Monday, 01 June 2009
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I Sent My Ex A Mean Email And It Caught Up with Me
Dear Datingish,Right now I feel stupid - about an hour ago I was dancing around my living room in triumph, now I trudge around in the basement, hidden from the public (my family).
Two days ago I got a message on Facebook from an old flame (we've fizzed for about a month now). He wanted to know if I wanted to "chill." ...at first I was sort of flattered...but then I remembered, after three days of being officially single, he was in a relationship with "Amy White" (whoever that is). So, in response to his question, I wrote a semi-nasty e-mail...
BEGIN SEMI-NASTY E-MAIL
No, I don't "wanna chill," Aaron, because I will have to deal with people like you for the rest of my life, but if I can help it, I'd prefer not to surround myself with them... This is not to be offensive *yes it is!* by any means, and no, I'm not angry...I'm just accepting of it - it. It as in you as a friend, or almost anything, are a lowering of standards, and I knew that for a long time, I just avoided it. Just because you're home now, and are probably bored out of your mind, doesn't mean that I'll be your "call back girl" any time soon. I'll probably see you at Josh and Kim's wedding though... Talk to me when you learn how to spell, okay? :)
END SEMI-NASTY E-MAIL
So...after I sent it, I felt so good...so liberated...for about ten minutes. Then I re-read the message and had the mental image of Aaron crying because I was so mean. I know that sounds stupid, but it's true...I had that image...and then my conscience began to gnash its teeth at me...yelling at me and attacking me like some sort of wounded gazelle...I felt awful, so I called him. *FIRST mistake!*
He was with some friends and didn't know who I was because he "didn't have my number anymore". This only made me feel dumber because it implied that I had kept his number after our...fizzle (if you could even call it that). I didn't and had to ask his brother for it, but that's beside point...the point is, I called him to apologize for a message he hadn't even read yet, but in my panic I failed to think about that.
I just feel really stupid...like such a girl. Such a dumb girl - I'm sure his friends thought I was psycho, and he probably did too. I believe I ended the conversation with "have a nice life, bye." ...wow.
Stupid much?
Stupid yes.
Anybody else have some recent boy blunders? ...I don't think I'm alone on this.
Head hung low,
Allyisa
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- From: colormethespian@xanga
- Name: Allyisa
- About Me: I'm a college freshman at UW-MWC who loves life, senses of humor and people that attempt good grammar!
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Boy blunders, girl blunders, we all do stupid things. I've done what you did, several times, and bitch out girls for leading me on and then turning around saying "You're nice, but I just don't", proceeding to make me the "call back" guy for the asshole they turned to, yada yada. Yeah, I was "that guy" once. <_<
Make a mistake once, it was slightly foolish but you can learn from it and promise yourself that you'll never do it again.
Make it twice, you're an even bigger fool.
Promise yourself you won't let your emotions take over you and make impulsive decisions when you know you're not at your best. And actually commence with it.
That's all you can really do now. =/ Move forward, forgive yourself after dealing with whatever his reaction and his friends' reactions are now, and don't ever do something that rash again.
We're all guilty of making silly mistakes when it comes to guys/girls. Just calm down and move on. It's already happened and there's nothing you can do about it now.
Oh, no, you aren't alone. I have done pretty much the exact same thing before. *hands you the biggest bar of chocolate imaginable* It'll stick with you for a while but, eventually, you will feel less stupid for it.
@pawnshop_heart@xanga -
While we're on that, make it either Hershey's Symphony with Toffee and Almonds or Lindt Lindor's White Coconut.
I'd suggest Godiva but they're too damn expensive.
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - I'd spring for the Godiva in this case. *LOL*
Actually, I like what you wrote in the email. You showed that you won't let him take advantage of you or treat you like an idiot. And you proved that you have the strength to stand up to a man who doesn't treat you right. Go teach the rest of the world a few lessons, you have no reason to feel guilty. (:
Ahhh we've all had those shitty moments... And i hate it worse but you'll never forget how stupid you felt!! But on the plus side, next time you'll think twice about what your saying. You know, sometimes its best to not say anything at all.
Don't regret the email. Do regret the phone call, but just move past it... we all screw up from time to time... every single one of us.
I don't think I've ever sent someone a nasty email or anything, but I have acted like a total dumbass before. For a while there (a few years ago, anyway) I thought that I had the word "idiot" tattooed to my forehead.
But anyway, don't worry about what you done. Really. He's an ex, doesn't seem like you really want anything to do with him. What's the worst that could happen? It's not like the entire world knows about what happened, plus I think a ton of people would sympathize rather than think you were a fool or something.
I'm great at making those kind of mistakes.
ugh. =[
wow, the e-mail was mistake number one... u cud've just not replied...
how old are you? if ur any older than 17 this whole story is probly about 10x worse cuz sounds like a "mistake" only a 12 yr old wud make.
actually this email is far from being nasty. you have every right to say those words, so he knows he can no longer walk all over you. the common mistake we, as women all make is that we try to be nice all the time. but when the man doesnt deserve it, he just needs a punch in the face. bravo
i actually just had an ex recently do that to me! but she didn't call to apologize. but ever since then her footprints on my xanga have tripled.
creepy. yes.
Wow, I made a similar mistake like yours recently but oh well, I just have to live and learn from mistakes.
i have and then felt really bad too...we all make mistakes, it's part of life, i'm sure he'll move on, don't worry.
he wont cry. dont apologize.
Say what you say. Don't apologize. Don't call back.
It was the best thing I ever did when I sent an email like that.
I probably do. I say mean things to my boyfriend all the time, feel super guilty, and then call him back right away to apologize.
Whereas when we fight, he can just fall asleep anytime. But because I'm super close to him, I don't really care about looking bad, loll.
I've written my share of nasty emails - but kept most of them as drafts, which I suggest that you do in the future! It's very liberating to write such emails, but the potential for regret is too high. You can always click send later if you haven't gotten the anger out of your system yet. :)
you shoulda just let it be
aiyah. =\
@graywolf0@xanga - That's exactly what I thought...I don't get why she thought it was nasty.
We all make mistakes. As you grow older, you'll learn to think longer before you act. Blame it on old age, or blame it on responsible thinking :P
gahh
I've said really stupid things in the past too. They made me sound like some psycho stalker lol.
I guess we all get too caught up in the moment...we forget to think.
don't worry. Boys are stupid and forget things :)
This isn't nasty, don't worry about it. You should just move on, it sounds like he has. It'll hurt but time heals everything, and he doesn't sound like the kind of guy a girl would want to date anyways. Best thing to do from now on is ignore him, stay positive and keep busy!