There is no way you can get a guy to like you. NO WAY whatsoever.
@lar - I agree. Honestly, who would want to date you? I personally dislike high maintenance girls. @deepcreekkid@xanga - agreed.
@englishpearl@xanga - strongly agreed.
@charmed_by_u327@xanga - Haha, it is clearly a game for her.
@XAngelExpress31X@xanga - Indeed.
@spanz@xanga - Thank you for putting out the word "psyco." I was looking for a perfect word to describe her.
@graywolf0@xanga - HAHAHA true.
@TheKiwiIntoxication@xanga - High maintenance? I think she is a super high maintenance girl.

I don't care if I go out with someone and they watch porn, heck I'll watch it with them. I'd rather it be porn than a real person they get with if I'm not available. :)

it sounds extreme and harsh...

@natashasmells@xanga - She's married.

And she said these are their rules that they agreed on. I think calling her controlling is unnecessary.

You sound like a bitch.

I have a few rules for myself, but they are pretty basic: no married men, no men who are otherwise taken, no sex until both of us feel ready to start that aspect of the relationship (and I am not ready until I feel the other aspects of the relationship are established), no staying with someone who doesn't respect my feelings. As to who calls first or who says I love you first, it doesn't matter. The person who goes first is risking rejection no matter what gender they are. Why is it so much worse if the woman is rejected than if the man is rejected? It hurts both just as much, I'm sure. If a person of either gender expects to be successful in a relationship, they have to be strong enough to know that rejection might suck, but it's not going to kill them.

@xthread@xanga - I actually think #4 comes off as more of a control and power issue. As if the first three didn't. 

I totally used to have those rules, and the guys that passed these rules treated me nicely. I recently got out of a relationship and I think the next time around though I think I'll be a little nicer, a little more easygoing. I'll have these rules for myself but be really nice about them, a little more flexible. Remember, relationships are supposed to be fun and add value to both of your lives..if he feels like he's got a million rules he's going to stop enjoying the relationship. 

Isn't it one's rightful wish to want what she wants in her life?

I agree with all of them except number 4. To me this I-love-you thing is so exaggerated.

1. The Ex Factor
I'm the same way, except that I haven't imposed it on my current romantic interest yet, but I might soon. She was emotionally cheating on me recently.

3. The Phone Factor
6 months, hmm. I think by that time, most couples are intimate with each other to some degree so I'm not sure what you would gain by holding out on the phone calls...

1 the ex factor -- you're fucked up in the head to think that long time personal relationships are just going to have to stop because someone is dating you. if im dating someone whose to say it will last? will i have just ruined a possible lifetime friendship with an amazing person by cutting off ties with them just because you say so? this has many variables... me being controlled like that is a no-no. You're looking for someone who'll be hen packed you're going to be lonely for a long time. I have exgfs from high school that i still talk to to this day and that was like 7 years ago. I could see if i were still banging them, then itd be a no-brainer. But after marriage this is semi plausible.. but during the dating process.. fuck you.

2 the porn factor -- ahahah, you're clearly sore about being verbally curb stomped in the LAST conversation about porn. its ok baby, lick those wounds. as long as you're handling YOUR business by handling HIM then he wont even want to LOOK at anything BUT you. Marinate on THAT :D

3 the phone factor -- you want him to NOT look at porn, NOT talk to exes whom might be his closest friends, but you're not going to even meet him half way and make him do ALL of the calling? you're a real piece of work, and I doubt you're hot/smart enough to pull that off with anyone much less convince someone who's genuinely into you to dehumanize themselves by being your lap dog.

4 the "<3U" factor -- ehhhh, depends on the girl. but from reading your other "rules" i can imagine a dude, putting up with YOU, confusing love with obedience/obsession from going insane by your conditioning.

5 the other plans factor -- so if you're not available that's fine, but if you ARE, fake like you AREN'T? You haven't been in many successful relationships have you. The way you "play the game" will just make the guy go into stealth mode and get what he needs elsewhere and just look at you as a challenge and he'll start to play your same game back at you harder... check your man, he might already be doing this. Maybe he goes to a dungeon once a month and plays dominatrix with some young philly to get his frustrations from you out. (edit)...wow, that was harsh, I apologize.

Be it from him being tired of you and your games, or him dating other people while youre pretending you're too busy to go out, don't love him, not calling him, forbidding him from watching porn, and not talking to his exes in any way shape form or fashion.

Seems you werent even looking for love -- seems you were looking for a man-sized dog that you're training so not to get your heart broken when all those rules fly out of the window. ...your rules aren't how one finds love, its how they push love away allowing people to adore/worship THEM, but little mutual sharing of love at all.

And the fact that there are people here agree with you...  Its like you all WANT to control every aspect of another person's life as if you're this AMAZING PRIZE to be had writing that other person off as being YOUR prize. And someone who adhered to your rules MARRIED you? Now im depressed. Poor castrated husband.

Except for the "other plans" factor, i really disagree. I'm friends with some exes because I grew and learned something valuable from them. Porn is not necessarily about watching a person in the act, but more about the act and fantasy itself. (on that note, I would thank porn for those moves that your man - or woman - might throw out of left field). I somewhat agree about the phone factor, however, everybody enjoys a self esteem boosting text message from now on. When it comes to phone calls, it is not about quantity, but quality. Whereas women tend to just want to hear that a man wants to call them and listen to them, men prefer phone calls that don't begin with "so...what are you doing". When it comes to saying I love you, there comes a time when the bond is so strong, that the words are inevitable. If you question the opposite sex's reaction to that statement, and fear the repercussions, it is probably not love - Love needs to be comfortable enough to where emotions can exchange freely.