Saturday, 13 June 2009
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I Have A Problem with Cheating
I was dating a guy for about a month. I was absolutely head-over-heels in love right off the bad. He was the perfect boyfriend I'd always wanted; we cuddled and watched movies together, smoked the reefer together, and showered together. Not to mention it was the best fucking sex of my whole life. The problem is is that I have a problem with cheating.I cheated on my last boyfriend in January for revenge since he always accused me of cheating when I didn't, then out of habit I cheated again on my other boyfriend in March and again on this recent one. I felt completely bad about it and I didn't know what I was thinking; I didn't sleep with the people I cheated on him with. The first was his best friend who was all coked out and wouldn't leave me alone; he kept on persisting so I gave in and gave a quick handjob then he fell asleep and left me alone. Then I kissed my guy friend when I was wasted. Before he even found out, I promised myself that this was the last straw and I wouldn't cheat anymore because this guy is amazing.
We had a six hour talk when he broke up with me; he totally changed my outlook on relationships and I haven't been with anyone since we broke up because I am trying to make it better.
My question is if this is really worth it? I mean we still have sex and cuddle then he will turn around and be a straight up douchebag out of nowhere. This is really toying with my feelings; I am trying to show him I've changed and that I've can make it work between us. I don't know if he will give me another chance though.
Should I let go? Should I continue trying to get him back? I need advice.
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- From: mindyeat@xanga
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let it go seriously. you made a mistake and the way he has been treating you means that his whole view of you has changed and probably wont change back and forgive. Even if he does forgive, he wont forget and that just ruins the whole relationship.
You screwed up the relationship and there's no going back. You live and learn. Take is as a life lesson that you can't go fucking around and expect everything to still be okay. Move on and do better next time.
Let it go.
IF he learns to trust you and forget what's behind and just focus on the relationship now- then you should be fine. It's hard though, especially when you've cheated more than once. But maybe he will learn to trust you since you have had a change of mind ;) I hope it works out.
I think there's a good chance that he's so bitter about what you've done that he has no intention of ever letting you off the hook. I'm willing to bet that what comes off as douche-baggery may be a representation of his lack of control in the first attempt at a relationship.
He's right, you were at fault, but in trying to make something work, he could at least give you the decency to try. If he can't manage to stop lording over you, then I would move on.
He may not appreciate you as a changed person, but I bet that someone else will.
you screwed up, and honestly i highly doubt it'll ever go back to the way it was. look if he keeps talking about it and wouldn't let that fact go, then it's obvious he's not ready to let it go. so you should
I don't think you deserve to be with him.
What everyone else has already said.
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@ViciousGrin63@xanga - I agree. You cheated "out of habit"?? No guy deserves to have that done to him. I think you have issues you have to address as a person before you can think about addressing the issues you have with your partner.
And looking at your recap of cheating incidents...maybe you should think about avoiding potentially awkward situations where you/another person are on drugs or drinking alcohol, and perhaps you can avoid a repeat performance of bad decisions.
Let it go and clean up your act. And get some better friends.
I would let it go. Personally, if someone cheated on me, I could forgive them but I'd never want to give things another chance with them. I wouldn't be able to trust them. So just learn not to do that anymore..because you really can't go and mess around with whoever you want and expect someone else to keep giving you chances..
Stay celibate for a long time. Clear your head. Clear your heart. Don't get emotionally involved with anyone until everything (your head and heart) matches. Thought matches action and action matches your thoughts.
Do this for you and for others.
Let it go. Move on and take your lessons with you. Don't toy with your emotions. Find someone better and don't commit the same mistakes.
Let him go and be with someone that wont cheat on him when things were as amazing as you say, I'm sorry to say that i don't think you deserve him. His view of you clearly isn't the same and when he turns on you he's probably just trying to get back at you for how you messed things up. Just my opinion.
Learn to treat yourself better and to respect the potential S.O of the relationships before you move on to the next one.
@ViciousGrin63@xanga - I agree. :\
Let him go and find someone new.
You don't deserve him.
And before you go on to the next guy change yourself, get new friends, and don't cheat.
you need to let it go and figure out what you really want. please don't take it the wrong way, but i'm not sure you're really ready to be in a relationship. my thoughts on cheating is that once that person does it, it could happen again.
He deserves better than you. If you care about him you'll realize that and let him go. Maybe you should date someone that will cheat on you, so that you can see how horrible that feels. Is repeat cheating a "habit"? Self-absorbed people like you disgust me..
@ViciousGrin63@xanga - its true but ouch
hearing it hurts lol
@ViciousGrin63@xanga - True that.