Love is a very controversial idea. You either hate love, are in love, or falling out of love. Just about everything you see and read in either books or movies is about love. They're all the same, but they sell. Twilight (which was a very good book(s)) was about two opposites attracting. The Notebook (one of my favorite movies) was about a first love. But what's really funny is how people in the movies act totally different than people do in the realistic world. The guys hold the doors for the girls and pull out their seats ALL the time. They bring you flowers, NOT just on Valentine's Day, and they just want to take a simple walk and get to know you. Nowadays, a date is based upon how much money you spend on a girl. Call me old- fashioned, but I really would like to meet a guy that acts like Noah from The Notebook, or Edward from Twilight. (Well their romance, not their characters :)) My perfect date is really something simple, like a walk, so you can actually get to know someone before you go on about five dates and realize they bore you.
It's like everyone is obsessed with love. Granted, I'm one to talk because all my favorite books and movies are about love, but it is like Hollywood and novelists can think of no better thing than to throw a love story into EVERY SINGLE thing they write. "Oh we're about to die, lets have a passionate kiss." I'm sorry, but I would care more about my life, than one kiss.
But all in all, I just think that love is taking over our society and driving people mad. The who's who in Hollywood are based upon their spouses, or how many girls they've slept with - and I'm not even going to go into that one. But I think if love is going to take over the way everyone is built upon to live their life, I would rather spend it back when guys cared more about you than what you looked like when you go out on a date. In my opinion, guys should be taught how to treat a girl rather than learning how to fuck a girl.
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I WISH a guy would want to go on a walk with me, rather than just get in my pants.
Guys aren't like the guys in romance movies/novels because to have the perfect fashion sense, to be mushy constantly, to always know what a girl wants, to always have money, and to always have perfect date ideas, guess what? He'd have to be a gay rich guy. Maybe you should just settle for the best straight guy you can find and leave it at that. Not all guys want to date a girl just to get in her pants and then ditch her. Don't give him that option until you know he loves you.
@RaabzBaby89@xanga - This.
The title of this blog is kind of funny.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - gay rich guy?
That's close enough.
Well... she did mention that she wouldn't mind a guy who acted like Twilight's Edward.
I completely agree. I am in the process of becoming a ton more realistic in my relationship, and it's a lot better that way. I was taught that love was about the guy being affectionate, when clearly after the honeymoon phase it's not realistic. It really isn't. It's not fair to have that unrealistic of expectations, for both men and women.
@storiesandsinker@xanga - Hahaha. True, true.
Thank God I'm not gay.
i think maybe this gave off the wrong idea, i didnt mean all guys are like this...just most of them and not that they had to spend tons of money and be rich...and i have no idea where the gay guy ccame in but that was a great take on it
yeahh that all started about 100 years ago
It is driving me mad. so i am gonna agree with this one
LAST LINE: "In my opinion, guys should be taught how to treat a girl rather than learning how to fuck a girl."
Agreed.
Wow, honestly, I am a male and I think you are 100% correct. I know this is 21 century and we are living in America, but seriously, why the hell all guys think about fucking a girl more than learning how to love, care, admire, cherish, trust, and protect a girl. Guys CAN'T even keep their hands off on their girlfriends' bodies for few seconds. But on the other hands, does it occur to you that girls do not want to "walk and talk and to get to know the person" too? maybe a few but these girls are hard to find nowadays. All in all, I think the movie twilight is overrated. No offense. But really, I think a girl and a guy should have an agreement first before starting a relationship, or date.
@storiesandsinker@xanga - good call lol
@bamxocandy@xanga - Yeah basically because girls let guys get in their pants before a solid relationship is built thats what someone will go for. or just because guys are good at manipulation. but i'm 20 still a virgin and have had 4 girlfriends, there is way too much emphasis on things that don't matter. Plus its not about flowers or whatever that makes a reltationship special, its how you feel about a person what you do when your with them and how they excitement they bring to your life which can be good or bad sometimes but thats what love and relationships are not some smooth sailing perfect ride. If you don't want to find guys that are just after sex then don't complain about it but focus on good guys or maybe just redefine exactly what a good guy is and don't base it off of some fictional character but rather things you like and want and look for that not the generalized ideal whatever. To prevent any misinterpretations this is a limited scope of my opinion on said topic it would take much longer to go into full detail but yeah so don't presume too much on that. Main goal is go for what matters to you personally not what is the generalized ideal perspective of a mate or lover or boyfriend or whatever it might be your after. And as a final note not even most guys are like said description just ones you've run into but maybe its your worry or complaints about them that brought them in the first place. Insert: what the bleep do we know ideas and topics, and law of attraction. This is meant to be subjective and observationally based not a personal attack just a response based upon what i read. (once again for the sake of avoiding misinterpretation and all that good stuff.)
I have one question about hollywood love stories. When a star finds love its usually with another star what are the chances its true love i mean finding your true love and they happen to be a star too. i think its publicity
I'm going to go ahead and disagree with this post and the entire thread.
