What if the possibility of marriage was ruled out of a relationship? No perfect wedding day, no everlasting vows, just the promise to love each other forever... without a marriage certificate.
Personally, I could never be in a relationship where the possibility of marriage was out of the question. I would never feel completely stable with the person. And the idea of eventually having children with someone who could pick up and walk away whenever they wanted terrifies me.
On the other hand, if I truly love the person, I love them for who they are. And if they don't believe in marriage, it would be hypocritical of me to try to change them. It comes down to a matter of trust.
Would you date someone who didn't want to do the wedding march down the aisle with you?
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No because I want to get married...if we only stayed in the dating phase forever...we wont be getting anywhere!
Yes. Marriage is inconsequential. Marriage should not define a relationship. A relationship should define the opportunity of marriage, if both parties involved see it as the right path to take.
What I'm saying is...if you love someone, you'll love them, marriage or not. Marriage isn't going to change a single thing.
At least, it shouldn't.
Yes. I don't think i want to get married. If someone felt they weren't cool with that, then that's their problem, not mine.
my last bf was like that, but it was ok too because i didn't see much of a future with him like i did the others, then again i'm still single not married. i guess you have to believe in marriage too. it's not that i don't, it's just that it's not the right time right now. maybe in the next few years.
No, I don't think I could. It woud be pointless to me.
It would take me loving them like crazy in order to be okay without a wedding. While a lot of people don't see it, I am that type of crazy wants-to-get-married girl. I cant wait until the day a guy proposes and I cant wait till I get to pick out all the colors and everything!
No. I want marriage, so if they don't, no.
I actually have. Before we started dating we both stated our views on marriage and children. We end up dating for almost four years. It was the best time of my life. At one point he actually thought of marriage and us growing old together.
I think it really depends on the relationship.
i wud nevr dayte a guy mor than wunse
luv em & leev em
NO.
No. I want to get married so if someone didnt believe in that or all of a sudden change his views on it down the road, that's a dealbreaker. Same with kids. I've read so many stories about how women & men stayed with someone because they loved them but the other person didnt believe in marriage/kids & they let so much time go by it wasnt possible anymore. That taught me to stick to my guns. respect the other person's views but move on if we cant come to a mutual decision.
im not big on marriage. i dont even know if I personally wanna get married. sure id def date someone like that.
No, actually I couldn't.
I would be fine with it in a state that had common law marriage. If someone disagrees with marriage on an intellectual or philosophical ground I can respect that, but if I'm going to build a life with somebody I do want some kind of legal protection. That solves the issue of being left high and dry with kids and bills to pay.
Also, unless someone's reason for NOT wanting to get married is the fact that they don't want to commit, I don't see marriage as any kind of everlasting-love guarantee...I don't know what the most up-to-date divorce statistic is, but I imagine is still somewhere in the realm of 50%.
I think it depends. If they don't like marriage, that's one thing. But if they don't want commitment, that's not going to work.
My wife won't let me get married again. Which really tics off my gf.
Marriage is divorce insurance for girls. They would be crazy to pass it up.
No because I'm saving myself for marriage. Call me selfish but I want to have fun on my honeymoon so I probably wouldn't date someone knowing that I would never have one.
Yes?? why not, i really dont see what the big deal is about marriage...especially in the times we are in right now. seriously, the post says this :And the idea of eventually having children with someone who could pick up and walk away whenever they wanted terrifies me.
The person you marry can still pick up and walk away from you regardless of the marital status. isnt the divorce rate over 50%? i dunno, seems values/morals/etc etc are changing as the times change.
I understand the norm for people is to want to be married... and of course part of me wants that too, but say i found an amazing guy, i'd be just as happy to live together without a certificate claiming me to be his wife. save me the trouble of legal costs and fees if we ended up growing apart... lol
With shows like The Bachelor, the bachelorette, who wants to marry a millionaire, who wants to marry a midget.. etc, etc, the concept of marriage is no longer 'sacred' as you call it. Divorces shouldn't be allowed.
I don't believe in marriage, neither does the person i'm with.
It's not a big deal. Get over yourselves *COUGH* Ladies especially! *COUGH* (I seem to be experiencing some cyberspace congestion)
You're 'dream wedding' is exactly what it is. A dream.
I think I would to a certain age. At 18, I'm not remotely interested in marriage either. I probably will be around 25 or so. Who knows.
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I've always been practical about dating. I've never believed in going out with someone just for the hell of it or because I needed something to pass the time. I personally don't see any point in dating somebody whom I don't plan on marrying or can't see myself marrying in the future. I personally wouldn't be able to be with someone who didn't want to get married because that's what I want to do. I won't try and forcefully change one's beliefs, but if it can't or won't be done willingly, I can't see a relationship working with that person.
No, because to me, the purpose of dating is so that one day I can get married to him. But if I met him, fell in love and then found out that he didn't want to get married ... well I don't know what I'd do.
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No.
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