Sunday, 14 June 2009
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I'm Too Chicken to Get His Online Contacts
I was on the phone with my friend Jon yesterday telling him about my most recent interest, Jason.I said, "Jon, I met Jason two years ago, and we didn't add each other to Facebook then. Now Jason and I met again after not having seen each other for two years, and we still haven't added each other. Does that mean he's not interested in being my friend?"
Jon replied with, "Not necessarily. It could mean the opposite."
I'm 23 years old, and I'm too chicken to get Jason's online contacts. And he's 20. Lame. I was not too chicken to get a cell number, though. I mean next time I see him, I plan on asking, but not sure what to do about this online business.
I guess I could see what Jon meant because I had met another guy not too long ago, we'll call him Joe. Joe and I talked the whole night one night, and we hung out again the next day after we first met each other.
Joe actually added me to Facebook this time when I first met him so I got excited thinking that he could be interested in me, but I haven't really hung out with him since that time a month ago. I hang out with his brother more (we are just friends), but not Joe himself. So just because someone added me to Facebook doesn't mean anything either.
Isn't it sad nowadays people are thinking that online friendship requests mean that so-and-so could like so-and-so and whatnot?
Is there anyone out there who meets people the old-fashioned way and doesn't care whether or not people add each other online?
What would you do if you ran into someone who had rejected you online; how would you react in person if you saw them again?
I've had several people who used to be on my friends list, but then they removed me, and I ran into them again and I still talked to them as though what happened online didn't matter.
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If someone doesn't send you a friend request as soon as they get home after meeting you, even if they seem to like you when they meet you, it automatically means they don't like you for more than a friend. Everyone knows that.
WOW whats with this facebook and taken it to the extreme? so its like if someone doesnt add u to there contact list it means they dont like u? are u kidding me. facebook needs to be shut down because poeple revolve there lives around the damn thing way to much my goodness.
honestly this is kind of pathetic.
OMG i TOTALLY know what you're talking about!!
Whenver I delete a friend from my facebook, I NEVER talk to them again. It's OVER.
This is a strange world we live in....
you're really overthinking this
maybe he doesn't use facebook much.
just add him if you want.
you can play games if you want to, but nobody can tell you what the rules are. who cares, add him.
Facebook "friendship" is meaningless in the real world. I don't care for or know some of my "friends." People put waaaaay too much relational gravity on Facebook.
really? really, now? this is what the world has come down to? what are we? still in high school?
I add people I know that I will talk to (well hopefully) or when I need to contact them and have no other way (I don't have a cell phone
). I will almost always accept a friend request from someone I know- but if I have never seen them before... I write a message to that person, lol. I've had people delete me as friends- and re-add me later when we start talking again. I've been deleted quite a few times- but the people that delete me aren't really important.
honestly i wouldn't know. i've never met anyone online before but i guess i wouldn't be afraid to ask just to be friends.
Isn't it sad nowadays people are thinking that online friendship requests mean that so-and-so could like so-and-so and whatnot? yes, you're pathetic
Is there anyone out there who meets people the old-fashioned way and doesn't care whether or not people add each other online? yes, there are, believe it or not, get out of your bubble, welcome to the real world
What would you do if you ran into someone who had rejected you online; how would you react in person if you saw them again? i'd act as if i'd met them previously, and act accordingly
Life happens in the real world, not online. Start living in the real world and stop caring about what happens online.
I never notice if I'm deleted or anything because I don't care. I talk to people who have a facebook or a myspace and they've never added me nor I them. Again, not caring.
If you want to be Facebook friends with him then add him. Quit being a chicken about it. Just do it. If you want to know if he likes you then ask him straight up. That is the only way to know for sure. Don't do that high school dating game bullshit.
just add him. most people add pretty much everybody who sends them something, as long as they have at least a vague knowledge of who the person is. or sometimes they just add everybody.
FB isn't that big of a deal. Some people don't care for it and see it as impersonal. While it could be that he's not interested, he may think he's complimenting you in his head because he isn't stooping so low as to not talk to you to your face.
I love all the people calling me pathetic for my post when I already mentioned IN MY POST that I was being lame about this whole thing.
For those who actually responded and answered my questions instead of calling me pathetic and NOT answering any of my questions...Kudos, thanks. :)
Who are the mature people again? For those calling me immature, and not answering my questions at all, you're just as immature as I am.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - It's always either that, or they want to catch you on fire.
@tubbz87 - you could be right, but i'm not sure, exactly though@UnopenedSuitcases@xanga - @jebdereb14@xanga - @quicksandbuddy@xanga - @joycemiles@xanga - @mewithoutu77@xanga -
thanks for answering the questions in a civil manner.
and if i forgot anyone else, sorry. these are the types of responses i was looking for. not responses calling my post pathetic when i already know the obvious *rolls eyes*
@StandUp2Life@xanga -
You would never be my friend on Myspace.
@himynameislucky@xanga - ...and why is that?
If it means that much to you, you could always add him. Facebook is pretty much ... if he knows you, he'll add you. You don't have to see him face to face or anything, so you shouldn't worry that much.
Maybe he didn't add you because he doesn't go on facebook at all?
lol you have a lot of friends with names beginning with 'J'.
my god, u think too much..
it doesnt mean anything, add or not add. even if men add u, it doesnt neccessarily mean they are interested. when men are interested in you, they will do whatever to hunt u down. u dont have to do anything, and you dont have to worry about anything
Hmm. I see.
Nowadays, if you're interested in someone, add them on Facebook.
Too many people depend on Facebook. *sigh*
Has Facebook become a social dating service now?