Tuesday, 09 June 2009
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Challenge: The Total Package
I have an experiment I would like to conduct and I am going to need some help to do it. It's not going to take a lot of work on your part. Just a little bit of thought and perhaps a rec so others can chime in and contribue to my data set.Many times you hear people say he/she is "the total package". That is a pretty lofty term to have to live up to if you ask me. I mean, what does that even mean really? Is there one set of attributes that makes someone a "total package"? Is it different for men than it is for women? How do you quantify something like that?
So here is what I am asking of you people:
What defines the "total package" in a man/woman for you?
- This is a purely hypothetical exercise, so please don't say your husband/wife/bf/gf/SO.
- This is supposed to be fun so don't get too deep on me.
- Try to keep your answers on the brief side. Remember I have to read all of these and make some sort of sense of them.
- I will be doing something to follow up after I have recieved your answers.
- Don't forget to share this. It will be better the more people participate.On an unrelated note, I would just like to say that I hope there is a special place in hell for the douchebag who decided to park in front of my house blasting Lil Wayne on his car stereo at 6 AM on this fine Monday morning. Let's just say he is lucky I don't own a shotgun.
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total package is when the other person meets all the standards you have set or have made some sort of compromise so you meet in the middle and is happy about that compromise, not having any further arguments after the compromise is made.
Total Package by my definitions:
I kind of agree with the first one. It could be a person who meets all your standards.
Obviously there's no such thing as a perfect SO, but the total package comes pretty close to it, and I mean, really close to it. Looks good, intelligent, keeps the convo going, funny, sensitive, loyal...hm, what else? Basically everything you'd want in a person with possible minor flaws.
I defined the total package in my first post when I described my ideal SO
"Leonardo DiCaprio looks, Seth Cohen sense of humor, the brains/bank
account of the founders of Google, and the total badass domination of
Liam Neeson in Taken. He must
be a gentleman and a scholar. And I would prefer to be married to him
by the age of 27. Those who enjoy heavy metal music need not apply. Is
that asking too much?"
that is my total package in a nutshell
Total package for me, is when they meet my essential requirements for a significant other and/or maybe more.
everything you are looking for in a SO. and i've found the guy i'm looking for, lol. and it was someone who i least expected.
seen ...
total package:
nice body, cute/hot, great kisser. great listener. always there for you. understands you. supports you. parents approve of you both. oh and the sex is great [maybe LOL]
The total package ; kindness, the ability to compromise, someone you ALWAYS have fun with, the good always outweighs the bad by far, good outlook on life and everything in it, good looking, amazing sex, and above all, unconditional love.
Hmm....Outgoing, loud, witty, good sense of humor(slightly offbeat like mine), good looking in my eyes, kindness, dominate, spontanious/unpredictable. And I know this won't make sense to anybody except one person but jerky yet likeable....Yea its odd.
this is going to sound super shallow but here it goes, my idea of a total package is: approx 6ft2, between the age of 29-35 y.o., athletic build, easy on the eyes manly features, communicative, sweet, considerate, generous, believer of marriage/family, well-educated (post sec), a reader of literature (not magazines), articulate, social, ambitious, down-to-earth, non-smoker, intuned with me, and doesn't mind a slightly obnoxious, clumsy girl (that's me) who tends to "take care" of people she loves. :) Oh, his marital status being clear is also of importance, meaning, have not been divorced, separated, and/or with kids from previous relationship. we share the similar kind of humor, is appreciative of enjoying the small things of life, can be serious and goofy at the same time... moderate balance of crude tactics and sarcasm is icing on the cake.
.holycow, does such a person exist? wait....they do...they just happen to be married off with kids by now...hahaha O_o
good looking, friendly and outgoing, and going somewhere in life.
i guess those are my standards in particular though and they would be different for every person.Okay, I have two answers.
First I have the general answer.
The total package is probably a compilation of 3 things for most people.
Physical Attraction - Must be attracted to that person. (Not always vitally important. But I guarantee that no one will admit their bf/gf/SO isn't good looking. I'd slap you if you did.
Personality - The entire smorgasbord of traits that said person finds important in others, Including traits and attributes. e.g. Trustworthy, Funny, Smart, Dependable, Witty e.t.c. Each person is different, but each person either knows what they are looking for in this category, or just know when they see it. Personality is the BIGGEST attraction any one person is looking for in a person, and it serves to enhance both Sexual and Physical attraction.
Sexuality - Everyone has a level of sexuality that they are used to and comfortable with. I believe most people look for that reflectively in their bf/gf/SO. A person who loves to be intimate and sexual often, will probably be looking for the same type of activity. Whereas someone who is on a much more relaxed and paced sexual agenda would probably feel a lot of pressure from someone with an overactive sex life. EIther way, it wouldn't match properly They'd both be unsatisfied for opposite reasons.
