Monday, 08 June 2009
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Guys Give Mixed Signals, Too!
They always say that women are hard to understand, that they say something, but actually mean something else. I'm a woman myself and I will be the first to admit that. But don't you think that men are doing the same thing?I met this boy about a year ago and I fell in love with him (and I mean madly in love!). We talked about it and he said he'd rather be friends, because he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I told him I understood and respected that. But why does he keeps texting me that he misses me and wants to be with me? When we go out with friends, he keeps looking for my attention, kisses me, hugs me..He recently said to me that I was the only woman he would want to marry some day.
Okay, so he doesn't want a relationship but he does want to marry me someday? I really don't understand it all. All I know is that he keeps hurting me everytime...I really wanna try and forget him and find someone new but he just doesn't let me..
Is there anyone else who knows what I'm talking about?
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Comments (57)
He doesn't -let- you move on?
Girrrl, you're in control of yourself.
That boy is playing games. Quit flying into the fire.
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He wants his cake and to eat it too- he's not ready for commitment but sees no problem with stringing you along. he might be a nice guy, not sure, but he's not acting like one by leading you on and making "forever" promises. You end up marrying the person you love by making the choice to be with them right now. I've heard from guys and girls that are my friends that both sexes give that line: 'we're not meant to be right now, but I can see forever with you.' pssht. if you can't even make monday work, what's the point?
FWB!? This is how I see it...
He does not have to be with you but he gets anything he wants (well, most of it I assume)
If he can't commit right now, I think you should not wait... Especially he is taking advantage of knowing that you love him and you would let him kisses/hugs you (or maybe something more...)
@coldfaceblush@xanga - He can't have his cake and eat it too. My sentiments exactly!
Yeah, some guys can be as confusing as girls. You better talk to him about it and if he still doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, leave that guy..
My boyfriend was confusing, really confusing. The thing was- he didn't want me to know he liked me because he was scared, so he just gave me mixed signals so I wouldn't know. I didn't even think he liked me until he asked me out.
Yeah. My boyfriend can be pretty cryptic sometimes, just not like that. It's usually when he's trying to communicate something but is too shy/scared to be straight forward. I've pretty much figured him out in that respect by now.
Mhmm, I've known guys can be just as confusing as girls, thanks to E.
I'm guy and I know how we are. We like to keep our options open even if we don't want to pursue it at the moment or can't for whatever reason. It's really selfish but I think everybody does it. Bottom line is, if you are being put on the back burner than you are not his number one. As coldfaceblush said, he wants to have his cake and eat it to. Don't let him.
Yeeaah... that's not a mixed signal. Mixed signals, at least by my definition, are when you manipulate somebody. He is not trying to manipulate.
He, more than likely, wants to be with you, but, for one reason or another, can't commit right now. If he is giving mixed signals, it is more than likely to himself.
If you want him to be clear with you, tell him. You need to talk to him. if you don't want him to do this, tell him. If he gives a shit about you, he will respect your wishes. That way, if you guys want, (and both of your shit is together) you can give this thing a shot.
I don't know, looks like he's saying those things cause he just wants to have sex with you, hahaha.
Maybe he's playing the field and doesn't want a commitment, but you look like a promising prospect. I don't mean to objectify you, but that's just the way some guys are. I'm naturally nice to everyone, so some girls sometimes think I'm crushing on them when I'm just being polite. I think the main problem is that girls think we are as smart and complex as them, when the truth is we are actually quite stupid and simple.
He likes you, but not enough to be with you. Guys--not all guys, but some guys--throw down the marriage and future sayings to string girls along. He might not mean it.
He doesn't have a clue what he wants... He's terrified of what a "relationship" compose of; the seriousness of it or the commitment level, whatever and yet his actions are unclear and contradictory to what he says. WTF? I think you should just treat him as a friend, even though it's hard to curve your once-madly-in-love feelings because he seems to think that if he texts you things that he thinks you'd like to hear from him, you'll be putty in his hands.
take charge of the situation woman! the more confusing he is, call him on it and ask him what exactly it is that he wants. men or women, people just have to learn to COMMUNICATE effectively and quit playing these stupid kid games...seriously!~
move on.
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yes. guys are just as complicated as women.
I know some guys like this. They're inconsiderate jerks.
sounds like you need to move on, hes not interested
He wants the attention without the commitment. Tell him it's either or. Not for him to reject you but tell you he wants you.
No, I have no idea what you're talking about.
How about just communicate with him?
Looks like a relationship, smells like a relationship...
Must be a duck.......
Truthfully, if he's not messing around, and he seems to have eyes for only you... You could be making a big deal over nothing.
Or
this guy isn't so wonderful, and has some ulterior motives.
he knows that he can have you... so I think that's why he's doing it because he knows that you're his safety net and he probably is just waiting for someone he thinks is better than you. The guy is a loser... sorry to say. He likes you I think... but I also think that he wants to explore his other options. I say just let him explore and get on with your own life.
He doesn't want a relationship, but in the case that he changes his mind he's stringing you along. Confront him about it.
he's playing games. now that he knows you like him, he wants to know if you'll be willing to be his fwb. at least that's what it seems like. if he doesn't want the commitment, then he should stop with the flirting. don't be his booty call type thing. and be careful. you can confront him and see how he reacts to it.
I feel ya. I had the same happen to me in college. He kept toying with my emotions. Flirting with me one moment then treat me like his little sister the next. He finished college, never to be heard of again. Until he resurfaced (years later) and started to seriously woo me! His demeanor was completely different. Full romantic mode all of a sudden. But the pain was fresh in my memory and he never got the 2nd chance he asked for. It was too late.