Thursday, 04 June 2009
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Should I Listen to My Head or My Heart?
Most people ignore their heart and go with their head. I've always tried to. I might not be the smartest, but I do know I have a fair amount of common sense. Feelings can make you believe some crazy stuff, especially when it comes to those you care about. Common sense, however, is impaired when, well, you are either dehydrated or...just baked.I've been struggling to get over a guy for a while now. I believed I would be happier once I did. I wouldn't care about all the crummy stuff that he would do anymore. But no matter how hard I tried, my heart wouldn't let me. I'm sure a lot of you have been through that. This was my first experience, and a strange one at that, because I'm usually going with facts not emotions.
Now, my heart has given up, but my brain is just starting to realize how silly it is. ugh.
So which do I listen to - my head or my heart?
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head for thinking ,
heart for feeling ...
so the question should be change ...
You want to control yourself for thinking or feeling ?
Your head. Your heart is most definitely always a moron. Trust me, I know from experience.
hmm... that's tough. feelings are the worst indicator of truth, but i would definitely take both your head and heart into consideration. why aren't you with this guy? is he worth you stressing about?
maybe you're at a point where you need to tell both your head and heart to shut up and just live.
you'll find at just the moment you're ok without him, someone great will come around... and it may even be this guy you can't get over. but even if it's not, something better will come around.
with getting over a guy, use your head! because the heart takes longer to let go. but our head is strong! i'm one of those people, that if i kept telling myself something, I'll eventually do/feel it.
yes
technically, you can only listen to your head, your heart is like a caged animal that acts on impulse o_O
It sounds like you want to get over him. Your heart wouldn't let you because you still care about him. Whenever you think of him, miss him, just start chanting about how he did you wrong and how you deserve so much better.
Since the heart is more fragile, you should protect it. The head has an
inner barrier already and that is the skull. Yes, the skull may tend to
make more sense than the heart at times ,but the heart is the one at
stake here. Most of the time, the heart is the weaker system that needs
protection because it is more likely to get hurt or if you
will...injured which can be critical.
Now back to your question:
Should I listen to my heart or my head?
It may seem like I was persuading you to protecting the heart only
because it is easily damage and has no protective barrier unlike the
head. The head is smart, logical and careful. The heart is emotional, sensitive, and isn't careful. The reason the head is smarter (logically) is because it is able
to use the "6 senses" ( see, smell, hear , use it's brain signals to
feel if it desire to and most importantly... the brain is also able to
analyze the situation which is called critical thinking) while the
heart can only feel even if it wants to or not!
Am I wrong? In conclusion, since the heart is weaker...YOU as the
person looking at this situation have to THINK as well. If the heart is
weaker , of course you want to protect the heart FIRST. But by doing
so, you need to protect the brain FIRST in order to proceed in
protecting the heart.Why? Because the strong must protect the weak.
If you ignore the brain then if the heart ends up hurting or becomes
damage then there is a guilt that you will start to feel ( that is not
coming from the heart but from the BRAIN) because the brain allows you
to feel that type of guilt ( how many types are they? Assuming they are
all negatives one)because that's how it works right?
As said in the earlier comment above,
head for thinking ,
heart for feeling ...
so the question should be change ...
You want to control yourself for thinking or feeling ?
If you do something base on how you FEEL (due to the heart) then you are at a
disadvantage. Why? Because the heart can only feel and how can just
feelings help you in any way? By feeling, it can only satisfied your feelings where the brain (
the main component) controls the 6 sense and can prevent the heart from
hurting.
For example:
You're 6 year old and you have this great bond with your mother. She
has alway been there for you. She helps you with your homework. She
talk to you. She reads and kisses you at night before you close your
tiresome eyes. And when you are hurt , she cleans your wound and
performs first aid. Then out of the blue... Your mother died and you
are of course sad. Your heart is the first thing that responses. The
heart takes over because it is its job. Unlike the brain that perform
MULTIPLES jobs, the heart perform only one and it does it well. This
job is to "feel" towards every
situations. The heart will cry, may get angry and become even lonely.
