Wednesday, 27 May 2009
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"You annoy the crap out of me, and yet I can't get enough of you."
So I've heard about how there's this spark when you first talk to someone and you know he or she is the one. For some people, it's how they have common interests, maybe the same kind of movies or sports, or just their view about life. For others, it may be how well they get along, have fun and really connect...you know?
How about I give you guys a totally different outlook? I have been dating this guy for 3 years now. The first time we met was in high school, through a friend. He was the science geek and I was this really hyper kid who belonged to the "cool people" group. A mis-match. When we first said hello, it was nothing more than a handshake and a hello and a "sure, whatever" in our head....until one day when I was really bored out of my mind and I had started to search for random school people on Facebook. I saw his profile (let's call him Slog - that's his nickname) and I asked myself, "What the hell?" and I added him. Next thing I knew, we were chatting on MSN all night. I still hated him for his totally absurd view of life, and the fact that, you know, I thought he was a geek.
But then we met up. Just like that. We met up and we fought all through our 'hangout' together. As he told me more about himself, I realized how totally different he was. Like no seriously, very, very different. His obsession with Manchester United, his long hair, his taste of music, his choice of clothing brands, his idea of a summer holiday, and did I mention his totally absurd view of life?
Slog plans for every single moment in his life. He has a schedule made for even, say, drinking a glass of water...and me, I don't even know where my life is going or what I want to do after college.
But yet after totally despising each other for a few weeks (NO secret feelings involved) we became friends. And then one night we sat under the stars, and while he bored me with the names of different constellations, he held my hand and said the sweetest thing ever. "You annoy the crap out of me, and yet I can't get enough of you. I can't seem to get along with you, but I can't seem to go along without you, too. I hate you but I'm so totally in love with you."
And that's it. He didn't have to say anything anymore. I knew it was totally weird to date someone who is completely different from you. Someone who does all of the things you hate. He smokes, he listens to heavy metal, he wants to go to Addis Ababa for holiday. I can never get along with him, even after all these years. We talk over the phone and we always have nothing to talk about.
But that's the beauty of our relationship. We will stay over the phone for an hour without talking, because anything we say will ruin it. It's amazing how you just KNOW that you love him. That little something in him, that makes you believe that this is meant to be. That feeling of contentment when you hug him and it makes you realize that at the end of the day it's just the heart that matters.
Couples who have worldly fights just need to know how to make it work. My story might seem really superficial but it doesn't matter. The only thing I know that ever matters is having someone love you so much and loving them back despite having a truckload of reasons to hate them.
Anyone else have a similar story like me? Do leave a comment!<3
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Well, I don't really have a similar story as you do... However, I do think it is better to have someone different from you... the reason is that if you have someone who has the exact same interest as you... some time later, you both will find it boring because you do the same thing every single time... I think it is good to have someone who thinks or does differently than you... you gain more knowledge and experience in life...
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opposites attract, i guess...?
i feel like i'd grow bored with a person i couldn't have a conversation with. imagine spending the rest of your life having nothing to talk about... now THAT would be awful.
how...wonderful? I guess lol
Somehow similar. I'm an artist, he's a science geek...sort of, a science geek. He likes to explain a lot and at first, I made fun of that and he really didn't like it. Well, he gets pissed off easily while i'm the cool one. I'm an expert with memorization and he detests that. I flunk in Physics and that's where he excels.
He's not my BF, just my SO... we're together for more than six months. So far, we're ok. We're on something like LDR-we study in two far away universities.
I guess it's really cool. We complete each other!
this is so sweet :)
that's sweet. for me, i could never go with someone the total opposite of me. I'd get annoyed and I'd argue with him all the time. I wouldn't be able to stand that. But then again that's what all those korean/japanese drama have. opposites attract. although I still don't believe it. =T
that's really sweet, i'm happy it's working out for you!
I always worry whether I'm annoying my boyfriend. I'd say I'm quite jumpy and laughing all the time, whereas he has this 'coolness' about him. I think that's what we like about each other though X )
That is sooo totally AWSOME! And you guys been together for 3 years!? An amazing love story =D and kinda funny XD
I suppose this is the reason why "opposites attract" is a widely known phrase.
That's beautiful. XD
I don't know ... I think that it's good to be different from your SO in some ways. On the other hand, I think it's a recipe for disaster if you disagree about big things (i.e. life views) or too many little things. Once that infatuation fades you'll still annoy the crap out of each other but you won't be able to take it quite as well anymore. Haha.
