Miss AntelopeThe other night, a friend of mine confessed he's had this huge crush on me. Mind you, I did like this person a lot at one point, but then I met someone else (I'm no longer with him) and the feelings faded away. He's two years younger, has a girlfriend, and is very persistent. I know what it's like to feel rejected and so I don't want to hurt him. I honestly think we're probably meant to be friends, but I'm not sure. He has not yet reached the same maturity level I have and I really am tired of having to be the one to take care of my significant others; it would be nice to have someone give me a shoulder to lean on for once.
He seems like a great guy with a good heart, but I just don't know.
I told him we should stick to being friends and see where that goes. I'm just not sure I can trust him because he constantly flirted with me while having a girlfriend and whenever I made him aware of this, he disregarded it. He also told me the only reason he is with his girlfriend is because she is going through a rough patch. This all just doesn't make sense to me. Is it because he's young that he is acting ridiculous or is this behavior common among younger men?
What do you think? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? If so, how did you approach it?
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Sounds like you'd really rather just be friends with him. Plus, there are more cons to dating him than there are pros. The only reason you'd date him, it seems, is to save him from feeling rejected. Bottom line: don't date him.
If he treats his current girlfriend like this, he will treat you like this. I also wouldn't hesitate to bring it to her attention.
You already made the case against dating him so why do you even have to ask?
If you don't like him that much, don't date him. If you can't trust this guy from the start because of his actions, I don't know if you should be dating that guy.
Yeah, you shouldn't date him if you don't want to. Rejection is hard, but everyone has to experience it sometime.
You wouldn't be truly happy if you went ahead and got together with him, because you obviously don't like him as more than a friend. It would only be a one-sided relationship and could eventually end up backfiring on you because you didn't want to break his heart in the first place. So, then, not only would you have wasted your time with him but you also wasted his. Not unless, you develop feelings for him again, which sounds unlikely. =\
just because you dont want to reject him hurt him?? sounds like he wants to find the next person before he leaves his gf.....
I don't think you should even consider dating him when you know that he has a girlfriend in the first place. You seem to tell us a lot of reasons why you shouldn't date him ... I think that's your answer.
He ain't a good guy.
Agreed with the others. He is not good enough for ya!
Considering that you're not on the same maturity level I'd strongly discourage dating him.
Don't date him. He's got a girlfriend, you say? If he breaks up with her to be with you, how do you know he won't someday break up with you to be with someone else? And if you think he's acting immature now, it's doubtful your opinion of him will change much even if you start to date.
@TornadoChaser@momaroo - I agree.
I think behavior like this can come from people of any age. Either way, it's best to get away from this situation. He's probably looking for a "replacement girlfriend" of sorts. There no need to let yourself get caught in this potential mess.
be smart dont date the kid.
stay away from this guy. he spells trouble. he still flirts with you even when he got a girlfriend? and plus even you said so yourself that his maturity level isn't up there yet. do NOT date him.
Seems to be he is not a good guy after all.
i always have felt that there are some people who are meant to be in love and in a relationship while others are just better off friends. if you're not feeling it now, you're never going to feel it later.
He's lying to you. Whenever they say "I'm only with her because.....", it's usually "...because she's too stupid to figure out my bullshit and I'm sleeping with her."
Please he's just looking for an upgrade.
And you just got out of a relationship, why don't you try giving it a go being single for a while? Then you can figure out what you really want in a partner.
I think you really shouldn't date him. You told him so and you don't trust him. If you don't trust him then you really ought not to date him for one. Plus, he disregards what you have to say as complete and utter crap. If he's flirting with you when he already has a girlfriend, he's going to do the same with you.
You're all right... It is a bad idea. I'll let him down gently...
Thank you!