My husband (still not used to saying that) had his bachelor party two weeks ago.  He went out with his buddies, went to Dave and Busters for videogames, won a life-sized Spiderman, and carried him around to bars.  No kissing, no strip clubs, just a whole lot of drinking and a whole lot of fun.  I think there's nothing wrong with bachelor parties...as long as the guys remember that in a day or a week or whatever they are getting married and, really, haven't been truly single for a while.  Now personally?  I would have had no issue with my husband going to a strip club for his bachelor party, because it would have been funny.  He hates strip clubs, and it would have made for a good story.  But if they really are going just to ogle the women, that's something a little different.  I'd have had a fit if he'd kissed anyone.  At my own bachelorette party, a couple of the "challenges" in the game my friends got me asked me to kiss a random guy.  And I made them throw those types of challenges out.  I think that's cheating and it would have reeeally bothered me.

But that's just me.  I did have a guy "kiss" me by putting his hand over my mouth and kissing his hand, then.  It was a surprise (I wasn't expecting some guy to come up and do that) and I couldn't get away from it, but I'm sure it made for a funny picture.  On the other hand, if he'd really kissed me, I'd have decked him.

So anyway...bachelor/bachelorette parties yay!  Kissing at them, no way!

-Katie

well i just don't want to know about it... so yeah lol

Yeah thats shitty. assuming your adventure/wild days are over when you get married is a myth and only comes to fruition when couples LET it happen. They aren't OVER, per say, they just change.

If i were engaged and found out my girl made out with some dude, be it a stripper or otherwise, or she blew some dude with whipped cream behind a towel in a room full of her friends and strangers(youve seen those videos online of bachelorette parties, dont front) then that'd be a deal breaker. Game over.

And every woman should hold that same logic. When you're unaware of your friends getting a stripper for you its slightly different(and selfish; when your friends get YOU a stripper, they're really getting THEMSLVES a stripper), but if you just say fuck it and let them dry hump you as you kiss and feel them up that's really really fucked up and blatant disrespect towards the love you claim to have for your future wife/husband. And if your partner gets mad at YOU for getting mad at THEM like its not a big deal then they clearly arent serious about monogamy and this should be a sign for how things might be later. But in the defense of MEN, women tend to be a little wilder at strip clubs because they dont fear the bouncers beating their ass and throwing them out for getting too friendly with the performers. Men behave in order to keep a full set of teeth in their mouths(ive heard stories and seen home videos.. shocking to say the least)... but at the same time, women are pickier and are more likely to be grossed out by the random dude than turned on.

If it is talked over and you two have an understanding and set rules and everybody is genuinely cool with the idea then I can see it being ok maybe? ...I dunno, im years & years away from having to make that decision so who knows. But in my mind as of right now, that shit aint cool.

@akatiegirl - thats super cute, congrats on your marriage.
Id much rather have a party like that of going out not having to check in running around being a nerd and doing uber nerdly things and getting drunk(or high as fuck hahaha) maybe spray paint some buildings-a little vandalism, hit a concert, see a ufc match -- other than do some questionable things with some questionable people that might hurt my relationship and possibly be involved in something that'd cancel my wedding/fuck up my relationship.

Thanks, Kruncha, you beat me too it.

Nicholas is a huge hopeless romantic, but he raises some good points.

However, I agree most with tokyoexpressman.  Nobody ever said a bachelor party has to include naked women and debauchery, nor must a bachelorette party entail the bride-to-be carrying around a large inflatable penis (although it sure is funny to see).  It's all about celebrating the huge step you're about to take in your life with your closest guy friends.  Not sure where he gets the idea that hanging out with friends sans spouse is forbidden post marriage though.

I'll be getting married in under two months and my fiance and I will each be celebrating with bachelor/bachelorette parties.  No, I will not make out with any girls, nor will I rape a stripper.  I'll save the "Hurrah" for the wedding night...

i dont get why they call it your 'last night as a single man', because if your engaged, your obviously in a relationship, and not single

@sexycalihair@xanga - I'll repeat myself. Everyone pronounces it as "hurr- AHH" and "nn- awww". No one pronounces it as "hurr- awwwww". And you learned rhymes in 5th grade? I thought that was like kindergarten nursery shit.