Still, everybody's different and if you've made it three years already, you might just be proof that opposites really do attract.
complicated..
wow, that sounds like my current relationship. i'm a science geek, and my gf is this cool musician/designer. we started talking by arguing about issues. we know things the other does not. and we both think the things we know and do are really cool!
i hope yours will work out. best of luck!
haha, well, my first (and only) boyfriend was homeschooled, and SO WEIRD! he totally intrigued me though. i LOVED how he had the STRANGEST point of view on everything. he was so overwhelmingly sweet. the craziest thing is that we argued about EVERYTHING. at first i thought that he was just SO different. and he admits, to this day, that we are TOO different. now i've come to realize that we're not different at all. in fact, we're so much alike it scares me. he brought out this whole other side of me that i never knew existed, and i think maybe i did the same for him.
we've been broken up 3 months now. i'm trying really hard to get over him, but something tells me that i'm losing the one person that truly understood me. my soul mate.
@lastlyfirst@xanga - I think that's Paula Abdul's fault, actually.
I understand, my bf and I are opposites in most ways and he drives me crazy a lot. We have almost nothing in common and he likes to argue, which works out because we have plenty to argue about. I'm more open to stuff and like his taste in music, which is good because he listens to it constantly. But that's about it... And yet when we're on the phone or especially in person, I feel close to him and somehow it works.
yeah somehow similar. I'm the geek, lame loser girl who stays at home all night and day while my boyfriend is constantly out chilling with his friends and skipping school.
2 different social circles. very different. can be TOTALLY frustrating but somehow very amazing (:
I always thought I needed somone exactly like me. But then I got someone who was exactly opposite of me. I knew I didnt like it. And then I realized I would hate dating someone like me.
My ex and I had thsi relationship where we disagreed about everything. We argued all the time. but we ended up being together for 10 months. It was weird.
I can't date someone whose exactly like me. But I can't date someone exaclty NOT like me. It needs to be compromise. And thats why my bf is perfect for me.
Plus I've learned how to accept peoples differences more.
I'm glad it works out for you
I don't think I'd want my boyfriend to be annoyed with me. It would only make me self-conscious. But we are kind of opposites. :D I've been with him for almost three years, too, and I've known him for four years. It's like that song "hate how much I love you." It sort of relates. lol
I love watching two people who are completely different find something worth liking in one another. I think those types usually outlast the ones that have everything in common. It would be like living with yourself... no adventure. Nothing interesting.
hmm. the boy im dating is pretty different from me. hes a science geek art boy . he can babble on and on and on about something and ill lose him after the first sentence :] while im the cheerleader and history kinda person
hes an athiest and im a jesus lover
he likes to run and i like to sleep
hes super tall and im very tiny.
but we dont fight or disagree on much at all. we nag eachother on interests and hobbies, but then we find stuff that we both like, same type of music, eating, and zombies :]
there has to be a little bit of balance i suppose
The only similar thing about this story is that we both hate each other. We're not dating, he's not geeky-- he's cocky, loud, and athletic. He's too aggressive and rude & people say thats normal for Korean guys...? I find that kinda weird cuz most of my guy friends and are Korean except this one. He likes me, but I HATE HIM... he wont stop asking me to go out with him. I told him straight up I won't, but the kid wont budge. The thing that makes it worse is that we hate each other, but my anger towards him draws him even more >.>
I met my fiance on the school bus in my junior and his freshman year of high school. He blew my hair, I got sick of it, and I smacked him for it (if memory serves me right). That was the start of a beautiful friendship. I wasn't popular. No way was I popular. He was weird and even nerdy (still is LOL), and let's face it I wasn't much better off either in means of social status amongst the peers. He liked me from day one, but I didn't. Plus, I was pining for some other guy who was never really interested in me more than as a friend. That's a long story that has nothing to do with any of this, but anyway.
I didn't want to date him knowing I had feelings for some other guy and treat him like a second banana, or even worse a rebound. I don't regret that decision in the least. That doesn't go to say I'm sorry I've been dating him. Far from it. It was two years later two weeks after graduation I finally said yes to going out with him when a mutual friend of ours asked me out for him. He was such a chicken. He was so darn afraid I would say "no." By this time, I had fully realized that I was looking for more than what my other guy friend was able to give me emotionally and that I was only setting myself up for disappointment. So we've been dating for the last two years, and somewhere in there he popped the question, which the surprise of was rather blown straight out of the water. He can't keep something that good a secret, and it probably didn't help that I'm more perceptive to this kind of stuff.
i am going through the same exact thing.