Monday, 01 June 2009
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I'm Already Nervous About My Wedding
I'm getting married in almost a year and a half, and the more I think about the wedding, the more anxious I get. Not over getting married to my fiance, because he is wonderful, but over the wedding itself. I am not the kind of person who likes the be the center of attention. I feel much better off sitting off into a corner and observing things from afar. It scares me to think that all eyes will be on me.
Is it normal to feel like this?
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Why not just elope, then?
Yes..it's totally normal!
My fiance (now husband) is a lot like you....he does NOT like to be the center of attention. He started getting nervous about six months out but he did great! :)
My best friend (who's 3 year anniversary is on Wed) was terrified from the moment they got engaged. She wanted to elope but knew she would be very thankful for all the wedding stuff later --- she was right, she loves her pictures and memories from that day! :)
Yes, this is totally normal! I'm getting married in just a little over five months (yikes!), and I'm definitely nervous! Specifically, I'm nervous about getting everything done in time. It seems like there's so much to do!
The best advice I can give you is to just take advantage of the time you've got so you can plan bit by bit rather than all at once--bit by bit is MUCH less stressful. Take time off from wedding planning now and again to spend time doing things you loved before getting engaged--it'll help you to feel like you're still YOU, just you getting married, rather than some bridal-esque replacement of your authentic self. Spend time reconnecting with your fiance--you're going to be spending the rest of your life with him, after all! Eat well, and exercise plenty--both will keep you healthy and, added extra bonus, both will help you deal with any body issues you have before the big day. And of course, pause once in a while and take a deep breath. As you exhale, remember that millions of couples all take the same plunge every year, and they all live to write their thank-you notes!
Good luck, honey! One bride to another, I'm rootin' for ya!
i think it's pretty normal. a wedding is almost like a performance. people get stage fright.
don't worry though... everything will turn out fine.
i'm in the same boat as you are. Both my fiance and myself don't like to be the center of attention. But we know that we will disappoint a lot of people and ourselves later down the line if we just eloped.
I think the parties and showers will help ease us into things.
Completely normal. My brother and his wife just got married and they both hate being the center of attention! That was the only part they were nervous for.
YOUR FIRST TIME ?
I would be nervous about that, too. Don't stress yourself over it. Maybe a really small wedding would be more suitable.
lol I'm like you... if I ever get engaged that will probably be the number one thing I'm going to be nervous for. So I'd say that's pretty normal.
I would just be really scared to lik walk across the room with all eyes on me... and then I trip and fall on my face. I always trip so I really hope that doesn't happen.
But I'm sure everyone would be the same with the nervous part, but I know that some of my friends are SO EXCITED AND READY TO GET MARRIED. Just look forward to it. You get that one time with him :)
I know how you feel...I'm the same way. I'm not engaged yet, but hope to be soon.
My plan (and my boyfriend seems okay with it) is to get married in Mexico on a really nice all-inclusive resort. They pretty much take care of everything. Anyone can come, but they have to pay for themselves. I assume only close friends and family will come, so I won't have to deal with that many people. I'm very low maintenance and don't want to stress about planning a party for 300+ people. No thank you!
Plus, what's more beautiful than a wedding on the beach?
This is exactly why I don't want a wedding.
It's normal but if you're extremely nervous about it, have a small simple wedding of only families and the bestest of friends.
Totally normal. My sister is that way. She's going to have a small destination wedding :)
I'm the same way. But I got through the ceremony just fine. You probably won't even think about it during the wedding, you'll be so caught up in the ceremony itself.
Plus, if you have a future sister-in-law like mine, you won't have to worry. She's an attention whore, and spent the whole time trying to steal the show.
Yes =)
Congratulations! [It will all turn out well]
i'm getting married this coming october, and i'm terrified. just knowing that there will be a hundred people there looking at me, scares me so much! my plan is to show up on my wedding day looking the best i ever have, and as i walk through the chapel doors, find my fiance, lock eyes, and not look at anyone else. because if i do, i'll cry and start shaking and i'll be a mess.
...i'll let you know how that goes. ; )
i guess it would be the norm but on the other hand, i like to be the in the center of the attention so i would totally enjoy it. i'm sure you're just worried because you want things to go perfectly fine. good luck.
yepp. but don't worry about it so much, you'll do fine :]
hey!
I'm in the same boat.. I'm getting married in 9 months (EEEEK) and I'm freaking. I can't even sit and think about it in any great detail, let alone plan it/be excited. I just feel so anxious when I try to.
But we've got to remember, it's about our relationships, not about what people want or expect or even about a big she-bang. it's about the vowels and us and our partners. And there's plenty of time to plan it and try and get some excitement in there to give us some confidence to stand in front of a big crowd! (or just make it a small gathering, it's your prerogative).
Whatever you do, if this nervousness isn't about the marriage itself, don't let it put doubts in your head or push your partner away. It should be something you enjoy together.
All the best for your big day!
Congrats. =D
I've always felt this way too. When I get married (if I ever do) I think I would have it as a private yet still elaborate ceremony. Your wedding shouldn't be a cause for dread and self consciousness and anxiety. You should be excited! And if it's not something you're comfortable with then you need to tell your fiance.
it is very normal to get nervous in the spotlight. just relax, drink some champagne, take a xanax, and enjoy your party. especially since you're celebrating your love. Congratulations!!!
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