Thursday, 04 June 2009
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What Does "Clingy" Mean?
Today my friends and I were discussing about the term "clingy" and what it really means. I said it means "he/she always wants to be with you and doesn't let you have any space to yourself" while my other friends said "he/she always calls you and makes dates to go out *all* the time". None of my exes were clingy, so I haven't had any experience dealing with such a situation. I think that by having a clingy SO, things wouldn't last due to the annoying nature of that person.
Have you ever had a SO who was clingy? What did he or she do?
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I'd agree more with the first person's definition of clingy. Someone who needs you too much, & just wants to be the focus of your attention.
I have, but it worked out alright cause it was a LDR, and I loved my time with her. So it wasn't annoying, if it was proximal then I can see it can be annoying unless they give you space to breathe.
Humm...then all of my friend's boyfriends are clingy. They are so attached they follows us around while we have a girls night out. Man, give her some space. One night would not kill them.
I kinda go with the dictionary definition on it, myself.
To remain close; resist separation:
We clung together in the storm.Like, if you were to want to go hang out with just your friends, if your SO were to try and force you not to, I'd say that would be kinda clingy. If they were to do that all of the time, anyway.
I had a clingy boyfriend once. Never. Again. (Well, obviously not since I'm married now..haha). Anyway, he would like ALWAYS need my attention. It was ridiculous. One time we were at a party and all he wanted to do was talk to me..for hours. I wanted to have fun not talk to him about the same thing over and over and over and over and over again. (Woooow, I sound mean. I guess you'd have to know the situation. lol) Everytime I tried to leave to go hang out with my friends that night, he'd pull me back and keep talking to me about emotional stuff that should have been saved for a different setting.
He was ALWAYS like that though. Always needed me to reassure him of our relationship, etc. It got annoying fast.
Yeah I had a gf who was clingy. I loved the girl, but sometimes you need space, you need to have some time to yourself.
She'd break down into tears if I was going out alone...
My ex expected to be invited to girls' night. SERIOUSLY! He was insanely clingy. He was either insecure or did not trust me.
I used to be super clingy in my early 2 relationships. I remember crying if they didn't want to spend time with me that day. But then, I had a super possessive and clingy 3rd ex, who would be extremely pissed off at me when I wanted to be alone. After that, I became a lot less clingy, to the point that sometimes in this current relationship (#5), he would complain I forgot to call him, haha. I guess you can say it had an averse effect on me.
"Clingy" took on a whole new dimension with the invention of Facebook. Now whenever I see a status like "Jane loves her boyfriend soooooooooooooo much" in various forms, updated at least 15 times a day, I think that's clingy. When Bob starts posting things like "happy 6 hour anniversary babyyyy!" I think "Wow, I don't ever want to date anyone like that."
When your SO, and notifying the whole internet world that you even have an SO, becomes more important than everything else in your life I'd say you have shattered the boundaries of "clingy" and might just need professional help.
clingy peoples are usually insecure!
one of my exs was very clingy..
messages me all day asking me what im doing when he knows very well from 9-5 i have class and because he was at the school next door he would wait at my building waiting for me to come down for my break. 3 times a day! like.. CMON!! GO BACK TO CLASS OR SOMETHING!
even the guys in my class was a little.. 'what a moron' and i totally agreed and broke up with him after 2 weeks!
The two definitions sound the same to me. Slight differences here and there, but there's the same basic message.
I've never had a "clingy" significant other, but just some guy. Sometimes, I wonder if he knows that, even though he likes me, I do not owe him anything, nor am I obligated to spare every waking moment to his attention-seeking tirades. Ugh.
It's mostly a girl thing.. I tend to dislike guys who can't handle slightly clingy girls. I mean, the point of being in a relationship is to have a good time TOGETHER, so why do you need such a tremendous amount of space? A guy constantly needing space and large amounts of time away from his SO is just as annoying as a girlfriend being clingy. I think two people should learn to be in the same room or house and be completely fine doing their own things.
I think I had a clingy BF in high school..
they wouldn't be clingy if they felt secure in the relationship and maybe the other partner is not who they should be with. they may not give the person what they want.
i'm usually not clingy, unless i'm with someone who turns aloof on me. then it's time to go.
they also might be isolated and should perhaps get some friends, do their own thing and remember life without the partner
I myself have been clingy in every relationship that I've been in. None of my SO's have been that way.
If someone turns out to be clingy they don't even get close to being an SO. My definition of clingy means talking all the time, wanting to know where you were and who you were with, and generally bugging me constantly. No, I don't have time to talk with you on MSN for 3 hours every night because I *gasp* have a life, and if you get whiny when I tell you I have to go then BYE. (I had this happen to me before...lol)
I don't think this is necessarily a bad trait in your SO, unless it seems to effect how that person functions when you're not around.
I think it's great when people are in love and can spend a ridiculous amount of time together. As long as they can keep it healthy, and one or both can operate individually and not go completely haywire without their SO.
Clingy for men is when a girl's shirt is so tight you can see her nipples in wet t-shirt contests.
@Forever_Unlimited@xanga - ha ha ha
I think, I unintentionally tend to be a little clingy at times. I love spending time with him but if he wants to see his friends that's fine. We've been living together for a while so we're together all the time really but we enjoy it. He's even told me that he's noticed himself being clingy to me and that he's never normally like that with people (he's very independent). But, he loves me so I think that's a good thing :)
my bf said to me 'how come u're not as clingy as other girls?'
clingy means wanting to be with that person 'all' the time. non-stop phone calls, going out..etc
i am very very clingy. it means that care about you and enjoy your company so much that they like being around you very very much. "all the time" means every second of the day. i highly doubt that anyone wants to be around every second of every day. i personally think that selfish people use this word to shrug off people. some people just like to whine and pretend they are sooo good and sooo cool that every one and every thing is an inconvenience to them. i tell those peoplethat i can clinge to someone else. really.
my ex from years back, used to call me and text me all the time and he would always want to hang out. if i ever told him to give me a little space he would get mad and say i hate him and it use to annoy me soooo much. i dumped him soon after.
my other ex was everywhere. he was always outside my class waiting for me in high school. outside EVERY class. he was always there after school. my friends were annoyed because it was either i hung out with him alone or he hung out with us. it was all too annoying. I need my space, I need my friends and he should be with his friends. no one in any type of relationship should be together 24/7. it's annoying me just thinking back about it. lol
it's both definition in my opinion. and i dont think i have any clingy exes?
i'll admit that i am most likely considered clingy, but i never used to be that way. I've had two serious relationships in the past 3 1/2 years & both of the guys i would say are clingy. i think since they clinged to me it was difficult for me not to cling back. now it's like i'm at some point beyond return, b/c wen i want to hang out with my friends he's shocked i'm actually taking time to myself and we end up fighting for hours...