(excuse the rhyme. I couldn't resist.)
I've gotten sucked into Paris Hilton's My New BFF (before you judge, you should really watch an episode - it's cheesy, reality TV spoofing fun) and the last episode I saw had a pretty interesting question at hand.
Party girl Arika, along with the other potential BFFs, was asked to throw a bachelor party for Paris' friend. Everyone's drinking (a lot) and having a good time, but near the end of the night, Bachelor is being goaded to kiss someone and Arika says "okay!". They make out for an uncomfortably long amount of time and the other PBFFs are not pleased by her antics.
Arika insists that she just wanted to make sure Bachelor had a good time, whereas Bachelor's fiancée, who was conveniently invited to the show, says it's cheating and that what she did was over the line.
spoiler alert (highlight text if you want to see):
Arika was eliminated. OH SNAP!I've never been to a bachelor party, so I don't know what goes on and if it's typical to make out with chicks, but I don't know which side I stand on. On the one hand, it really is your last hurrah as a single person and you should be able to have a good time, but on the other hand, I do think that's cheating and totally inexcusable, especially when you're going to get married so soon afterward.
Is it cheating to make out with a girl at a bachelor party? Also, if you've been to this kind of shindig, tell us what goes on so we don't have to rely on TV to further our preconceptions.
Comments (38)
I think it is. When people get married, they're mature adults. If guys view it as "entrapment" or something, then why get married? I've seen videos of bachelor parties & they do go way too far sometimes. Not ALL guys do it, but it's a wonder the ones who did take it over the line got married at all.
Making out with someone else when you're supposed to be getting married is unacceptable.
it's def cheating whether it's a girl or a guy that you're kissing.
Definititely cheating. Although I saw this episode and I thought more blame should go to the guy then Arika, he was asking people to make out with him! If I heard my fiancee did that, I would be mad angry!
not only is it cheating, it's stupid. as the first commentor said, if they feel like they need "one LAST hurrah", then why are they imprisoning themselves? my husband and i have had more fun since we got married- not less. it's pretty childish to say, "well, it's my last night as a free guy/girl, i should be able to do whatever i want and experience one more useless hookup before i serve my time." anyone with that attitude needs to spend some serious time considering if they're mature enough to handle marriage. to me, if you're already to the point of marrying a person, it should be because you're completely in love with them and want to spend your life making theirs better because they do the same for you. does that sound like a situation where it's even appetizing to be fooling around with someone else hours before you say "i do"? this is part of the problem with living in a culture where sex is a cheap thrill instead of a beautiful, intense, innately sacred connection with another human being. but i digress. i'll keep that soap box for another day. haha.
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Honestly me being 19 as of now, I could marry and feel satisfied never having to touch another girl again. And rest assured, I have no desire to go to a Bachelor party nor have my own when the time arrives. I think marriage for a lot of men (and women) is kind of like this stepping up situation, not a total soul bonding experience. Finish HS go to a College get a boring job, than get married and so on. Just another link in this modern societies "planned life". My opinion, and yes I did not lay it down in its entirety. Why have a last "hurrah" when in fact, at least for a fellow like me, marriage, or better yet, the love between her and myself, is the hurrah feeling, the most extraordinary sense to be felt, and lived. In other words, goading around with a cheap whore for the night to celebrate my marriage is not the ideal way for me. More like wine, candles, and a sunrise on the beach with my love.
"ab imo pectore"@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - exactly! if you view marriage as "game over," then just don't get married. but don't make out with people under the guise of having a last hurrah.
It's cheating and you still have a fiance during your bachelor party, doesn't exclude anything what so ever.
to me, you're not really single. even if you're not married yet, you're still in a relationship. making out with a random girl is not ok with me if you're seeing someone!
how the fuck does "hurrah" and "naw" rhyme?
Yes it's cheating, and it's also a good way to become single again. You are not single before you get married in my eyes. You may claim single on your taxes, but that doesn't mean you can do whatever you want to with a member of the opposite sex. My husband and I had our 'pre-wedding party' together with our wedding party members and we had a blast. At the time, we were more comfortable being together and it wouldn't have been as fun if we would have went out alone with just our guy/girl friends.
It depends on what your definition of "single" is. Unless the groom and bride-to-be are in an arranged marriage situation, one could assume they've been dating. Which means he's not single, which means he is NOT free to make out with random chicks, no matter how drunk he is.
I'm confused. Aren't bachelor parties supposed to be for the guys? I didn't realize women were generally invited to bachelor parties, unless they were getting paid for providing entertainment...
Ladies and gentlemen, that's the power of Yellow Fever. A guy will make out with an Asian chick even when his gf is watching.
And a lot worse happens at bachelor parties than kissing (if they are done right). Afterall, the bachelor party is the highlight of marriages in the first place (that and open bar). What's the point of getting married if you don't have one?
@t_zie@xanga - Haha, oh my gosh.
That guy shouldn't of made out with the girl. That's stupid. Even my boyfriend thinks bachelor parties are stupid because you are NOT single for one last night. You haven't been single for a long time before that. Jeez. Such a stupid concept.
@t_zie@xanga - That's what I thought. I actually said it out loud.
seriously though, who wrote this topic?
@KasumiCelesta@xanga - I agree.
The worse case I've seen of a bachelor party was from the movie The Player's Club where a stripper was raped by the bachelor himself. Thankfully that was only a movie and not real life but it was still really really bad-so much so that his friends left the party once they heard him raping the stripper. On a lighter note, a friend of mine didn't have a typical bachelor party when I went to his wedding the same weekend-we just hung out with a couple of his close friends and went to the movies.
If you're the bachelor at a bachelor party, you aren't single. In fact, the terms used for this kind of party are ridiculous. The guy (or girl; but I'm going to say guy for just.. eh, lazy) has been in a relationship for quite some time, obviously, because he's going to get married. This goes to say that, "Hey, he's not single, and he hasn't been for x months / years; we're getting MARRIED!"
I mean, the term "bachelor" and "bachelor party" are way wrong. He's not single, he's taken; very taken.
It is definitely cheating to make out with anyone at one of those things, or anywhere else for that matter, when in any kind of relationship. Since they're getting married, I'd say that's a pretty major relationship. Cheating, yes. They can't party like they're single anymore because.. oh, they aren't. Just 'cause they get married doesn't mean they were single until they said their vows.
Okay, so you're single. Legally speaking anyway, but if you're about to get married in x amount of days or weeks then you are clearly in a committed relationship. If you've already committed yourself to someone, then making out with some chick (or dude) at your bachelor (or bachelorette) party is clearly out of bounds and is definitely cheating.
@follow_home@xanga - DAMN. AMEN!
@Nicholas Tracy - HOLY SHIT. I'm totally quoting your entire response on my site. You sound way too good to be of male gender. Wow, i'll make sure my boyfriend reads what you wrote as well. Ha ha ha.
I'm fine with bachelor parties, have been to one, and plan on having one of my own, but making out with some girl is definitely crossing the line. You're not single, so don't act like you are; the real point of a bachelor party is to have one final night of bonding with the boys because once you're married, your responsibilities and lifestyle don't allow you to have the same sort of freedom that you had before you tied the knot.
And yeah, girls aren't supposed to be at bachelor parties anyways. I wouldn't even want strippers, I just want a night with the guys where we can all sit around, get hammered drunk, and just kick it.
ugh... so much make up...(regarding the picture).
Basically what most people said before me would be my response.