Miss Rhino
"Hotter guys hit on me when I wear great shoes because I feel better about myself. That goes for tanning too."
This is the response I get from my friend Tess when I asked her what my next post should be about. Of course her first response was "ME!" But I explained to her that the world of Tess comes with a parental supervision warning so maybe she could narrow it down for me.
So that's when she presented me with her warped view of "love yourself before you can love anyone else". And regardless of her somewhat shallow insight into an extremely philosophical idea, she made a valid point.
Feeling good about yourself = Confidence = Attention from the Opposite SexFor me, when I look in the mirror in the morning or before I go out at night and see Heidi Klum looking back at me, I know I'm going to have a good day/night.
Even if I'm the only one who sees the Heidi resemblance, I'm still exuding the confidence that could only come from channeling a supermodel. And that aura attracts men. No guy is going to approach a girl sulking in the corner thinking shes Ugly Betty. (No offense America Ferrera, you always get your man.)
So does a great pair of shoes really up the ante?
It could be anything from a new haircut to a good deed that left you feeling all warm and tingly inside. Anything that makes you feel good about yourself on the inside, really reflects on the outside. And those are the type of people that other people want to get to know.
Exuding confidence is almost the equivalent of Cupid's arrow. Don't you agree?
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It's true. If you like yourself, others will too.
I agree.. and lately I dont feel so "hot"
pretty much. i've actually lost a lot of my confidence this year, but gained so much last summer. because of that, i met so many more people during the beginning of the school year than i would have without that confidence. when you're more confident about yourself, you're really just all around happier--and who doesn't like a happy person? :)
i'm going to state the obvious and say that if you overdo it, you'll repel the opposite sex too--for example, girls can come across as bitchy or otherwise unapproachable.
this still begs the question of why girls who claim to be confident are never seen in public by themselves.
Yup, that's pretty much true----though, I wouldn't know about the shoes. o___O
It's really true. When I was single, I got blond highlights. I never felt so sexy. Every night before I went out I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself, "I look so hot." I really did feel hot and had so much more confidence. I didn't feel so shy and it was easier to talk to guys during this period. Now I have a bf and my hair is back to its natural color. I don't feel the way I used to because guess I don't need to.
totally true.... i really admire people who have confidence
So true.
KNOW how to STUNT IN YOUR HEELS.
KNOW how to WEAR YOUR CLOTHES..
BUT BETTER YET,
KNOW HOW YOU FEEL IN 'EM.
if you think ur hot shit that night, ppl will notice.
believe it.
I def agree!
Yes, although it may also intimidate other people. Which could go either way on the good/bad spectrum.
Blah, I lost a lot of confidence after gaining weight this year at college :(
But truthfully, whenever I buy something that I do not normally wear, I either chicken out and not wear it (and have it somewhere in the closet) or I wear it and feel really self-conscious. I don't wear much besides t-shirts/jeans/shorts and so when I buy a pretty blouse and people stare and usually comment saying "why are you dressed so nicely? whats the occasion?" I start to feel as if maybe it was a mistake. >.<
I always walk with a lot of confidence, but I never seem to attract the right type of guys.
When I was in my senior year of high school, I got a major haircut for the very first time. For the next few days, guys wouldn't stop approaching me. It was kind of irritating.
well confidence is that thing where you put off your own aura. If you are self confident, of course people will see that you are happy with yourself. Which is of course very attractive!
This is absolutely true. You have to love yourself before anyone else can begin to.
I completely agree. If you don't have confidence, you're doomed.
Definately. I couldn't believe how much attention I got when I actually felt good about how I looked and felt. It was great! Odd, but great. I had bought a new shirt, and although I felt a little self concious cause it made my little boobs look big, I couldn't believe how different people treated me. Same when I wear my hair down. It boosts my self esteem when people are actually willing to talk to me and all...especially guys. It was a good feeling.
Confidence is great, but having grace is even better for women. It has less of an ego.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - haha that is a good point and an excellent question... never seen in public alone and definitely don't make trips to the bathroom alone. god forbid something outrageous happens in the women's restroom right?
@immaairheadxl@xanga - that is my new life's motto!
@a_single_raindrop@xanga - don't think that! you probably look amazing, that's why people are stopping to get a look at you in the first place! in my case, i am ALWAYS overdressed for EVERYTHING. and people are always giving me crap about it. I'll put on a nice dress for dinner and my friends will laugh and ask me if I'm going to prom... but that doesn't bother me because i feel good about myself when i look nice.. and you should too! even if it's just in tshirts and jeans
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - awww <3
@FireYourBoss@xanga - Great point. I'll have to start thinking about my grace level from now on haha
Yes I do. Confidence and humbleness are sexy. Arrogance and conceitedness are not.
As they say- "confidence is the key to success"