(And yes, a little bit of a pun is intended...)
- It can give men false hopes and expectations. Most women don't have 32FFF's with nipples the size of Texas. Most of us aren't that dramatically loud all the time, and if we are, you might want to re-think why that is. Most of us are also not into being treated as objects you can bang the life out of before you, ahem, climax in our face... but again, I did say most
- The men of porn are so...unattractive most of the time. Maybe I shouldn't be writing this with what little porn watching experience I have, but it seems to me like most typical porn is with a super hideous dude. I mean, the most famous male porn star looks like this:
... Woah. Need I say more?
- It really is cheating. I know, controversial, right? How can it be cheating if you're not actually having sex with this person? Lots of people say it's not cheating as long as you know about it. Last time I checked, if someone's husband stepped out with the nanny - whether or not the wife knew about it - it was cheating. I'm sorry, but you're lusting over someone so much that you're actually acting on it with yourself... and that's cheating in my book. If you're in a relationship, porn should be a no-no, even if it is together. Sure, some people are swingers and consider it not cheating, but I constantly go back to the nanny situation already mentioned.
- It makes a lot of us self conscious and lacking. How could it not? We don't really look like these girls that are so wanted and lusted after. We don't really act like them, either. We want to be what you fantasize over, and we want to be enough to fill that fantasy. We want to be enough. If you need/want porn, we're clearly not enough. It's not being weak to feel like that, either. Lots of girls will act like they like porn - and are okay with their man watching it alone or together - because they want to be a "cool" chick. (The same reason girls in bars will kiss their girlfriends.)
In the end, it's still a desire to be the only thing you want... no matter the cost sometimes.
So there you have it - just a few reasons I don't like pornography. Did I miss anything important in this post? I'm sure a lot of you disagree with what I've said, but if we all agreed all the time, the world would be a boring place, no?
ed's note: we had to call it pr0n in the title because Google is a prude.
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i certainly have to agree with what you said
I don't think it should be considered cheating. It's like, watching a movie with steamy scenes. Except...every scene is steamy :P
The rest of the points you made, I agree with. However, that doesn't mean I think porn is all bad. I think it's fine, in moderation.
imho, porn doesn´t suck, and it isn´t cheating at all. it´s just fantasy (not real). sure, it makes some people insecure about their bodies, and most of it is just so boring and fake, that´s why me and my boyfriend don´t like mainstream porn. both of us don´t believe in monogamy, so we don´t care if one of us considers another person atractive as long as he tells the other one about it.
some women might like porn because they are pressured into doing it, but there are others who actually like it. and as far as treating women as objects, i don´t think so. why is everyone saying that porn objectifies women, and they don´t say that it objectifies men and/or promotes violence againts them?
I really don't agree with this. Maybe it's not for you, but many women have no issue with it.
I would like to mention, before we get all "This doesn't represent every woman" that I wrote A woman on purpose, to suggest that it is MY opinion, not everyone's. Carry on!
I hope you aren't one of those girls who gets mad when your guy happens to look at another hot girl in public. From this post, you sure sound like it, and if you are, I feel sorry for you and your future romances.
I think some porn's acceptable. It's the overdoing it and the content that should be looked at. There's something wrong if kids or animals are in the videos.
@youaintjam@xanga - Haha, bummer that a post about not liking porn is likened to not being okay with seeing an attractive person. No, I'm not that kind of girl. And I'm already married.
@cd867@xanga - If it's your opinion, be careful not to use the word "we" so often when referring to what you want. Example "We don't really act like them, either. We want to be what you fantasize over, and we want to be enough to fill that fantasy."
Great thoughts. Our culture has made sex a purely physical act, while completely ignoring the social and emotional aspects of it. Sex is supposed to be a self-less act, but porn makes it completely selfish. People watch it purely for their own gratification, and both the actors/actresses and producers make it for their own financial gain.
