Miss Rhino
There is something I just can't stop thinking about. And it will kill me unless I talk it out. Don't judge me (too harshly). Here we go...
Ever had one of those all-consuming relationships? I'm not talking an actual relationship. Not a boyfriend just...that someone. That someone in your life that takes over all of your thoughts and actions and you can't stand being with him but can't wait until he calls again. He could be the meanest anyone has ever been to me, and I would still beg for his forgiveness. Or he could be the sweetest, most caring person I have in my life, and I couldn't imagine not having him around. It's twisted, that's for sure. Even when we stopped hooking up, he was a big part of my life. He talked to me about everything, his new girlfriend, his family problems, his own problems, everything. But being friends with him was exhausting, and there was always some level of unresolved (romantic) business between the two of us.
It's been about five years, and we've just recently stopped talking. At first I was glad. It was a pretty destructive relationship when you take a look at it. He had way too much power over my emotions, and he knew exactly what to do with it. I dedicated myself to avoiding falling into his trap again. So when I got back to my hometown (which we share), I tried my best to steer clear of his usual haunts. On the bright side, it gave me a reason to stay far away from the gym.
But then he butt-dialed me.
I saw his number flash across the screen and stared at it in shock. I picked up after a few rings, but he had already hung up. I called him back, and he didn't answer.
So he butt-dialed me. He doesn't actually want to talk to me or see me. He would have picked up my call if he did, or at least called me back later. Pathetic. But it just kept nagging me. And then I remembered that he had a Blackberry. His butt would have had to click the correct letter on the key board, scroll all the way down to my name, and then press send in order for him to accurately butt-dial me. That's a whole lotta gyrating if you ask me. With ample effort from both cheeks I'm sure!
So is this just another game he is playing with me? That's not such a far-fetched idea. He's been known to do things like this before. He knows I'm back in town. Is he making sure I haven't forgotten him? If that was his plan, it worked. Now I can't stop thinking about the call and if he will make another move. I've even put my own Blackberry under my tush to see if I could maneuver a task like that. I swear it's impossible.
So what do you think? Am I acting crazy? I should probably file it under "Unresolved and I Don't Care" and move on. I swear I'm usually more level-headed when it comes to things like this. But have you ever had someone in your life that had bizarre mind-control powers over you/your heart? Yikes is all I can say.
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idk... do blackberrys have speed dial? maybe he accidently speed-dialed you, lol. But if you're so curious, you should text him.
You should delete his phone number and eventually you'll forget it from your memory and never have to worry about the faux-butt-dial again.
I'm pretty sure everyone's had someone like this in their lives at some point. The best way to deal with it, I think, is just to force yourself to leave it behind by deleting them from your life as best as you can and leave it in the past, where it belongs.
I veto that. You should not make any contact with him unless he initiates it...and even then...you may want to weigh the consequences before you reply. I don't think he deserves you in his life at all.
yes I have had someone like that in my life and it sucks. it sucks because instead of having a real life, I'm stuck thinking about him. boring.Â
"I should probably file it under "Unresolved and I Don't Care" and move on." Yep, do that
Yes. I'm building a Berlin Wall.
And YES, put it in "Unresolved and I Don't Care". From your description, it sounds like he'd enjoy you tormenting yourself over this un-cracked butt-dial case. PUN INTENDED.
-love-
find a new gym too, theres no need to get out of shape because of him
Yeah, my boyfriend's phone automatically calls me back and it's so weird. I hear HIS voice with friends when he says "im going to be sleeping" and when I dial back, he's asleep. What's wrong with meeee?!
Anyway, I think you should delete him from your contacts. You'll feel so much more relieved and a burden will be lifted off of your shoulders.
I had a few guys cell phones "accidentally" call me or text me...i think its bull
Don't talk to him unless he talks to you but try and forget about it. File the thought and maybe burn it to :P
damn.. i really understand your situation. it really sucks to be led on, only to be left hanging.. and just when you're almost over him, he'll pop out of nowhere.. ooops, i'm ranting..but it's soo frustrating! ;)
@kaybaby666@xanga - I always think that's bull, too. My phone has never accidentally called someone. I mean, I GUESS it's possible, but not likely that it would "accidentally" call YOU instead of a recent call or something.
@kaybaby666@xanga - haha,. I used to think that, but then IO got a phone that dialedbyitselfall the time,. Of course,. IO still think most claims are bogus,. since the calls usually go to the last number I've dialed,. (thus,. my mom and IO have a tonofvoicemail's of one of us babbling for five minutes,. xD)
Anyways, it's too coincidental with you getting home,. He's playing you tio make sure you still know who the metaphorical boss is. :(
i do accidentally call people HOWEVER. if i get a missed call from someone i'd call them back. no matter what. i think he's just toying with your emotion and trying to see if he can still control you the way he did. don't worry so much.
Haha, it's probably not too possible if you're trying to dial. I say just forget about it. If he doesn't want to talk to you, why should you bother giving him any of your precious time? I'm sure it'll work out eventually. Time is a good thing. Good luck!
if he was totally over you he would not have your number in his phone anymore, i think.
Um, simulating the situation? That's a bit crazy, if you ask me. If you really want to know, then call him and ask him straight up if and why he called you on purpose. Otherwise, delete his number and forget it.
Yeah, we must be talking about my life right now. Ha, even the blackberries situation matches. Except, I can stand to be in his presence and this relationship is still going on. He doesn't have a girlfriend yet. And I wanted to be it. But we don't match on that level according to him. I still don't know what's going to happen. He depends on me for emotional support, and I depend on him for career advice.Â
I didn't even know what butt-dialed/dialing was until this post. Wow... if he won't actually call you back to talk to him then just forget it.
yeah, his name is Jay. And I love/hate him.
To be honest, it easily could've been a butt-call or some other accidental call. I, too, have a blackberry and its a pain in the ass because I am *constantly*** calling random people by accident. I don't know how it happens, but in my purse or my pocket it always seems to--different people too.
just ignore it. we've heard it all before.. "ignorance is bliss" and if he's playing mind games, be the bigger person and leave it as is.
It was probably a mistake.
He doesn't matter if he wasn't good for you. Don't sweat it.
@cd867@xanga - Seconded
i just ended a friendship today that seems a lot like yours.
Keep your dignity. If a man wants to talk to you, he will. If he wants to treat you right, he will..
Read: He's Just Not that Into You. Or better yet, watch the movie.
Don't think it was an "accident." And, oh God yes! I've had someone like that in my life and I know how tough that can be. Try the hardest you can to MOVE ON.