Miss Walrus
There was a time when I hung out with the cutest boy I have ever seen (yes, he still earns that title). He was skinny and pale and had ice blue eyes and a lip ring. Oh, and he had a whole Johnny Depp-esque vibe about him.
Not only was he cute, but he was also seriously flirting with me. He was witty, smart and articulate – and it just made him all the more attractive.
And then, he mentioned going back to his dorm. Wait - what?! Here, I thought I’d been talking to some mature junior with his own house or apartment and possibly a sexy sports car. But alas, my new crush was...brace yourself...a freshman, and the closest thing he had to a set of wheels were the ones on his skateboard.
This boy had just graduated high school less than six months ago, while I have been living on my own for the past three.
I was taken back for a moment, but as soon as I pushed the idea from my mind that this boy was the same age as my little brother, I started to ponder the possibilities. How bad could it really be to have fun with this boy who was obviously smitten with me – and probably would like me more because I could buy him booze? What shame was there in hooking up with a freshman if he was gorgeous, smart and hilarious?
I never actually ended up hooking up with the young hottie, but I wanna know what you girls think. Is age really just a number? Have you ever dated someone significantly older or younger than you – and what constitutes “significant”?
Comments (52)
Eh, I don't think it's so bad if you're older than him. I think at the college age, the age difference isn't such a big deal, compared to when it might be a little more weird in high school. I wouldn't call it "robbing the cradle."
I've only dated guys a year younger than me, & guys my age.
Hugh Hefner says age is just a number, and you've seen his girlfriends.
I wouldn't consider it craddle robbing if you're both in college.
i like younger guys too. i think it's totally fine.
If you both are 18 and older, nah. People just need to be responsible and ready for a relationship. Age differences shouldn't be too horrible. As long as both parties are fit for each other, age shouldn't matter too much.
I would date older guys just because of my wise mother's saying: "Men are their age -5, so if you're looking for a mature guy look for older men". It's not true for ALL men. But, guidelines work for me ;) I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 21. Not too much of a difference there!
Younger guys get my vote. I know married couples where the woman is 10-20 yrs older and the guys wouldn't change a thing. I have an ex that is 10 yrs younger and one a little more than that.
I've dated older and younger, up to 2 years in both directions. i think maturity really depends on the individual, although if all you were doing was hooking up and not even dating I'm not sure why it would matter anyways.
sort of silly though, at first i thought you were going to say he was in college and you were like 30, instead, you're both in college... and it's really not that big of a gap at all.
If he said "Gotta go, mom said I can't be out past 10".... then you should be worried.
You're good, I think.
I think cradle-robbing is more along the lines of you being out of college or something. It's what...two or three years difference? No big deal.
The only problem I would have is if the guy was somewhat submissive and allowed me to have too much control over the relationship. But that doesn't have much to do with age.
@JaydenWolf@xanga - Agreed
It's his mental age that counts, if that makes sense to you. If he's mature enough to handle a relationship then there's really no big deal.
My husband is 6 years older than me, and we wouldn't change a thing <3
lol, my friend and i were remarking the other day about how the first and second year boys seem way cuter this year than the third and fourth years. maybe we're just too used to seeing the same guys around. time for some fresh meat. er, freshmen.
I wouldn't want to date anyone younger than me, but that's my own personal preference.
i think in a way people are gonna see it as bad in general, thinking, "what do you see in him, he's so young" the whole works. but it's all up to you really.
I'm totally drawn to younger guys. They're just so much hotter than men my age. Then again, I don't know that many single men my age. They don't show enough interest. I think the excitement with younger guys is that they can be our boy toys. There was this guy at work 6 years younger that I wanted to take advantage of. It was really flattering that this young buck was interested in me, someone so much older. But alas, my logical, rational mind won't allow me to do it. Stupid brain.
omg im in the same situation, except im going to be a sophomore in college and he is going to be a senior in high school, the same age as my younger sister. but hes so good looking, sweet, smart, just a total package. weve been friends for a few years because we work together but this yaer we really hit it off and i want to pursue it. so this makes me happy to see the majority of people who think it is ok to date younger boys. lets go for it together!
I only date younger men. dk why, I am not attracted to older men or vice versa. My preference is about...7 to 10 years younger than me is perfect. They like it that way too. don't worry about it!!! It happens the opposite way all the time too (older man/younger woman by a decade) so why not the other way? also, younger men are a whole lot better in bed, a whole lot, and much more open minded
Age is ooooooooooooooooonly a number
Older men only. I don't even like guys my own age.
And if you think buying alcohol for your underage hookup buddy is a surefire way to get him to like you...wow. Sorry, that's kind of pathetic.
I think it just depends on what you are comfortable with. I obviously wouldn't get together with someone who was 20+ years my junior or senior. For me, that is just whack. I mean no offense to anybody who is comfortable with that kind of age difference. I just cannot see myself with someone with that kind of age difference between us. Luckily, my fiance and I are only two years apart, though I'm the older of the two.
I don't prefer dating guys younger than me, but i have dated a guy who was 1 day younger than me, (this was when i was 15) and it bothered me even though it was just 1 day. i dated a guy 2 and a half years older than me. I like older guys (can be up to 6-7 years older).
My ex was 7 years older than me. My current boyfriend is 2 years older. Age is a number. Personally, I always go for older guys because I'm very mature for my age. The important thing is having something in common. Too few differences are bad as well as too many.
It's not like you want to marry the guy! He's legal! I say go for it!
I had messed around with an 18yo once, and I was/still am 23 at the time...i didn't really like it, but i would never date an 18yo, that is the last time i would ever mess with someone that young.
now, i'm the same as you. i think i may like this guy who is three years younger than me. he is the same exact age as my ex's brother and he's friends with both of them which i try not to think about because i have so far only hung out with him with another guy that's not related to my ex...but also friends with my ex.
but 5 years younger and 6 years older have been my range
I am actually dating someone younger than me. I am 8 months older than him. But you cant really tell when you are lookin at him. He looks older than he is.