This is the point where the brain will attempt to aid the heart into
the right direction. Sometimes it is too late where the heart ignores
the brain's logic and takes its own path. The heart may grow older and
older and may fall into depression. I believe suicidal is even
possible. The fact that the heart does not turn back is because it can
not think, it can not analyze....it continues to only feel.
This is why.... you DO NOT LISTEN TO THE HEART because listening to the
brain is a higher bet after all. It's a higher bet to listen to brain
because like chess.... it is the QUEEN while the heart is the KING.
You as a whole( speaking of the whole body as in heart, head ...etc and
whatever is fully truly or fakely you) are for example playing Chess.
In chess, the Queen has the advantage because it is not the one
getting checkmate and it is able to move spaces like the bishop, rook, castle,
pawn and even the KING. It appears to be the strongest and most valuable piece.The only move that it can not IMITATE is the
knight.We won't get into that. Why you ask....because it is invalid (
I'm trying to make this short as possible.) The KING has limited moves
it can only move. The King can not sprung across the board like the castle
because it can only move one way and attack one way ( similar to
the heart).I hope you understand my analogy. Do you get it know? Are you using your brain on this one?
The question again:
Should I listen to my head or heart?
My Answer ( based on my ALL ABOVE^^):
The head. (This way you're protecting the head and the heart.)
<3 <3 <3 Molly Molly Molly
Maybe neither -- Maybe you should go with your gut instinct on this one instead, since your head and heart are battling each other. The trick is that you have to be completely honest with yourself in order to find the right answer within yourself.
oh man! i really wish i could help you and give a definitive answer, but unfortunately i seem to be caught in the same conflictive bubble :/
and so far, the heart's sorta winning, so that makes me nervous after reading the previous replies.
i hope you can find the answer that will benefit you the best :)
I would say your head. If he's treating you badly, then he's not worth it. Your heart will eventually give up on trying to make you love him. Been there, done that. It's a waste of time. Keep yourself occupied and try to hang out with other people.
head...plenty of fish in the sea
I was in a similar situation and ended up being depressed for a little over a year in my sophomore year of highschool (young I know but when you're hurt, you're hurt) Anyways. It's been two years now and looking back it was such a waste. I know it's hard but in the end it's not worth all the time you could end up using just crying and trying to make him understand.
Head to be happy in the now - Short Term.
And Heart to be happy in the Long run .
We broke up because of his parents but both of our feelings were still there. He didnt do anything wrong really. Until we broke up. Â Then he started acting more of a jerk... which lead to dating someone else he says to 'get over me'.Â
I could predict each time when they would go farther in their relationship. He *promised* me he wouldnt, but still ended up having sex with her, his first. (They dated for 4 months.) All of it argued that it was to get over me.Trust is a big thing to me. After hearing this, it tore me apart.I told him, after he promised me that he wouldn't have sex with her, that if he did there would never be a chance to get back with me. I knew I wouldnt be able to let myself get over it.
Now he's back, almost begging, and all i can do is sit silent while my organs are fighting it out.
 This is what is keeping me from dating him. It must sound silly.
@whoaaa_electro@xanga -  This is what im afraid of...
Head.
Been there, learned the hard way.
Good luck - you'll need it.
if your heart gave up,
it listened to your head
I would go for the heart...
I chose heart because of some history I had with women.
Oh my gosh, I'm still trying to figure that out right now. It's so hard sometimes you feel like you should listen to you're head because that's what sounds right at the moment, but than you want to listen to you're heart because you feel like it would never let you down.
i'd argue that the vast majority of people listen to their heart over their head, actually. i'm a proponent of head > heart myself.
Mind or heart....
My mind has convinced me.
My heart is still out there looking for an answer.
Most people? Really? Maybe I just have a pessimist view of humans, but I always thought that a lot of people ignored logic and went on how they feel.
Usually when my head gives me logical reasoning, my heart tends to go along with it. So I rarely have that problem of the mind and heart conflicting with each other.
frankly speaking, ur heart is where the head is & ur head is where the heart is. your heart jst beats per sec & ur mind reads 24/7.
i love knowing that there are other people going through the same thing as me.. hearts freakin' suck.. it's like they always do what you don't WANT them to do