I have a slightly similar problem with my boyfriend, that being he has far more experience than I do. And to this day it still bothers me, especially when were in public and he happens to see an ex of his or girl he hooked up with. But the way I learned to deal with it is that he reassures me I'm the best he's ever had, and I trust him to tell me the truth. Seeing as how you plan to keep your virginity til marriage, you should be very thankful that he respects that. Most men would move on. However, if you're willing, perhaps you could do "other" forms of sex without intercourse. Just keep reminding yourself that if he cared about any of his priors, he wouldn't be with you. You obviously mean a lot to him, and they obviously mean nothing to him. Best of luck.

Because you mind you BF everything .... 

I've never been in the same situation, but if this were the case in my relationship, I would feel the same exact way. I would probably feel like sex wouldn't mean 'as much' to my boyfriend because it's something he's done before..and I'd feel like maybe he'd compare me to people he's been with before. I'm waiting for marriage too and I think I would just feel awakard with someone who wasn't a virgin..

me too.... i wanted to save it until marriage n seems like he doesnt understand it!! n he thinks i want to give it to another guy. just bcuz he had X number of times doesnt mean he should make u have sex wif him. so do u want to do, not him. if he cant even understand that, then he's not worth it x.x

I haven't experienced your situation before (my bf and I are both each other's first love), but I do intend to keep my virginity until marriage.  I you like the guy and you think he's worth it, then know that everyone has a past, whether it's pleasant or not.  Understand that people are not perfect, but he's with you now.  You are his present gf and that's all that really matters.  As long as you don't feel pressured and that he respects your values on sex, then it'll work out.  Don't feel as if you need to change your principles/values for him and if he really doesn't repect that, then he's not worth it.  But if he respects and loves you, then he'll understand.  If you are really bothered by it, then talk to him again, perhaps you're just curious and of course every gf wants to know about her bf.  Just pace yourself in your relationship and don't rush anything.  Part of a relationship is to get to know each other.

Remember, everyone has a past that can't be changed, but the present and future is what we should work for.

Coming from someone who has had bad experiences with sex, I don't think it's important to place so much emphasis on sex. I really respect that you are exercising your choice to have sex (my choice was taken away from me before I even knew I had it, if you know what I mean), but the reality of this world is that sex plays a big part in a relationship, even though it really shouldn't. It's hard to give you unbiased information, but in all honesty I think although waiting is a good idea in theory, there's really no point to it. I'm not saying to sleep with every person that comes your way, but I am saying that saving yourself for that ONE person may not be smart either. You have to find a balance.

my only suggestion, is hurry up and get married.

@lnc10@xanga - Well said. :)

I'm going to sound ridiculous but, oh well. When I was 15, I was in my first serious relationship with a 23 year old. I was a virgin and he was most definitely not. He never tried to pressure me, and never really got the chance since my parents wouldn't let us actually go "OUT". Even though there was no pressure, I felt like I was in a competition with all the women he used to be with, even though I had nothing to compete with in certain categories, such as sex and intimacy. We broke up, with me still being a virgin. As I got older, I felt like I HAD to have sex to come out on top of all the women my boyfriend had been with.

Then I realized, if I could manage to come out on top WITHOUT having sex, then I had to be much more of a woman than I imagined. That thought didn't last very long, seeing as how I am now the mother of a 5 month old at the age of 21, married and having another baby soon.

The only thing for you to do is to set limits for yourself. You cannot change his past just as he cannot change the way you feel. I actually talk to my husband ALOT about his sexual past, it's no longer awkward for us since we've been being very open about it [and I do mean VERY open.]

I don't know if I was of ANY help whatsoever, but just appreciate the relationship you have, hope he does the same and just do things in YOUR time. If he doesn't respect that in time, he doesn't deserve your time.

I am actually in a very similar situation, my (well, not exactly) boyfriend is very experienced. I honestly have no clue how many girls he's been with, and I don't think I want to know, but I know it's a whole lot. I was a virgin before I met him, and we actually talked a lot about what that would mean for each of us. He said that the only time he'd even been with a virgin was his first time - when he was a virgin himself. He said he wasn't sure if it would change the experience for me knowing that it wasn't his first time as well. I think knowing he was concerned about that help comfort me a bit. I also liked the fact that I never felt like he was pressuring me into anything.

I was never really concerned with not being good enough or him comparing me to other girls or anything like that, because he knew flat out that I had no clue what I was doing, and that I was a virgin, and all that. Now, he constantly tells me that I'm better then any girl he's ever been with (which very well could be a complete lie, and he's just trying to make me feel good about myself) and he tells me he actually kind of wishes that I'd been with someone else before - not for the emotional aspect that he was originally worried about, but because then I'd have something to compare it to so I could know how amazing it really is. Haha...

As far as keeping him happy, make sure it is very clear to him that you have no intention of sleeping with him - unless you get married that is. I'm assuming if you've gotten this far, you've had that conversation. Not give him any false hope that you might sleep with him, unless you actually change you mind and plan on it. He's with you because he wants to be with you. If he just wanted to sleep with you, he wouldn't still be with you. If he wasn't happy with you, he wouldn't still be with you. It's probably going to have to be an ongoing conversation, figure out what you are willing to do for him, physically, if anything, and let him know. But like I said, make sure he knows the boundaries. I don't think you're over reacting at all, it's normal to worry and to be curious, but you can't constantly worry about keeping him happy.

..Sorry for the novel. Good luck!

i dont think your overreacting cause i've felt the same way as well but it was for different for me cause it was just somebody i was dating at the time so it wasnt like he was my boyfriend.  i thought about why i felt that way and i ended up with a conclusion...jealousy.  i was jealous and insecure.  in my head i was picturing him with all these girls and it drove me crazy sometimes (privately).  im not saying you are as well but i was so in my personal opinion maybe thats why your feeling that way???.  everybody feels differently about things.  i respect that your a virgin though cause its rare these days among the sea of non-virgins.  you have nothing to worry about if he assures you, loves you and is willing to wait.  your just letting his "experiences" get the better of you.  your worried if you dont put out he'll leave??? people are tough to figure out.  haha.

I really get this. It just bugs me at the thought of my future husband having sex before(unless he was married before and that wife was the only one). It make me feel less special. Like I waited for him, but he couldn't wait for marriage. So it's like I'm the lesser one in the relationship. The one that means less to the other. That may sound crazy, but hey, it's not just me. I can see others feel that way also. If it bugs you enough, then you really need to talk to him. If it bugs you enough that even with talking it puts a strain on your relationship, and eventually, if ya'll got married, on that, then you need to move on. Resentment has no place in a relationship.