Saturday, 20 June 2009
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Body Language Meaning More Than "Just Friends"?
So there's this guy I recently met in college that I think I find myself attracted to. I'm not sure if he feels the same way, but there are moments when I think he does. I think that his body language is one clue that he is interested in me.
For example, he strokes my hair, holds my shoulders, touches the palm of my back, etc. But I'm not totally sure what to make of all this, and I feel like I'm just stuck in that awkward position when you just don't know if there can be more than a friendship and if the feelings are reciprocated.
We're pretty good friends and I don't want to ruin that, but my gut feeling is that he MIGHT like me back. It's just hard to interpret his actions.
So what do you guys think about body language and just the overall clues/hints that guys give to show that they are attracted to you and want to be more than friends?
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This is so stupid. Flirt with him and see if he flirts back. If he doesn't have a girlfriend and he plays with your hair, and he's comfortable putting his arm around your shoulders, guess what?
Congratulations. There's a high probability that he's interested in being more than just friends with you.
oh girl i know what your going through!
I would think that he is attracted to you.
This's so hard to guess. maybe he's just flirting and wants to bed u.
He could just be a guy that likes to touch his friends... i have many of those but, its what your take on it is.
Seems like he could be interested. But beware, some people just touch people a lot. Try touching him casually like he does to you.
Step forward and ask him out. He likes you but figures you two are just friends or is not sure you are interested in him. So you both seem to like each other but neither is making a move. So make a move!
So I had this problem for a long while with a friend of mine. I was totally into him and I didn't know how to tell him or show it, because I'm terrible at those things. He would do things that I thought seemed like he liked me back and then some things that didn't seem like it. Then one night I ended up staying over and we stayed in the same bed, cuz friends can do that. Well ended up cuddling and well know we have a pretty sweet relationship going. ;D
I think you have to show him you're interested with some body language. Touch him a little more when you talk by grabbing his arm or touching his shoulder.
Just go for it and ask him.
It's your turn to make a move.
I have guys who do that to me all the time. Some of them even take it a step further and voluntarily give massages! Those are wonderful. But test the waters. Anything is possible.
It really seems like he likes you, but there's always a possibility where he doesn't. I don't know what you should do, but maybe just ask him out. Get feedback from his friends.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Agreed. Sometimes I don't get how people are so clueless to thinsg like this.
@babyglyniss@xanga - that was exactly my first thought
personally, i think he's a bit touchy.. but maybe that's just the way he acts to all his friends.. you'll want to keep your eyes open and make sure..
Some guys are quite touchy, so it's hard to say. You should just confront him.
Whoa okay unless he's gay, he wants you. If not emotionally, then at least physically.
My last boyfriend let me know that he wanted to date me by always touching me in a friendly way, but then letting his hand linger there. He'd pat my back but then caress it a little afterward.
The more obvious things he'd do would be to curl his entire body against me when we were sitting on a couch and to pull me onto him when he'd do that.
Body language is definitely a clue. I agree with those who said flirt with him, and see if he flirts back. He might just be really flirtatious, or he might be interested. hard to say...test it out.
Wow. He likes you, confront him.
@sozpa@xanga - aww, your comment made me smile. i imagined this poor kid being "confronted" like he stole from the cookie jar and getting all scared. but yeah, i think he likes her. :)
you never know... he might be asking someone else the same things about you... since he's being affectionate... why don't you try to show how affectionate you are, and I'm sure... just don't think of the future for now... but try to enjoy each other's company... then you'll see how things unfold naturally!
Can't hurry love... oh you just have to wait... love don't come easy... it's a game of give and take...
go ask him out on a date, see how it goes
Hmm well there was this guy I met in class, we talked all the time and I liked him tons...he flirted with me all the time in these touchy ways, so I thought he might like me. It turns out he never really saw me as girlfriend material (and that he's not looking for a girlfriend) but he and I are still good friends (with benefits...).
It's not good to assume things. Some guys are just touchy. I had a friend who liked to stroke my arm while he talked and when I told him to stop, he was fine with it. He didn't have feelings for me.
i think friendships are less likely to become broken and/or awkward when the girl says something to the guy, than vice-versa (specifically referring to when the feelings aren't reciprocated). girls seem to get creeped out whereas guys have more of the "whatevs" mentality.
in other words, go for it.
green light. go for it. (: