Friday, 19 June 2009
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Who Wears The Pants?
There are tons of talks about who wears the pants in the relationship. But what does this really mean? Is there supposed to be a dominant force in a relationship? or are both people supposed to make equal decisions? I know from my experience I definitely wear the pants in the relationship. I control what to do, where to eat and when it's time for "sexy time" if you know what I mean... (I'm talking about sex). For some, this is normal, but for others this may seem obscene.
For a relationship to function properly, decisions need to be made, otherwise you'd be lost in confusion and nothing will get done. Your significant other will think your indecisiveness is a sign of weakness and may slowly lose respect for you as the relationship continues. But control is not necessarily a good thing. If you become too "decisive" this may seem somewhat controlling or almost overbearing which is a sign of being a giant jerk.
Who wears the pants in your relationship? or do you both wear skirts? Hell, I'd like to be naked if could.
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No one wears the pants on Naked Sundays.
I have to wear the pants, because he's too nice. I think I'm about to take them off, though, 'cause these pants CHAFE and my shorts are calling.
@cd867@xanga - Haha! Agreed.
I wear the pants... I just can't take being the submissive...
My boyfriend wears the pant
I'm too indecisive 
but every once in a while, I'll make the decisions :]
i do :]
She does, I rip them off though.
We've only been together a month, and we're both EXTREMELY indecisive. It's very difficult for us to decide on simple thing such as where to eat. I've been making him make more decisions though by saying "no, you decide" haha.. I want him to take charge sometimes, but not to the point where it's controlling or where and my input is no longer valued. I'd like us to make decisions together, just with more decisiveness on both parts Although.. I can kind of get a glimpse based on our personalities, that I'll probably end up wearing the pants cause he's too nice and is very laid back. ♥
I wear the pants, and they're pink!
Nobody since I am single, but if I was in a relationship we would both wear the pants.
I wear the pants, a little too much sometimes.
My husband and I share responsibility as equally as we can. It's really hard sometimes, but we do the best we can.
i truly hate the phrase "wearing the pants" as it applies to having more power in the relationship. if one asks such a question, does one not already suggest that it should be the male because pants are traditionally male attire? it's terribly offensive, really.
i think most of the time i wear the pants. i jsut cant help it.
i dont mean to do it, and i dont think he minds taht much too..except maybe infront of his frnds..so i try to tone it down a bit
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - lol i totally agree with you. That why i never use that phrase
i usually let him think he's wearing the pants but i'm controlling every move....lol...why not, i'm the brains behind it all. it's true what they say right, behind every great man is a great woman.
both take control and when two members wears pants, then clashes happens, also, no one like to be with a control freak anyway.
whenever there's any hint of relationship for me, the guy is always much more shy and indecisive. not to mention nervous. why? well mostly it's because since i do speak up/have my own mind/whatever, they always assume that i'm gonna be the one taking care of things, making the decisions, and driving the relationship forward.
they can just be 'shy' and 'nice' and relax in the corner.
i never let these go anywhere though. i can't enjoy a relationship if he is dumping all the weight on me. personally, i think that men that are more active, decisive and capable of making good decisions (but not egotistic) are are much more attractive AND make for better partners. :D
sharing responsibilities? now that i can go for.
i do. he's a sweetie though. if he only asked, i'd gladly share them with him <3
until then, i rule the roost (:
We both do!
I've worn the pants in 3/4 serious relationships. last one was mostly my ex who wore it because he never really compromised... i'd just compromise because it saved time fretting about it. O_o I don't think it was a bad thing though, however I do detest indecisive, wishy-washy behavior so that's probably why I tend to take charge and make decisions, stick to it and see it through. except funny enough, in the bedroom, i was happy to pass on the controls of the reins to my partner.... i can't be in control ALL the time! lol
I think that my bf and I are pretty well even, actually. I tend to be the one who makes plans, because that's what I'm good at, and I make lots of decisions, but almost always after asking his imput. Furthermore, my bf is not one to take something he doesn't like sitting down. I'm a very outgoing and confident person, and I think it's the funniest thing ever when people tell me to 'make' my bf do something. I couldn't make him do something he didn't want to do if my life depended on it. Not to mention he's more than a foot taller than me and weighs half again as much as me... though it'd probably be hilarious to watch me try.
I wear the Overall's in my relationship. Because OVERALL i controll my relationship. Btw. I love this post. Whoever wrote this post is genius and if i could shake your hand i would. You're Awesome!
I make the decisions. He's too eager to please me. It's not a bad thing but sometimes I wish he'd just man-up and make the plans for once.
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We share the pants, but my boyfriend swears I keep his balls in my dresser....I think he put them there. :p