I don't really agree that its cheating. In fact I think women who fret over their husbands watching porn are just a tad bit annoying. If that were the case then I guess you shouldn't be allowed to read those cheesy romance novels that depict sex scenes. The only time you should be worried is if the amount of porn your spouse watches is a unnaturally large amount or if they get obsessive.
I don't really see porn as treating women as objects. Women go into porn knowing exactly what it is. And as for the videos, if you're watching porn its for the sex. They aren't going to add half an hour of date nights and romanticizing. They're going to get to business and give you what you asked for! lol
@youaintjam@xanga - We - the people that feel the same way I do - do feel that way. I didn't say "all of us."
The male porn stars are usually hideous because, even though they happen to be there, the general idea society places is that porn is geared towards a hetero male audience or at least, an audience that is more or less there to see the female in action. Doesn't really matter what the guy looks like, he's just there to help facilitate.
I personally don't have a problem with porn. It can be an outlet for desires, some that may be deviant by societal or even a partner's standards (rape fantasies, BDSM, etc.), and of course, the cheating debate is all very individual. Some would make the argument the OP has, some others would say porn could redirect cheating without the need to seek the actual physicality of someone else to have sex with through that kind of voyeurism.
When it comes to the last point, I have to say that it's very sociological. That's like saying we shouldn't watch movies with Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, Jessica Alba, or Johnny Depp because they're so gorgeous - how can we possibly live up to those looks and that sort of success? So too, we can't live up to porn star looks and mind-blowing, decibel out scaling, full-body-convulsing multiple orgasms. As a whole, people need to realize that a lot of porn is staged and unrealistic and all for the camera. If people know well enough to realize that Narnia isn't a real place, despite how awesome it looked in a movie, they should be able to realize that not everything they'll see in porn can be equated to something in real life.
@MangoWOW@xanga - Luckily for me, I don't read those novels because I think they are trashy! Luckily for him, I spend all of my arousal time on my husband, not on "fantasies" with other people.
@cd867@xanga - but would you consider married/taken women/men who read those as cheaters?
@cd867@xanga - It's not so much your dislike of porn that makes you sound that way, but rather your statement of wanting to be your man's only fantasy. I think it's cool if you've found a man like that, but it seems a little unrealistic to me is all.
@youaintjam@xanga - That's cool. As rare as it may be, I do want someone that I fulfill 100% sexually, as well as in other ways. I am lucky to have found it. I have always been of the opinion, however, that I would rather be alone than with someone I'm not enough for.
@cd867@xanga - It's good you're clarifying that. I believe there will be others who misread it as I did.
@MangoWOW@xanga - Yes, if they are reading it for sexual arousal and fantasy sake, which I guess you could say would be the only reason to read it. Otherwise it would be like reading Playboy for the articles, no?
@cd867@xanga - Wow thats pretty lame imo
@MangoWOW@xanga - Hahaha, bummer dude!
damn he is ugly
Porn's cool. What I like about it is the contrast between the sex onscreen which is so..artificial and when I have sex. The sex I have is either tender and sensual or rough and passionate, which is never the case for porn. I mean, come on; it's their freaking job.
And cheating? Whatever. Some women think catching their Christian husbands masturbating is an abomination while some enjoy having threesomes. Everyone wants different things.
@nexthorizon@xanga - Agreed that everyone wants different things. Different stokes is entirely literal in this sense. Hahaha. It's not about religion though; don't want a debate about it on this totally - to me anyways - unrelated post. There are enough religious debates on Revelife and elsewhere.
I don't consider porn cheating at all. both me and my boyfriend watch it (not together though) and neither of us feel upset or jealous. just because the girls in it look a certain way doesn't mean that that's what guys who watch porn are into. I've had quite a few boyfriends, and in no way do I have double d's or anything of the sort. watching porn is just what guys and girls do when their imagination during masturbation isn't cutting it. basically, it's for entertainment purposes. although I do agree about the ugly guy thing! rarely is there any attractive guys in porn. hot girl having sex with old guy...? kinda kills it haha