Sunday, 14 June 2009

• How to Find Love: Stop Looking!

  Miss Alligator
  
  The answer, in my mind, is simple. Don't look. I've found love in the most unexpected of places, at a time when seeking a relationship was the last thing I was trying to do. Here's my story.
  
  I first talked to my now-boyfriend via Facebook chat. I saw that he was in a group for future freshman at the college that we both now attend. I looked at his profile and saw that he was interested in photography. Seeking to make friends with people who had similar interests as I did, I Facebook chatted with him, and we talked about photography very briefly. That was it. I really didn't think much of it, as the conversation was nothing special.
  
  The first time we actually met was at my college's bookstore. He recognized me from Facebook and introduced himself. We talked for a few minutes. Again, it was nothing special. However, I did want to learn more about him, as I had noticed during this meeting that he and I had similar music taste. He was wearing a Neil Young t-shirt, which I thought to be cool, because I'm a big fan of Neil Young myself. I think it was at this point I became curious about him. I wanted to be his friend and learn more about him. He later told me that he felt the same way.
  
  I saw him again later that day, and I told him that there was going to be a photo club meeting and I was looking for someone to go with. We exchanged numbers so we could contact each other in case he decided he wanted to go. He texted me later, asking me where he could meet me so we could head to Photo Club. We went and learned about an opportunity to teach underprivileged kids photography. I love community service, so I was all for it. I was surprised and impressed when Nick also expressed interest in being involved. We ended up becoming friends through this experience. We started hanging out after the volunteering, instead of only while we volunteered. At this point, I felt certain that N and I would remain just friends. I didn't think I could see him as anything more. This was all happening while I hooked up with a couple of other guys. I wasn't necessarily even looking for anything more than just a guy to fool around with. (See my personal blog to read about those experiences.)
  
  However, we started spending more and more time together, both before and  after our volunteering. We started hanging out on weekends. One night during many of the weekends we began spending together, he ended up sleeping in the same bed as me one night, after some particularly fun illegal activities. I didn't think we'd wake up as cuddly as we did.l
  
  From then on, the line between friend and more began to blur as we became cuddle buddies. We'd hang out and just cuddle and talk. Nothing more, nothing less, in my mind. I think this was when feelings began to develop on his end. We'd been sleeping in the same beds as one another and cuddling the whole night for about four days. One morning, as I was about to head to class and he was going to go back to his dorm room, he kissed me on the forehead and told me how much he enjoyed my company. I thought nothing of it, because I am a clueless idiot :P After quite a few days of cuddling, I began to catch on to the fact that he might have feelings for me. So one day, we were cuddling, and he got a text from a friend, asking him if he wanted to play music with them. He said yeah, and left me in my bed. I was thinking. I can still very clearly feel the way his heart was beating quickly against mine, which was surprisingly, also beating fast. At that moment, I decided to take a risk. I was going to kiss him. I knew he'd never do it, so I was just going to do it and see what happened.
  
  I texted him a few minutes after he'd left, telling him that he'd left my heart beating fast and that he should come back soon. He came back and we got settled on my bed. We made small talk for a bit, then there was a silence. I pressed my lips against his for a few seconds and then pulled back. I think we were both pretty shocked. We kissed again, with more passion than before. Our lips parted, leaving us breathless. We smiled at each other, wondering what in the hell we'd started.
  
  This was about eight months ago. We've been together ever since, and I couldn't be happier. This guy who I always thought would remain just a friend turned into an amazing boyfriend (as well as one of my best friends) when I least expected it. I'm so glad it did :]
  
  Has anyone else found that not looking for love is the best way to find it? What do you think the best way to go about finding love is?

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