Thursday, 04 June 2009
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Dear Dr. Datingish: I Want to Get Over My BFF
How do you get over someone? Especially if that person is your BFF.
I've fallen for my BFF and I want to get over him because I know he isn't interested. And I'm wondering if I should still stay friends with him, 'cause it's kinda hard. Cause he still treats me the same way as ever, all nice, friendly...which makes it even harder for me to get over him.
So what should I do?
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Comments (19)
tell him; let him know why you're not going to be in contact anymore with him
maybe you're infatuated with him.
but anyways, stop hanging around.
it'll hurt him. but you need to get over him
I think you should continue to be friend with him because it is very hard to find a "good" friend who you can trust and talk to. Since there is a history between you two, you both should sit down, have a discussion and seek for a solution rather than running away and hide.
Confront him.. only then will you get it off your chest & continue being his friend.
In these situations, everybody knows what to do (keep distance, have time to think, be honest with him and yourself) but no one does it. So you should probably just do whatever it is you were going to do anyways.
Time always kills the pain.
confront him..its the only way...i'm afraid to say.
find someone else
@photse@xanga - So true.
let him know, maybe he is interested. if not, oh well. you only live once, take every opportunity.
you gotta get it off your chest, afterwards, you'll feel better about it :]
I know it's hard but...SPACE! Seriously, I was in this situation and it sucked majorly. And he found out, but we tried being friends anyways and that was just all bad and it didn't help me get over him. And then eventually we got in a fight, toook hella time apart, and now I'm over him and we're friends. It sucks, but that's what works.
i had that same feeling a while back and the only thing i did was basically keep it to myself because i knew that he wasn't interested in me because he would always be talking about these other girls but slowly, it went away and i was able to control my feelings for him. we're still good friends and i realized that even though i had feelings for him, i didn't want to lose him to a relationship if it didn't work out. it's hard to say.
You should drink some tea. It won't assist you at all with your situation, but it has lots of antioxidants and will keep you looking young and feeling refreshed.
@Forever_Unlimited@xanga - ahahaha. darn where were you when i was in this situation? XD
hm.. i had this problem two years ago. and i kept it inside but i'm the type where the harder i try to conceal things, the more they show through my actions. so essentially he knew, but i wouldn't admit it and he didn't press the issue further. There was about a week of cooling off after we sat down to "talk" (but i wouldn't fess). right around then, he got a girlfriend and I eventually had to just accept it because I simply could not lose a friend like him. It gets easier with time... i think that's just it.
Poor you...one-sided love is a pain. If he's really your BFF, you should talk with him and find some way to put this aside so you can keep the title of "BFF"
Are you absolutely sure he's not interested? Most guys I know have gone for girls that were their friends, they never want to say they're actually interested, though this may not be the situation you're in.
Tell him, get a straight up no from him... And then go to a public place where there's lots of people and check out a lot of guys, just for fun. Remind yourself there are other fish in the sea.
if you're not going to tell him, it's better if you distance yourself from him and not see him. the less you see him the less you will think of him and remember, time heals all pain.
see this is why alot of times a guy and girl can't be friends because when a guy and a girl becomes friends feelings develop so wht hapns then u knw.,.. bt it all depnds hw u make frndship.