I've been asked this question a lot in regards to my own boyfriend. For a long while, I used to answer "Just because," because I honestly didn't have an answer to the question. I loved him because my heart would flutter every time I got near him - that was my only explanation.
But being asked that question repeatedly really made me do some deep thinking. And now I still answer "Just because" to it, since the actual answer I have is pretty complex. And there's the whole issue of fearing that I won't be understood, or that I'll just come off as way too mushy and laughable.
Yay for Xanga, lol. I can totally give my answer now and not feel too judged.
See, I've realized that there are quite a few parts to loving someone. This question does not only mean why do
I love
him - it's asking so much more than that, because love isn't just about how one person feels.
My boyfriend is gorgeous, of course. And he's immature like me, so a lot of fun to just play with - and I really mean simple kiddie games like tag or whatever. I know he's totally be up for that, and so am I... but if I were to mention it to friends I have that are my age, they'd be like, "Umm... I stopped being 5 like fourteen years ago..." He also makes me laugh constantly, and cry with a passion - and, clearly, makes my heart go all fluttery when I'm near him.
But then there's also the part about
him loving
me. That's super important... and it's another question - why does he love me? - hidden inside the first question.
Despite all of my flaws or whatever I've done in the past that would make me a bad person, he still loves me, because he thinks I'm a good person at heart. And because I'm just so intensely sexy, of course.
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And so, in return, I feel so completely cared for and appreciated that it's sort of impossible not to feel good... and loved... and therefore, in love.
Point is... this love isn't just about one person's feelings without anything in return from the other. (We usually call that kind "unrequited love" - sure, a type of love, but definitely not the same thing, hence the extra word. It's often synonymous with "obsession.") It's about two people that sort of... create a huge pool of loving emotions and then give and take equally from it.
I love my boyfriend for a LOT of reasons that have to do solely with him and how he is (many of which haven't been stated here). But I think I love him more because of what he is in relation to me. Because of how he makes me feel. Because of why
he loves
me.
If that makes any sense.
Why do you love your SO?
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i love him for a lot of reasons. enough to actually make a list. hahahaha...and the list never stops growing because i'm always adding to it
Because he's my best friend and can make me laugh even when I'm upset with him. Because he knows puts up with me when I'm stubborn or unreasonable. Because he takes care of me. Because he's not afraid to go against the crowd. Because he loves me. :D
There's so many reasons, I can't even name them all. And the reasons keep growing everyday. :)
I agree about love being different when it is returned as compared to when it isn't.
Because he makes me smile even when it seems like life sucks
In order to keep myself from making an extensive list of why I love my SO, I will just pick one. When life seems so stressful, he is the one who is able to bring me back down to earth with one simple kiss or simply by holding my hand.
Yikes! I think it's too hard to just write them down. I just do. :)
Some quote I digged up:
" If you have reasons for liking someone, you`re using your head. But if you don`t have reasons for liking that someone, then you`re using your heart."
There are many reasons why I love him.
words cannot describe why
i love him because ... there's this thing about him that tells me, "no matter what happens, i'll still be there"
but there's many many more ... too many to list. hehehe
Are you kidding? A logical perspective and inquisitive approach to the topic of love? Am I still at datingish.com?
I think when you find someone, who sees you at your worst. & I mean, PMS days, getting upset and crying for stupid reasons, and even throwing temper tantrums; and when they deal with it, & when you wake up next to them and they say "I will love you for the rest of our lives." Then you know you have a keeper
smaranda! heyyou
Because he taught me to be more grateful in life
only to me, he's beautiful, seriously, no one else really thinks that :(. he's strong, fun and he's a sexy swimmer ;)
right now i'm single and i'm loving it, but when i was still with my ex, people would always ask me the same question and always wanted to know why i was with someone like him but it wasn't because i like a-holes or anything, it was because he would always do small things for me without me asking, he used to bring me coffee every morning, make me breakfast in bed, i loved the way he said me name or after we had a long day at work, he would give me a whole body massage, how sometimes when we're in public, he'll reach for my hand to hold, he would always text me first thing in the morning that he loved me, he would call me every night before he went to bed to wish me a good night if he didn't sleep over, send me flowers, etc. he didn't say much that he loved me but showed more which i absolutely adored because i didn't want him to always say it to me, but to show me. love can be expressed many ways and you can't explain to someone else how you feel for someone else because every one has a different kind of language of love.
