Miss Zebra"It's not going to work."
I looked at my old youth pastor and wondered what gave him that confidence. We were talking about a college guy in the church who had recently started his first real relationship. Of course, the guy was all into the relationship and was already planning on marrying the girl in the future. Our old youth pastor wasn't as convinced though, because in his words, "everyone has their heart broken at least once. It takes the first relationship to realize what you like and don't. I know ______ is excited about the relationship now, but eventually it's going to break off and he's going to have his heart broken, but he'll come out the stronger because of it."
This got me thinking, what he said was true for at least my case. I was very into my first real relationship, but when it broke off, it helped me realize what I needed in a guy and what I didn't. With all my friend's its been the same.
But then again I've seen couples who haven't dated at all before their life partner and from all view points the relationship seems strong and healthy.
What are the chances of your first relationship lasting for a lifetime?
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Less than zero. He was a pathological liar, he was emotionally abusive, he was jealous, possessive, and he cheated on me. Sooo... that's a definite no-go.
Then again, two of my cousins both married their first loves.
It's impossible to say whether a relationship will work or not, regardless of the order. It depends on maturity and numerous other factors, including a little luck I'm sure.
If the two people have the same interests, are both on the same level of maturity, are compatible, etc - there's no reason that the relationship cannot last simply because it's their first.
After all, look at all of these people who've been in countless relationships that have failed. They obviously have nothing (other than more broken hearts) on the people who got into their first relationship, married their partner, and are happy.
Right now I'm in my first serious relationship. We've been together for a year and we're in love with one another. We haven't argued yet, and we're generally as perfect as two people can be for one another. I feel safe saying that we've got a good chance at lasting forever if we play our cards right.
Depends on how bad you want it to work.
My first just ended.
I thought we were going to spend our lives together, how naive.
i dunno about the survival rate.
my parents were each other's first serious relationship. they have been happily married for 30+ years with alot of unhappy marriage moments though. my sister's gonna be marrying her first ever serious relationship and i hope it works out for them.
I would never give a first relationship much of a chance to work out. What, most people have their first relationship in their teen's or early 20's? Most people, self included, are very immature at that age and it's natural to change. You learn new things, see new things, and want to grow. And sometimes you grow in different directions.
That said, the exception makes the rule. It's wonderful to hear about people who stay with their first love. It was not that way for me, but then again, I'm not sure I would have wanted it to be. For me, to find love that early in my life would have been a curse.
Well, the relationship I'm in now is my first real, serious relationship, and we're getting married...soooo....
It really depends. My current boyfriend is the only guy I have ever dated, and we've been together for almost three years ...
mine last two months.
but we're in high school and there was alot of pressure outside of our relationship that ended it.
who says we'll never get back together? you never know.
i guess it all depends on the couple. you can't really generalize love.
Mine lasted a year...it could have very well gone the distance, in both our opinions. But we decided our relationship had bad timing.
Mine lasted two years.
My parents... well, they're really in love, and they were each other's first loves.
0-99%.
But it's the best relationship you perhaps will learnf rom
This is my first ever relationship....it's lasted 2 1/2 years.
so idk... we have had alot of bad times and survived.
and were long-distannce. but i say it could work if you really try/want it too.
I would say it depends on how old you are. I had my first boyfriend at 16, he was 15, and we lasted for exactly 3 weeks. Such a shame, I'd like to think that most people look at their first boyfriends and their first kiss with blissful nostalgia rather than a feeling of "Ugh, what was I thinking????"
Hopefully the older people get, the more serious they are about relationships.
Well I've had two major boyfriends, and am currently in a third relationship with a wonderful guy.
Unfortunately (or fortunately), I am his first girlfriend. I know his worth, and how awesome he is (especially after my two exes. yeesh), but I'm worried that he might sometime want to try somebody else out. I wouldn't blame him for it...but I'd rather it didn't happen
You can't really predict what will happen. A relationship is between two people and the people in the relationship know what's really going on.
I guess it seems like first relationships don't work out most of the time, but then again, there ARE ones that do.
I've been dating my first love for 8 months so far. My boyfriend has dated quite a few girls. We both want it to work. We started out good friends-> best friends-> lovers (lol). I know it's going to work. Well, at least that is both our opinions.
My friend told me that it was impossible for a first love to work, but I'm going to prove him wrong :) The guy I'm dating is amazing. My friend and her boyfriend were each other's first loves, and they are getting married. However, my brother and his girlfriend broke up after 5 months, and they were each other's first.
I think both people need to be compatible with each other to have it work. They both need to make it work (unless they fall out of love).
It depends on a lot of things, like whether or not you're lucky enough to meet the right person the first time around, how willing each partner is to work at the relationship (or put up with each other's crap), and even culture. In cultures where there are arranged marriages, the survival rate for first relationships is probably pretty high (though that doesn't mean that the relationships are necessarily good or healthy).
Well, that was blunt.
My first relationship had lasted a year. Only broke up with him because we were still young, and new to things of the sort.
my first relationship lasted 2 years, but i have seen my grandparents who were each other's first love and they've been married for over 46+ years. i think it just depends on how you and your so wants this relationship to last.
Mine lasted 7 months.
My first relationship lasted about 2 years. We were very much in "love". When he broke up with me, I realized how much emotional abuse i had gone through. I'll definitely never let that happen to me again. You learn and you grow from it. Some people are really lucky. My parents happen to be each other's first and now they're happily married. :]
It's possible. My grandparents met in high school, got married, and have been together for many decades. And they still love each other.
lol. funny pastor. i bet that comment that he made was based on his personal experience.
anyway, my current serious relationship is mine and her first. and we've been together for 2 years and 7 months. and it keeps going stronger =)