Think about this, if you will...
How many times have you seen a movie, read a book, or otherwise spied in third person, something that made you say, "Wow, I wish that would happen to me" Especially in the case of love...
"Oh I wish we would do that" or "I want to be kissed in the rain!"
This has been on my mind the last week after one such scenario played itself out. I've had this
idea planned in my mind for the last year and oh how great it was going to be! It involved me and a female companion with a similar agenda (completely non-sexual, I'd just rather not go into details)
I've seen my desired scenario multiple times in movies, and god I wanted it so bad. How exciting when I realized it was going to happen. This was it!
This was it!!!!!!
Then it happened.
It was good. It was fine. But ya know....my head didn't explode, the landscape burst into color or song, my life didn't flash before my eyes.
I honestly felt kind of let down. Maybe I need to do it again just to make sure? Oh woe was me.
Have you ever wanted something so bad, and built it up so high, that when you did eventually get it....it wasn't nearly as satisfying as you believed it to be? or have you seen something absolutely appealing, but when it actually happened in "first person" you were left unsatisfied?
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Sometimes, yes.
We all have fantasies, and for them to remain exciting, sometimes they should remain just that - fantasies.
That picture made me smile =)
And, yup, that has happened to me.. its like that for most cases though. I build stuff so high that one wrong move or even another right move might just make it all come down.
I always wanted to be kissed in the rain. When we did... it sure felt amazing
It was even better than the movies :3
It's happened to me before but that sometimes happenes. But kissing in the rain was amazing. =)
"I want to be kissed in the rain!"
wish it could happen to me
guess ill have to wait xP
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Agreed. Fantasies should stay as they are.
I prefer a more realistic approach.
And I've been kissed in a snowstorm, does that count?
Sex in the rain is amazing forget kissing the lightning and thunder makes it alll the while. i think everyone has been let down in some fantasy they've imagined and carried out. maybe you needed a better partner
For me:
Kissing in the rain - overrated.
First time sex - overrated.
The only things I've found that make the landscape technicolor are the little things; holding hands, cuddling in a non-romantic but still intimate way, sleeping over and in the same bed during the night, and simple shopping trips.
These sorts of things always make me feel like the luckiest person in the world. :)
@bukeshow@xanga - Sex in the rain...I'll have to remember this one. (And maybe with a new partner it'll work out better! )
@Mangonese@xanga - good point i'll agree
i have ever been kissed in the rain, it was a make up make out
after a major quarrel. lol
YES oh yes.. and the disappointment was pretty bad.
I've done that before, but now I manage to control myself.
Expectations, are the best way to a good ol' friend called disappointment.
I saw kissing lots of times in movies, but I didn't really have any kind of expectation for my first kiss. So when it happened, it was a totally different experience than I imagined from watching all those movies. It wasn't disappointing. And I liked it.
like kissing in general, until I found someone who was really good at it (;
I think you built it up in your head to be a 10 on a scale of 1 - 10. Expectations of that height often lead to let down, not to say you shouldn't aim high, just don't put so much value in things and try to keep those numbers close to earth rather than seated in a silver lined cloud.
Also, I too have been spoiled, tainted and jaded by the amazing stories in fiction. I always see how the things happen, and how it seems unlikely it would ever happen to me. I remember being 10, watching a movie with a sappy love hook to it, then realizing how hard Love and all the great things that came with it weren't going to come easy.
It happens all the time. To everyone. It's a simple nature of life. (Unfortunately :P)
there r lots of things in the movie that i want them to happen to me.
hrm...some did happen and yes, it wasnt as amazing as it was in the movie. others...ill have to wait and see =]
My first kiss was one of those "I can't wait until it happens" kinda things because I am 20. It first happened two months ago with my NOW boyfriend but the first one wasn't what I expected it to be at all. He was really good, and it was pretty romantic, but still not like the movies. Somehow since we've grown together a bit since then, kisses seem to get better each time they happen.. which is definitely not a let down.
I sat with my boyfriend at this nice park/pond last night and we sat and kissed while it poured rain. Now that was definitely amazing. Not overrated at all. ♥
if you dont have the chemistry or that "feeling" for someone that you're sharing your moment with, of course it's not going to be as AWESOME as you had imagined!!! i suggest to wait on it until you feel something special with someone before trying these "moments" out!!
The beauty is in the build-up :P
I guess it's sort of like other things in life... the journey and how you get there is much more valuable and exciting than the destination itself, as cliche as that may be.
absolutely. however I still dream of movie scenarios