Friday, 29 May 2009
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I Think I'm Smitten...But He Hasn't Called Me Yet
I think I'm smitten. I was at this bar on Memorial Day. A whole in the wall local hang out type of bar. After a LONG night of meeting some new people and trying to calm myself down after I found out my crazy (should be committed) ex cornered my poor best friend and harassed her about who I was there with, I ended up at a bar table with my girlfriends just talking. The bar got quiet and at the table next to ours, there was this guy sitting there. I was automatically drawn to him. So I smiled, which I NEVER do. Then I ended up sitting next to him (on purpose) on a bar stool. I was with one of my guy friends who was drunk and dancing hysterically and he kept bumping into this adorable guy. I turned to him, grabbed his arm and said "I am so sorry! He's a little drunk" and we started laughing. He responded "No, it's okay. He's so funny."
And then I got butterflies.
It was a warm and inviting conversation. We talked about college and where we grew up and so on. He is incredibly good looking but in a boy-next-door kind of way. So my friends (who were all very cranky because it was late and wanted to go home) informed me we were leaving.
I told him it was nice meeting him but inside I was screaming "Please! Ask for my number." As I turned away he softly grabbed my arm and took out his phone, to which I asked, "are you going to ask for my number?" and we started laughing. I gave him my number and I got his. He had an iPhone and tried to friend request me on Facebook but then I remembered I blocked anyone from searching for me (because of my internship) and so I took his full name. He lived two blocks from the bar and asked my best friend (who drove that night) if it would be okay if he got a lift and she agreed. We dropped him off and that was it. I got a text that night that just said how funny my one friend was in the car (she was drunk and the entire conversation was really very funny).
I friend requested him the day after and he accepted...only... I haven't heard from him. I don't think I will. I'm so upset over this but I just feel as though he's not some guy in a bar. I keep thinking I'll hear from him. I don't know if it's that "I'm going to wait a few days to call her" game or if he's not interested.
Then I think..what if when he took out his phone as I was walking away...it was just to look at the time to ask for the ride home....maybe he wasn't interested. Then again I could tell he enjoyed talking to me and pulled me into conversation.
I don't know him.. and I have it bad for him. It's SO silly. I want him to call or contact me and if he doesn't...I'm not going to lie...I'll be disappointed.
What do you guys think? You think I'll hear from him OR he would have contacted me by now?
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heerz an idea why dont you fon him
Call him yourself.Â
from my experiences, if he liked you, he would have called by now.
text/phone him. Just like the people above said :) Maybe you can say "hey aren't you going to call me?". Nothing starts until you (or he) takes the initiative. Maybe it's just because he's nervous, but you can do it ;)
You can try calling him. It doesn't hurt to do that. :)
Call him and tell him he's an a-hole for not calling you, then hang up.
if you like him, then you make the first move. why should you wait around for him to contact you? just make the first move. you have his facebook and phone number. go for it
If he didn't like you, why ask for your number, or give you his full name for FB? Just call him, what can you lose, right? And you can find out whether he's worth it or not rather than waiting arnd and stressing yourself out.
I wouldn't necessarily say that he doesn't like you. There are signs that he could possibly be interested in you. Why would he have kept talking to you if he didn't find something interesting about you? He could have just walked home, since he lived that close; instead he asked for a lift. He let you add him on facebook, too.
Just say hi to him on facebook or something else simple like that. See how he responds, then make a decision on whether you think he's interested.
Wow, we girls really do over think things ;)
it's only been 4 days, give the man a break. but hey it can't hurt to make the first move...then at least he'll know you're interested =)
He's just not that into you.
@mycontinuity@xanga - That's what I was thinking, too
i dont know, i just dont think meeting a guy at a bar should be taken seriously
Maybe you could, oh, I dunno, try contacting him yourself instead of waiting around for him. Go for it, if you want it that bad. Phone connections work both ways, you know.
Text him. It will get things started
Perhaps they may be right by saying he would have called you by now if he were interested, but how about you try calling him?
Don't go crazy with the Facebook messages. Just leave one. Sometimes people don't check or bother to reply to comments, even if you see activity on his page. After posting a comment on his wall, you can't do much but wait or try to call him, but not more than once a day. Remember, he's still a stranger.
Call him. See how it goes from there. It doesn't hurt to try because he'll just be a stranger anyway if it doesn't work out.
I figured I would update: I texted him and it started a small conversation and he invited me out last night. I had to decline because I had plans with my cousin already. I wouldn't neccessarily say he seemed interested but now I figure the ball is in his court since I made the first move. If it happens to go somewhere great, if not HES JUST NOT THAT INTO ME
 and I move on.Â
Maybe he's thinking .. "why hasn't she called yet? Maybe she's just not interested.."
@ally_bay_bee@xanga - Oh, nice one.
He might be attached...and just very social and easy to connect with (in a platonic way)...just putting that out there.
i do this ALL the time....it's quite sad. i'm sure it might be more but it's not your fault, it's up to the guy to initiate...but if i were you i would definitely reply to him, text him..SOMETHING! Help him out, and give him an extra clue
Why should he have to call? You've made all the first moves so far, right?