Wednesday, 10 June 2009
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Guys Don't Give Mixed Signals - They're Just Greedy
On reading a previous post on Datingish aptly named "Guys Give Mixed Signals, Too", I just have to respond. I'm still very young, but I've been in one of those relationships before - my first in fact - that started with unbelievable love, then ended pretty unwell and I was definitely taken for a ride for a few months after it. To the lady who wrote the post, I mean no offense at all, and the utmost respect really. Whatever you do with him, never think you're in the wrong for giving a go. But guys don't give mixed signals. Ever. I talk from experience. They mean exactly what they mean. Always. "I'm hungry" means they're hungry. "I'm tired" means they're tired. "I really think we shouldn't be in a relationship right now" means they don't want to be in a relationship right now. That's their initial thought, and the only reason why they'll go back on it (if you can call it going back on it, because they'll always end up saying "I still think I shouldn't be in a relationship...") is because - and I'm only saying this ONCE - they are controlled by their penises!
Call me weak. Call me dumb - because I was. But I let a guy throw me around (so to speak) for months on end because he was horny and I was naive. Okay, I don't speak for all men, except I've seen it happen many, countless times. Cousins of mine have given me the "Oh, but he called me yesterday telling me he wanted to see me personally..." speech and I always retort with the "You'll end up snogging and he won't call you for a while" talk. They always ignore my advice and get their hearts broken. Is that then their fault? Or mine for letting it happen? I'm so so so sick of it. I see so many good ladies out there controlled by these testosterone-ridden men who think they can have a free ride. And I know that it's not all guys, and I'm pretty sure women mess with guys' hearts too. None of it's fair.
We need to start understanding what's right and what's wrong. If the people around you tell you the situation you're in is wrong and it's based on good judgement, get out of there. They're usually very right. Not always, but definitely often.
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So just because you ended up with ONE guy who mistreated you, you're condemning all of them, for you and every other woman? Great idea.
Makes me glad I'm not gay, I'd hate to have a guy throw me around. That's why I'll just keep dating women.
// But guys don't give mixed signals. Ever. I talk from experience. They mean exactly what they mean. Always.//
But guys do give mixed signals. Sometimes. I talk from the experience of BEING A MALE. Sometimes, we don't mean exactly what we mean. Sometimes.
No wonder you've had problems with guys - you stereotype them all in such a stupid manner (and your "disclaimer" doesn't do much to help assuage that situation). Try not to be a blind pessimist and perhaps your image of men will improve.
My boyfriend gave me mixed signals because he didn't want me to know that he liked me. He would pretend that he didn't like me and say that I was a good friend, but he would act a little different... so yeah, some guys DO give out mixed signals.
Guys give mixed signals when they're confused.
You're young, so maybe you have a lot to learn? Come back in 5 years and let's see if you're still saying the same thing. :)
I would disagree. From what you're saying, guys do give mixed messages because their mouth speaks differently from their member.
Right. Obviously, as a male, my dick is in control of my life. Kudos to that. *raised eyebrow*
I agree with the last paragraph, but love blinds. What can I say?
LOL
boys give mixed signals because you're get two signals most of the time: the one from their brain, and the one from their dick. (the dick usually wins in the end haha)
All girls make sweeping generalizations based on limited personal experience.
See what I did there?
Seriously? If you were aware of your naivety--being "very young" and basing your knowledge on your FIRST experience--why did you bother writing this post? Way to generalize an entire population of guys because of ONE person you dealt with.
i have to disagree a little bit with you because it goes both ways. i've been in relationships where the guy has been completely honest with me and then there were the ones who i could never really figure out what they were thinking also so it's usually hit or miss. sometimes i could give a guy mixed signals too from just being friendly and them thinking that i totally like them. it depends on the person. what i have found out from my experiences is that when i get hurt and let my guard down from a relationship, then the next relationship, i try not to make the same mistake twice by giving mixed signals to guard my heart.
@KasumiCelesta@xanga - Because she can.
Guys are definitely truthful and logical in their signals, but sometimes when a guy says something, it seems like they're saying something much worse than intended. Alike so:
"You look great, hon." = "GIMME SEX NAO PLZ!"
...maybe not so "worse", haha. Humans are weiiiiird.
I disagree with you on this. Guys do give mixed signals. :\
There was definitely a very very bad person in your life. I'm sorry you had to go through that. We aren't all like that, not even the guys who are half an asshole, as opposed to the full-blown jerkoffs.
I believe that everyone is good natured. Some males definitely think with their penis, but you offend a good portion of us who really don't. I've fought for nearly 12 years to NOT think with my Penis, because the first girl I ever slept with, I didn't care for. I've faltered once after that incident, but never again. I think with all of my senses, never letting just one rule. So do plenty of us men.
-aCe
I think we, as girls, should stop judging and saying what guys do and don't do. Because to be honest, I think only guys can say whether or not they give mixed signals or not. Stereotyping is always bad, because each guy behaves pretty differently, just as each girl does the same.
As for mixed signals, maybe sometimes that guy is just an ass? Just a thought to throw out there. It doesn't matter what the hell kind of signal they throw out there if they're being a jerk.
Uhh. I hope this is a joke, but it doesn't seem like it is. Not all guys are the same. That's something I talk about all of the time. Women bitch about guys doing this guys doing that, guys are not the same. They don't all come from the same mold. Some guys are far more emotional than women, for instance. Guys. Are. All. Different.
Some guys DO give mixed signals. I've dealt with plenty of them that do. You've had direct guys around you, congratulations, you're lucky. All guys are not greedy, either.
Some guys do give mixed signals. Yes. They do.
They are no different than us. And I've met plenty of them before.
it can be hard to let go
lol a lot of guys are like this, but not all. just gottaknow how to find one that doesn't like playing games.
Guys do give mixed signals. For example, I'm going to tell you that you're wrong based simply off various rational flaws with your argument (appeal to incorrect authority, circular logic), so as to send the signal that I believe you are a rationally thinking person whose argument is slightly flawed, but reflects nothing on who you are.
While sending that signal, deep down I really think you're a niave, angry little girl.
Sometimes, guys can send mixed signals just because they're trying to be nice. Speaking as a guy, I'd just like to politely ask you to leave my penis out of this.
girl, let me tell you the reason your friends don't listen to you... i have had friends tell me in two relationships i've been in that the guy is bad news, and did i listen to them?? no! because when you're allowing men to have this control over you and you're so head over heels (like we usually are) then we, as individuals, must learn from our own mistakes. we have to do it to try and prove them wrong b/c we don't want to believe they really are bad news.
happens everyday.
1)WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
2) I see why your friends dont listen to your ass because first off you go on what you went thru, every female/male dont go thru the same experience as you.
3) UMMMMM and yes men do send out mix signals where ever you got that from your completly wrong little girl. You have alot to learn sweetheart.
Also you cant get mad because people around you dont take your damn advice, everyone has to learn from there own mistakes. What u think your little mistake is suppose to stop everyone around u from learning on there own I think not.
Dont post unless you know what you are talking about and thats my advice to you and YOU ONLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think guys do give mixed signals, BUT girls play games more. Most guys I know are fairly straightforward and pretty much say what they mean, and of course anyone who is confused themselves can't really help sending mixed signals. However, I know many more girls who are likely to play games, lead him on, tease him and then just laugh. I definitely think many girls are addicted to the power they can have over guys just because they have boobs.