Second answer (because I'm not sure if you wanted a generalization or my personal information)
The Physical: I'm looking for a slender or athletic body type with and a pretty face.
The Personality: Smart, Funny, Sociable, Witty, Adventurous, Driven and Ambitious ... Though someone once told me I have a White Night complex? (Damsel in Distress, anyone?)
The Sexuality: As stated in the prior answer, I prefer someone at my pace. I'd rather not get into personals on this ^_^
-aCe
The douchebag blasting Lil Wayne at 6 a.m. seems like the total package.
Or maybe a guy who's easy on the eyes, constantly challenging himself, and loves to laugh and have fun. Having a heart is also a plus.
The perfect package is simple, without the fancy ribbons and tags (and has your name on it!). It has flaws that you can accept (cliche: it's the inside that counts, right?), and no matter the occasion, can make you happy when you need it most.
See: This Xangan
This is my "Who I'd Like to Meet" on myspace:
I would love to meet an honest man. A manwho earns his living with his head, his hands, and with his heart. A
man who strives for and reaches his goals as a result of drive, not
grandfathered assistance. A man who has his own dreams, loves what he
does, and enjoys every day without the help of substance or liquor. A
man who treats his father with respect, and takes care of his mother. A
man who practices the true meaning of brotherhood, but also knows how
to protect a sister. A man who loves to eat, enjoys learning, wants to
explore, yearns to travel, listens to music, and appreciates life. A
faithful man, who takes care of the woman he loves, and works with her
on everything they have together, in hopes of a beautiful future. A man
who would do anything in his absolute power for his wife and for his
kids. A man who knows his core values, but wakes each day with an open
mind. A man who defends his beliefs, but admits when he is wrong. A man
who isn't afraid to laugh when something is funny, or cry in the event
of a tragedy. A simple man, who loves truly and cares deeply. The man
who consistently does all of the above whole-heartedly....And if he is going to drive a truck, this man had better be in a Chevy!
(good in bed and sexy would just be bonuses)
the whole package describes the one who meets all logical standards. kind, caring, ambitious, attractive, etc. all those qualities that makes someone "good on paper". i would not; however, consider someone you love and feel that special passion with necessarily "the whole package" because people often end up with someone they didn't expect and their definition of "the one" changes to match the significant other even though he/she doesn't qualify as "the whole package"
@Schristian@xanga - Awww you are the perfect package! But the author did say that you're not allowed to say "my gf" and oh, I AM your girlfriend... Hahaha
I would have to say the tall, dark, handsome and mysterious (and sort of quiet) kind of guy. Kind, romantic. Who doesn't open up to many people, but for some reason, tells his SO everything. Masculine, but sensitive and able to sense his SO's needs and be there for her. A great personality, a good smile, and nice teeth! hahah and can dress nicely. And isn't sleeping all the time >.> A good driver. Can take care of his SO ... haha okay I'll stop.
(and I would have to say ... having the same religion/beliefs as I do.)
Is that high? It's okay. My boyfriend meets most of the standards :D
Guys: Sexy, great personality, and money
Eh to explain more, sexy = physically attractive and good in bed. Personality can vary, obviously; some girls like extreme sensitivity and mysteriousness while others like rambunctiousness and a guy just outgoing and cocky enough to be hot. Either way, if the guy fits, he gets that point. Morals and lifestyle go in with personality - they kind of show you how the guy rolls, and if you like it, then he's got personality down. Money doesn't apply when you're younger, obviously, but you can say academic success = future bling. Who turns down a genius college guy or a cardiovascular surgeon in this economy?
Girls: Sexy, great personality.
Oh and can't be abominably stupid.
Some guys are really attracted to successful women, but honestly, all my guy friends immediately want to date any hot girl whose intelligence is somewhat close to those around her age. Ugh.
I don't really think "the total package" should mean you and the "package" should be soulmates if you ever met. They're more like..surface qualities. So many times girls say something like "he's the total package..but we just don't click."
i don't think the total package is cookie cutter. It can change every time you meet a new man/women. I define to "total package" in the most broad term: Someone who you simply fall for. That is what total package means to me. I mean you can make a huge list of thinks you want in a man/women (i.e pretty eyes, tall, muscular, a good kisser, funny, wealthy, smart, etc.) but you will never find what you are looking for.
Tallish, Dark (preferably loose curly) hair, white teeth, Nice to his and mine family, friends, and animals. Funny, can dress well, Good body.
Now for the not-shallow stuff: He makes me comfortable to be around. I'm not nervous, anxious, scared. Just me.
So basicaly, someone who is super attractuve and makes me feel comfortable. That's not to much to ask right?
the "total package" is going to vary from people to people but i can sum it that it's all about what your specific standards are and what you're looking for.