Monday, 08 June 2009
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After A While Things Between Us Were Different...
They were really weird - things went from lovey-dovey and being happy to hardly keeping in any contact and being distant?We both noticed it but ignored it at first, but a a week later no longer could it be ignored. It was bothering both of us...A LOT. So much that it got to the point of utter confusion and talking about breaking up :( I really didnt want to so I suggested that maybe if we stayed together, things would work themselves out on their own and go back to being good. Actually he was the only one thinking about splitting but, anyway, the night before I was supposed to go see him and he sent me a text saying "Idk if you should come anymore".
I asked why and he said "I been thinking." I got sick and worried like I knew, so I asked him about what and that's when he said "You were right. I just don't feel the same anymore and didnt wanna admit it. I'm sorry. I thought we were perfect but idk i just started drifting away."
I couldn't sleep that night; we were perfect. I thought he could possibly keep me happy for a much longer time and I would do the same for him. Well, now we don't talk or text, no communication whatsoever. Doesn't seem like cares about what happened? I know he's starting to talk to some other girl. But damn he said he really did love me and didn't want to ever break up and neither did I. What happened? Does he care? Would he want to give it another try or should I just forget about it & live my life??
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You need to move on; he seems to have done so already.
thats what im going thru right now too!! ]; ..
YES. He's already done so.
Been there done that...
I'm currently deleting all of my bloggings on the mess that I thought was true love a couple years ago...
And moving on from all of the "I Love You's", and arguments, and insecurities was the best thing I ever did for myself.. Learning to love myself regardless of the flaws that others hated... Everything... So many young girls forget to do that. So many teenagers lose themselves in the dating game that they forget who they are and what's really important.
Finding the hottest boyfriend, the best lay, the faithful one isn't important...
Girls should worry about their education, creating their future, not getting pregnant before their ready.. As should guys... Dating really.. just.... I'm amazed at how hard I took things sometimes.. And I've never been happier than I am now..
I went from the questions to single for over a year aside from the occasional 2week date buddies... To, I have a loving relationship with someone I was friends with for over a year before dating. We have a beautiful son, wasn't ready for him, but he's here and loved dearly, I'm graduated from highschool.. I get my STNA certifcation in July, and start college to be an RN in October... And he is going to the Army come October//November...
We too had a spell where we were "drifting apart", but ours was simply from spendinf excessive amounts of time together. When we'd hang out with friends we were always together... He'd hang with me and my friends, and I'd tag along to hang out with him and his... But, we also practically lived together at these points... Now that we DO live together, we have our own space and live on our own schedules with plenty of shared time, as well as individual time... And we take turns with our son when he's not feeding from the boob. =]
All I can really say is.. Don't kill yourself over the questions and worries.. There's a very good chance the boy just wants something new. It happens... He may have found interest and just like a new video game... You quit playing the old ones...
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@pozillia@xanga - awww your story's cuuute[:
Eh, doesn't matter how much they say they loved you. If it was real love you'd know. And he wouldn't have said..oh..I don't know.."I just don't feel the same anymore." And he's moved on rather quickly.
You'll probably still be heartbroken; that can't be helped. But don't hold on to him. There's no sense in holding on to someone who isn't holding on to you. It'll just make it worse for you longer.
I think it's time for you to move forward. It sounds like your ex has already done so. :(
I know it's hard, but you can pull through it. Focus on yourself, hang out with friends, take part in any activities that interest you. Eventually in time, you'll be able to let go and be happy. It'll take time, but you'll overcome that.
Best of luck.
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Drifting apart doesn't work it's way out naturally. YOu have to work at the relationship. If you still care for him, ask him to see if you guys want to work it out. Go out, have fun, go on dates together. Get to know one another again. There's always new things to learn of your SO each time.
If you feel that your feelings toward him isn't the same as before, and you don't feel much anymore, just leave the relationship and hope to be friends.
hmm this has happened to me before too... =\
just move on I say... it might be hard for awhile but you will feel better later once you have done so. He doesn't seem interested... and there's nothing you can do about that. Why be with someone who doesn't want you back anyways? You're better off without him.
I'm thinking that you have to move on because obviously he's not into you anymore.
That's really immature of him to simply stop talking rather than at least having a talk to resolve and end things. If I were you I would have a "final conversation" so that everything is out on the table. It's really unfortunate that his feelings faded, but you should know *why* so that either you can repair it, or you will know how to improve for your next relationship. Either way, don't let your time with him be wasted.
Okay speaking from experience, you should definately move on doll. Don;t let this guy bring you down. unfortunately, it seems liek he has moved on and you need to do it as well. The last thing you want to do is chase him and beg him. Don't do that please! You will only hurt yourself in the end. Worry about getting your life back in order and erase him from your life. You need to worry about you, not him. Erse his number, get rid of any pictures or memories. Throw them out or put them in a box. Start fresh and leave yesterday behind and start a new day. : ) That's what I'm doing and it's working. For once I'm paying attention to me.
You did nothing wrong so don't blame yourself. People just grow apart sometimes. It's life, unfortunately. Have patience and good things will come!
it happens. thats why its best to have other fun activities for you to do that you are passionate about, so you won't have to depend on him to give you your happiness. the truth is, you are the only one who can make you happy. you have to feel great about your self all the time. you have to fall inlove with you at all times. give each other space to do fun activities. make your life exciting by doing the things you love to do so you have something new to talk about and learn from each other.
there's a reason for everything. this might be a blessing in disguise. you may meet a better guy and a great relationship that you deserve. so, move on and celebrate your inner goddess.
Like what most people are saying, it's time to move on. Immerse yourself with new friends or new hobbies. :/ good luck
Move ooon. Find ways to distract yourself for the timebeing.. then it'll be easy after a few weeks or months.
Thats what im going through now.. i love my boyfriend but we have been pretty distant lately Y_Y
it wasn't love. he's not feeling it anymore. seems like emotionally he's already checked out. you should be too.
this sounds so familiar...i only hope that you find what you're both looking for...sometimes distance is the sign of exit for a relationship.
If you really care that much about him, try to talk to him one last time. If he doesn't see you like that anymore, he won't respond. And if he is trying to play the hard-to-get game, then good riddance because you've given him enough chances to stay together. I hope things work out for the better but remember that relationships are like broken glass. Sometimes it’s
better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back
together and get hurt all over again.