You cited two examples (Twilight and The Notebook) and used that as backing for your hypothesis that love is inescapable in entertainment.
I can think of several of my favorite movies and books that don't have a central thread of romance at all.
Love is important in stories (where it shows up) because it's part of being human and also an important facet of relationships and their dynamics. It's not some plague or conspiracy. I could write a post saying "Violence Is Taking Over Our Society and Driving People Mad", or "Drugs Are Taking Over...", or "Car Chases Are...".
Well, there is also a category of people that just don't really give a damn about Love. Really, "Love" is just human nature telling us to reproduce and has been encoded within us since life began. Everything we do is to increase our chances of getting laid. In fact, I am convinced that sex, erm i mean love, is the only reason our world economy works.
Eh, I don't know; I don't pay much attention to society. I can't think of any time period, though, when guys just cared about the woman. At points they didn't care what she looked like, sure, but that's because they were getting a huge dowry for marrying her. Romance novels and movies sell because that's what women want. Sadly, women exist in reality rather than a novel. We can't expect guys to bring us flowers every day.
Even so, that'd perk up some allergies.
I like guys the way they are. I know to avoid a ton of them, but some of them are pretty chill.
It always seems to be about how the guy has to impress the girl. Like, that says we guys are born being inferior and have to make up for it. Gee, thanks.
I often wonder why all songs are about love [and the ones not about love are pretty rare/crappy] and I think it's because love is the one thing that nobody can guarantee. Whether rich or poor, strong or weak, love can't be controlled by anyone or anything [like money or fame]. So of course, it's human nature to want what we can't have. In this case, it's love and the power to control it. So we sing about it, sometimes heartily, other times scornfully, but nevertheless, singing and thinking about love.
And by the way, not all sex is just "fucking". Sometimes it's the highest form of romance for some, like actual "I want to be as close with you as possible" kinda stuff. It really is meaningful to some people.
TWILIGHT WAS FAIL! Why would ANYONE want to meet a guy who stalks them, takes the engine out of your CAR, and won't let you see your FRIENDS!? I have a feeling women just LOVE being abused..
I don't even watch movies anymore because they have to add romance into EVERYTHING! Horror movies, action movies, and comedies. I'm tired of it. Hell, romantic love wasn't even that big a deal until cinema came into play with their ridiculous love stories.
I believe in love, but not in "romantic" love. I mean, how the HELL does finding "the one" possibly HAPPEN in a world populated by BILLIONS of people!? Chances are, you're always going to find someone better than the person you're currently WITH.
People's views on love are distorted, and I personally blame the media with their messages of finding their "soul mate", spend a butt-load of money on a wedding, raise children, pay taxes, and in most cases: get a divorce and pay for money for the separation. I don't believe that human beings were meant to be with "one person". I doubt that we, as a species, were meant to mate for life. It's a chemical and primal thing, but what you read in books and watched in movies has blown love out of proportion. But that's just me.
P.S: Yes, I am a philophobe.
-Kunoichi
@KrazeeKunoichi009@xanga - I agree with everything but Twilight. I'm a fan of Jacob :) Edward. ugh. He really is a stalker/pedophile whatever.
It's true though, our perception of love is distorted and now we all crave it.
I'm not a fan of kids ( 14-16 ) saying they're 'in love' then breaking it off and finding someone new right away and now they're 'in love' with that person. I just don't see how that can be true. I think once you realise 'true love' exists you will always want it. You'll assume it is when it isn't. ( I've never been in love, so whatever ) I agree about the marriage thing too. I don't believe in spending thousands of dollars on one day, one ring, one dress only to be tied with legal papers. That's all marriage is. A piece of paper and a couple of rings. If you're really in love with someone, and they could be 'the one', just live common law. In all honesty, I'd like to be dating someone for the rest of my life knowing that they could leave at any time, but they choose to stay with me because they really love me. Some people might think there's something wrong with me, meh. Too often do you see the other person cheating, marriage won't stop it. Cheating happens in marriage too, so if people are getting married to prevent that, they're pretty naive. Sometimes marriages go sour, someone strays. One of them is unhappy but they don't want to leave 'because of the kids' or whatever. It just seems like too much to deal with.
that wasn't original title they changed it@Viserys@xanga -
'"Oh we're about to die, lets have a passionate kiss." I'm sorry, but I would care more about my life, than one kiss.'
Duh!? Who cares about what you care about? Everyone cares about different things... Also, it is better to be obsessed with love than to be obsessed with hate or other terrible things. What's wrong with that? Love is one of God's greatest gifts for humanity! Period.
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - Yes, and it is meaningful to me!!!
@DarkButtercup94@xanga - Man create this sort of reality, so, you can change it if both sides agree to work on it. When people say, "Get real!" I would say, "Then I will make this real!!!" Cool?