forget about the reasons - just go on loving :)
As I sit here trying to think of all the reasons why I love him, nothing feels as right as just simply saying that I do. He accepts me as I am, flaws and all. Sure, we go through rough patches like every other relationships, but for me.. he's different because I just feel it. (You know what I'mm talking about girls :P) Being with him is always a joy, when I'm sad, he knows just what to do to cheer me up. When I'm mad, he purposefully distracts my attention by drawing it to himself, & the weight of my anger just eases tremendously. He's the shoulder I lean on, the listener to all my problems, the advice giver.. even if it's not so great, seeing him make an effort just makes my heart sing. I'm the cynic in our relationship, always doubting his love for me, or maybe it's insecurity, either way, he's always there to dismiss the notion, and continue to profess his undying love for me. I know, he sounds like a dream, and I stupidly feel like I don't deserve him half the time. I think what I love the most about him is the fact that when he talks about the future, he says I have a permanent place in his. I just smile, because I believe him with all that I am, and I definitely see him in mine. ♥
i just love him...lol
@somebody__knows@xanga -yea same, i came up with 40 something reasons what i love about him
logic has no reasons for what the heart has done.
before we were dating, me and bf were just best friends, and when he had a gf, my feelings were like, oh shit what have i done? i don't "like" anyone! so for those three years he'd continue to crop up in dreams and thoughts ... i honestly tried NOT to love him. i had so many reasons not to. and then when they broke up, and i saw him again, i was still trying to hold back but my whole body was like - "uh-oh."
having been dating for a year now, i could have quite the lengthy list of things i love about him.
I love my fiance because... I feel really great around him. And other misc. things.
This may sound complicated..? Him & I are the worst people for each other...but at the same time, the best people for each other. Together, we make no sense; but we make the most sense I've ever known. We're two almost-completely different people; but he's like the boy version of me. I know...it's really weird.
Through all the good, the bad, & the ugly, we still care about each other immensely. Our friendship is a good balance of spending time w/ each other & spending time apart (because revolving your world around each other is unhealthy in the long-run). & we both understand each other & accept (sometimes, even ADORE) each other's flaws. We can sit around & do/say nothing for hours & still have fun from that. I cook for him & he buys me Arizona Iced Tea & we fix cars together. We're not in a relationship, though, because we're both afraid of commitment. But we're still caring & affectionate of each other. I hold him closer than I hold most people. "=) <3"
I love him for allowing me to love him. I'm not sure if that makes any sense but it does to me. (:
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I can't stay away from Dougie. No matter how hard I could try, I could never stay away from him. Everything else may change, I may drift from people, I may lose friendships, I may lose contact with siblings, but I will never lose Dougie. It's really comforting to think that. Seriously I love knowing that he's always always going to be by my side, through everything I put him through. We're a team now. Like the Bible says, when people get married they become one. Well I honestly see me and Dougie as one already. Just you know, not in the sexual sense that the Bible meant lol! He's absolutely everything to me. He's the one I can turn to when I want to share my joys or my sadness. He's the one I look to for advice on so much, he's seriously very wise. He's the one that I can always always count on. He's my personal sun He's always there, shining down on me, making me feel like the most important person in the world, when in reality, HE is the most important person in my world. He's my rock. We are on the same level with everything, listen to each other. He accept everything about me, makes me feel amazing as do I to him. And I made him the wonderful person he is today... he use to feel like shat all the time, shut out from his family but now he is greatest man alive
Dougie is my one and only. I love him and I will never ever let him go. I thank God for bringing such a wonderful person into my life everyday. I know how blessed I am to have him, and I don't take it for granted. He is truely my only only best friend