Miss AlligatorWhen I first met my boyfriend's parents, it was Parents Weekend at my college. We took his parents (and eventually mine as well) on a tour of the woods adjacent to my college because they were gorgeous that time of year. We'd only been together two months, but we were so giddy in love that we couldn't keep our hands off of each other, even in the presence of his parents. We'd hold hands and kiss right in front of them. Even when his parents took us out to dinner later that day, I'd sit on his lap, and we'd giggle at our stupid inside jokes and smile at each other for no reason. When my parents arrived on campus, our behavior didn't change. Luckily, both sets of parents thought we were adorable and didn't really have a problem with the constant PDA.
Now, eight months into our relationship, I think our PDA style has changed.
Our relationship is maturing, and we've come to realize that constant PDA isn't necessary - or even appropriate - in front of our parents. We've finally figured out that we will continue to exist, even if our lips aren't constantly attached. We seem to have limited our PDA to cuddling and pecks (can't help the stupid giggling or smiling at each other for no reason - I just can't make that stop happening :P) whilst in the company of parental units, just out of respect and not wanting to be rude or seem oblivious to their presence.
How much PDA are you guilty of in the presence of your or your SO's parents? How cool with the PDA are each of your parents? Has your PDA style changed throughout your relationship?
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I've kissed her in front of our moms, but not like swallow her face or anything.
I've met my boyfriend's mother multiple times, but he was playing soccer so it was just the mom and the girlfriend time. I haven't kissed or hugged him, but I have held hands with him when we ate out with his family for his birthday. He met my dad before he started dating me and my dad hasn't said anything bad about him (its a GREAT sign). So... my boyfriend has yet to meet my mother. I'm not sure if I would do anything with my boyfriend in front of the parents.
If anything, just holding hands or cuddling.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - That'd be a neat trick!
i was never a PDA person in front of people i know well or parents, so when i was at my bfs place he would always hold me, pull me to sit on his lap and kiss me in front of his brother and parents. at my place we hardly at least not in the presence of peoples except my dog.
its been 7 months and we are still the same as when we first were, he can't keep his hands off me! and tries to carry me all over the place...
i am more aware of our surroundings but he isn't.. so in his world there is just me and him
My wife has the habit of, when I'm standing between her and her parents, slipping her hand down my pants and grabbing my butt. Her parents can't see what she's doing because I'm blocking the view, but of course I have to keep from yelping or letting my eyes bug or anything so they won't catch on. It's gotten to the point where, when I know we're off to visit the in-laws, I wear a tighter belt. (It's turnabout, I guess: I do something similar when she's on the phone with her friends, to watch her try not to react...)
Which, I guess, is by way of saying, our PDAs in front of her parents are insanely inappropriate, but we sneak them in when no-one's looking.
My parents rarely see us together but if they do, all they will see is a hug and a kiss on the cheek or the forehead. He likes to hold my hands in the presence of his parents, though I find it kind of awkward. I don't think they mind, though. He'll also hug me, kiss my cheek or whatever so I don't think it's awkward for him.
When I went with his mom to send my bf off to Taiwan, we were standing by the terminal awkwardly because we didn't know what to say with his mom and aunt there. Haha his mom demanded "aren't you going to give her a hug?" lol his parents are more comfortable with me than mine are with him.
My mom starts making comments when I hug my boyfriend in front of them...
Just in general my bf and I aren't exceptionally PDA-ish in front of anyone, including parents. Some hugging and hand-holding is as much as we do in front of others.
My dad isn't really fond of PDA. The most he would allow (or basically can stomach) is holding hands. He's really into the hardcore traditional values that we are not allowed to touch each other in front of parents or relatives. Her parents, however, never really said anything to her about PDA.
We mostly hold hands, sometimes hug, and sometimes give small pecks.
aw cute :)
Well, I don't like PDA much anyway. Sort of makes me feel like a biatch, but whatever. My boy's grown accustomed to it. :D
We hold hands and have quick pecks in public. We also hug and cuddle a little bit.
In front of my parents, I continue to do the same. But when I'm around his grandma or his dad, I'm like...fidgety. So I don't do anything.
Personally, and no offense to anyone...... I think PDA is unnecessary and childish. Holding hands or a simple stare is enough. If you've ever been in love or are discovering love you'll soon find out that PDA is a joke. If you truly loved each other you don't need to prove to anyone that you're in love; you just know that you are and honestly, other than the two of you..... no one else cares how much you are in love with each other.
@NSFWChristian@xanga - HAHA! My boyfriend does the same thing when I'm on the phone.
I don't get him back though, because I think it's insanely funny and...well...hot when he does it. XD
@blissful_soul@xanga - Uh, but what about the people that don't do it for other people to acknowledge them? What about the people that do it because they don't care what other people think? I'm not one of them (I don't care what other people think, but I like to be comfy and alone when things get more than hand-holding, really), but I know some of them.
@blissful_soul@xanga & @Mangonese@xanga - PDA, for me, isn't about proving that I love my boyfriend, or showing off, or anything. It's more about me being so in my own little world of love with my boyfriend that I don't even pay attention to the people around us.
i don't like PDA all too much especially in front of parents, so it is very limited to holding hands and pecks on the cheeks. I think PDA is gross and should be left in the bedroom, seriously. no one else needs to see you groping each other.
haha i mean kissing, like pecks, are fine. hugging, holding hands are fine. but swallowing each other's face is deff not necessary
I don't like anyone doing PDA really at all. Having your arm around the other person, hugging, or little peck kisses are fine. I hate being around people, even with my own boyfriend, while people are making out and touching each other. It's disrespectful. People don't want to see that.
I've really only hugged and gave a little kiss to my boyfriend around my parents... they would not like the PDA especially, seeing as they don't really 100% approve of him. That's all we've done basically infront of anyone. Unless no one is looking he'll quickly hit my bum or something silly like that.
The most I do with my rents in the same room is hug lol.
with my parents, there's never much PDA going on. my parents are pretty strict even though i'm 24 now about bringing guys around the house. my parents are really strict christians so when any guys comes to visit, they would have to sleep at the relatives house and when we go out, we have to go in a group, which I don't mind because i have to respect my parents' wishes. when we're at my parents house, we barely sit close to each other. and when i was with my last bf, we were spending thanksgiving and christmas with his mom, we probably just sat together in the living room watching tv with my legs over his and may be a peck here and there on the cheek but because his mom was somewhat religious, i offered to sleep in a different room so she would be comfortable with me. in general, i'm not a super PDA person, i like to hold hands and maybe get a kiss here and there, but to me, all that stuff is for the bedroom or in private.
With the only boyfriend I ever brought home to show mom and dad (learned from that mistake!) the first time I hugged him, I got a stern lecture after he left about "Public Displays of Affection and How They Are Damaging To the Virgin Child." So, from then on out, I made sure to give him a huge goodbye kiss whenever we were around my parents.
Yay me.
Whoa those must be the coolest parents ever. I wouldn't sit in his lap when they're around.
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - Heh, both his parents & my parents are pretty cool, if I do say so myself :P
Wow...I would never be able to do that. My parents are quite traditional so my bf and I have only held hands. I haven't met his family yet but it'll be the same...just hand-holding...no kissing or sitting in each other's laps. hahaha