever responded with "haha" or "ok", in order to end a conversation. Most guys just express themselves differently than women. As one comedian puts it: When two women have a conversation about something like, one of them breaking up with her boyfriend, a lot of details are given, emotions expressed, etc. When guys have a conversation, its often short, sweet and to the point with little room for drawn out emotions. I just hope I wasn't being to general in what I just said.
By saying something like "haha", I don't want to end a conversation, its just that I find texting everything I want to say way too awkward and I'm just expressing myself in the sameway I would in a face-to-face conversation.
woooow what a great post, and by that i mean all the featured posts on datingish right now suck.
most of my texts go like this:
"R U free?"
"Ok"
...i would never use a dictionary's worth of words. i know no girls that would text with that many words. but gender stereotyping is always amazingly fun, I'm sure.
haha! I had this problem with my boyfriend too. and my brother. I think guys just aren't being very communicative, not uninterested. They definitely don't have more to say than girls! You're probably not doing anything wrong
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I just think it means they're not interested, if they're one-words or close to that. My best guy friend usually texts half the words I do, which would make that about..10-15 words? Lol but the guys who just don't care usually do as little as possible.
I don't really think it's base on gender. When i'm texting someone I don't really say anything, and it's not based that I'm bored, I just don't know what to say. And it's also because I don't really text that fast. So maybe the guy isn't bored with the convesation, he probably just don't know what to say. And, find it easlier to talk in person. That's what I think, I could be wrong though.
I usually don't text back if they send one word texts.
I've had more the opposite experience, myself. There's a few girls I'm dating that regularly give me one word responses on texts - "lol" being the single most common of them. Myself, I usually type rather a lot on texts (having a decent phone for texting with a full keyboard helps a bit, though. I might be less verbose if I had to deal with T9 numpads again).
Personally, if I really don't have anything else to say, I'll rarely respond at all.
My best friend and almost-brother does that ALL the time, only he prefers to do it on IM. And, you know, I'm trying to have a conversation with him, but he's going 'lol' or 'what' or 'ahuh'. Just a quick, "You're not feeling very talkative right now, are you?" generally gets him talking. Or I'll just repeat whatever it was that he said. He gets the point pretty fast.
But then, sometimes he's trying to talk to one or two other people, or he's really tired, or he's trying to eat, or watching a movie, or something like that. Or just ask him a stupid question like "Do you really laugh out loud every time you lol?"
Then again, giving him a dose of his own medicine is fun, too. :D
i text/chat really short too. i do this because 1) i don't like to text/chat/talk on the phone. i prefer face to face 2) i have nothing to talk about 3) u're irritating but i feel bad not replying you. :p
usually when my boyfriend sends me a one-word text, the conversation is coming to a close. for example, i say, "I'll be at ur place soon." and he says, "K." i hate that though! Like, thank u for wasting a text on one letter! lol but he just hates texting in general. and maybe guys really arent that communicative. seems to be the case in most of the guys i know.
Not to be like really unhelpful or anything but my guything texts me novels nonstop. I'd recommend not responding to the one-word lameness - he obviously isn't trying hard enough and it's just going to prolong your aggravation. Let him go after you a little - it'll be good for both of you.
I think it's both. Sometimes, like everyone does, guys run out of words. Sometimes, they just don't want to talk to you. I try to be concise when I talk to people through text - mostly because I only have 200... If the person answers back with a one-word response, then I'll leave that conversation where it belongs. If I happen to send a one-worded response and the person replies with an essay, then yay. Texts are difficult to analyze. Better to talk in person, if possible.
I hate when my guy texts back "ok." it just seems so... official and not fun/loving lol. It makes me momentarily sad that it wasnt a "alright yah, ok i'll talk to ya later babe" it takes 5 more seconds! seriously guys...girls (from my experience) like MORE words which can translate to MORE communication.
we like to talk!
grr. my pet peeve. I hate one worded txts
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OMG i was just pissed at this same aspect yesterday. this guy i am seeing just txts back one word. so of course i dont know what to respond. so i dont thinking he doesnt want to talk. he texts me back angry that i didnt respond. ugh!
haha
lol... yeah, i do that sometimes.. don't know why..