Thursday, 11 June 2009
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What's The Big Deal about Not Having A BF/GF?
Clearly, I'm single and plan on staying that way. Why is this? Well, I have no cash to go out on dates, and just have no interest in dating anyone at the moment. I know somewhere out there, someone can agree with me on either both or one of those two reasons.Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is about not having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. For some strange reason, it seems I could get either one I wanted. Luckily for me, though, I avoid the whole relationship thing period. Anyway, back to the main point of this. why is it so necessary to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? The way some people talk it makes it just sound like some popularity contest, or how I could get them before you.
Maybe it's just for the physical part of the relationship, or to feel less awkward whenever they're with their friends that are all couples. I've been thinking about these things for quite a while, and I still can't grab onto the reason.
Things like this bother me too much at times. I've never truly asked the person who i thought of when writing this blog about their desperation. Sounds mean to a certain extent, and I'd rather avoid any problems. But seriously, can someone explain to me why you MUST have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
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because the government says so!!!!
i don't know.
Alot of people feel very lonely on their own, so they need a boyfriend or girlfriend to remind them that they are not alone. (:
some people like it others dont.
everyone ha a choice
People are really insecure, and therefore they believe if they have someone to constantly build them up, they'll feel better about themselves. Kind of the reason I avoid relationships. Fuck needy people.
I GUESS ITS JUST NOT AS IMPORTANT FOR MEN
I don't need to be in a relationship. I just need good friends who won't stab me in the back.
You don't have to but for some reason some people think being single (and not caring) reflects negatively on you. There must surely be something wrong with you if you aren't dating...because if you're not dating that means no one wants to date you and that of course means you have some awful but not immediately obvious character flaw. lol But really they're the ones with the problem but they hide it by avoiding singledom at all costs.
Word.
It is a popularity contest sometimes. I knew people who don't even talk to each other but call themselves bf/gf. Or some really annoying couples doing all this physical stuff in public to look cool.
I don't get why ppl need a bf or gf, either. One of my friends said she feels very lonely when friends are not around her, so she needs a bf to be there for her when she's alone.
lonelyyyyy, they are sooo lonelyyyy o/~
i was just gonna write a blog similar to what you have written here. you beat me to it. I don't understand it either...
Because people are human and want to be loved....
You should read a fucking Psychology book.
And that goes for the rest of you idiots who don't get it either. There's nothing wrong with not having one, but to say you don't understand why people want a SO is complete idiocy or ignorance - pick one.
I dream about being single again!!
seen .
People don't need one if they only want a relationship for their social status; those kinds of people are insecure and need to be reminded that they're loved.
Personally for me, when I want a relationship, it's because I'm head over heels for the person I want to be in a relationship with. Doesn't matter who knows, doesn't matter where he is in the social world. As long as he loves me and I love him, it seems worth it.
That's why people get married, of course, and before you get to marriage you have to be boyfriend and girlfriend first, and hopefully it's not for the social climb...
hmm well i feel the way the author does...i just broke up with my boyfriend becos he cheated on me 4 times...so i really dont want anyone right now so get were hes coming from and you really dont need a relationship to make you noticed or whatever, you can live with out a a person in your life. you REALLY can!!!
I don't believe it's necessary to have a bf/gf but it definitely adds some happiness to my life! In my partner, I have a best friend, lover, confidant, support system, someone to laugh with, etc.
Relationships don't have to be difficult people! But to each his own dude. If you enjoy being single...do the damn thing and have a blast doing it!
Being in a relationship may increase someone's happiness. It is nice to enjoy a person. It's also nice to not be with someone.
Depends on preference.
Then again some people do it for contest, physical reasons, and loneliness.
And that's a shame really.
you don't HAVE to have a gf/bf... that's why a lot of people just "date casually" so you could avoid entitlements and labels... blah blah. But if you're asking why people want to even DATE or be with someone... Then I have no logical explanation for you except you can if you want to, and usually when you've met someone that you'd like to, you do.
I'm single and dating. Yes, I'm dating currently to find the person to consider long terms with. Do I HAVE to have one? Well, if marriage is an option I'd like to take, yes I think so. But aside from that, it is nice to enjoy the things we both enjoy together. It's different from friendships, love brings forth something more than friendships do for a person (there's a clear distinction in the two I believe) and in knowing how much you love that person and the feeling is mutual, it's almost magical. (crap I sound like a Hallmark card)
I've been single for 8 years in a row-and after all that time the single life gets a bit old. I mean I'm cool being by myself but it's nice to have someone to spend time with beyond the friendship level.
What's the big deal about being single?
Seriously, it's all personal preference and whether you know someone you want to date. I enjoy being single because I'm busy and my life is a heck of a lot more complicated with a boyfriend, but I've got one at the moment because we really like spending time together and we're attracted to each other. It takes more time and effort, but I'm happier with him and that's the point, isn't it?
You say you're single because you "just have no interest in dating at the moment" and I say I'm in a relationship because the person I'm with makes me happy. What's the difference?
Possibly because people have a need to love and be loved in return. For some, they may feel that kind of love only comes from having an intimate relationship with a guy/girl. I was brought up in a Christian home where I was taught the greatest love we can have is the love that comes from God. Because of this truth and the love my parents have lavished upon me, I have not felt a need to have a boy friend. I look at having a relationship this way: Dating is to find someone who is compatible, to find your soul mate, and develop a relationship with the man/or woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with. I don't want to randomly date guys off and on. I want to meet the one I will spend the rest of my life with and stay true to our relationship. I think many girls/guys have pursued relationships prematurely. I mean, they have entered a relationship, but are not quite at the point where they are ready to make a commitment. Commitment is key here and should be applied in any type of relationship (whether boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged to be married, and as husband and wife).
I LIKE to be in a relationship since it makes me feel connected to someone
like someone understands me and i understand them. we know eachother on a closer level and i like it like that