It's 10 p.m and I'm only getting ready to move myself out of the house. All dolled up, nice hair, short skirt and a slightly sexy top. Most of the time I go out just to have fun and party with my girlfriends but most of the time too, guys in clubs come and pick me up.
We dance, he gets me drinks and we have small talk. Sometimes he gets my number, sometimes he doesn't and we just part. I'm totally cool with it.
For guys who get my number, I have mixed feelings about them. They are always the ones making life hard.
On one hand, I don't want them to call me or do any follow-ups. Because, as we all know the cliche that guys in clubs are always not a very good catch. I'm doubtful about their intentions. I won't say 100%, but 95% of them are seeking something more short term, say one night. My automatic self protection system (i.e. my brain) would immediately put up a shield around my heart and entire body. If there's no them, no need to even risk getting hurt, right? It's better to be preventative now than seek a cure later.
On the other, I kind of want them to call and follow up. Somewhere tucked in the corner of my heart says...maybe I'll meet that 5%, just maybe. Let's be hopeful and see how interested they are. Plus of course it's always an ego boost, I guess, that someone shows interest somewhat.
Have you met someone decent in a club and dated that someone? How did it end? And for guys, do you use the club as a means to finding something a bit more serious than a casual relationship?
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my high school teacher met a girl at a club. pursued her and she said no. but he was persistent... he's marrying her this weekend. i think it's possible to meet a person in the clubs. they've been together for years
I heard some really good advice somewhere:
"If you don't want a guy who always goes to a bar, don't go to a bar to look for a guy."
I think the same applies to clubbing guys. Guys who go to clubs are probably looking for a night of fun. And that's fine if that's what you want. But if you're secretly hoping that he's going to be in that 5% then you're just setting yourself for disappointment.
I hate clubs. It's not my type of place at all so I guess if I found a guy at a club it would just be destined to fail.
Meeting someone from the club never actually got to the next step of getting into a relationship. once i talked to someone from the club, it was just small conversation. Guys from the clubs were all the same. about 90% are club hoppers and will always be. if you are looking to find the right person, the last place to look is the club.
I thought clubs were places you can have fun and drink and dance. I'm sure you could find true love, but it's certainly not the first place to look for something like that.
Clubs are just a fun place to go out and enjoy, so the people coming there both men and women are looking for just that. So sure, why not? If you happen to meet a great guy in a club, doesn't necessarily mean he's a douche, because hey you were there too!
@preetylenses@xanga - DAMN
Clubs just get a bad rep from the revelife-ey crowd. It just increases your chances of meeting people as opposed to sitting around a bookstore. Whether or not you find the one you are looking for is another matter, but you're just as likely to find douchebags in the library too.
don't think so.
i met my husband in a club.
what u met in a club -- stays in the club.
at least that's what i heard.
I dont think it can work (most of the time) i completely agree that most men in clubs are after 1 thing only.
I dont think it can work (most of the time) i completely agree that most men in clubs are after 1 thing only.
Never been to a club =P
Real love is something that you build, not something that you find.
I don't like clubs. They're even worse in Japan, because they're crowded and filled with cigarette smoke. If anything, the only guy I'd ever start dating from a club is one who's thinking the same thing I am: "What am I doing here??"
yes you can. i was out at the club the other night. first time i have been there in like 5 months and before that it had been like several years. just because some dude is there. doesn't mean he is always there sluttin it up. maybe he just wanted a night to get out and let loose. a get away from the stress of everyday life. doesn't mean hes not a great guy.
Aha! No, and no!
@kkraziemoonn@xanga - i think there are indeed some guys decent who wants to have fun and just so happens to be there, since i'm pretty decent (i think at least) and i'm not there for like ONS....but chances are low however...
@princess_michelle@xanga - yea kinda agree on that. And i think it's better to stay that way
@niikhita@xanga - true that i'm there too haha but guys might think otherwise alot of the times...
@KasumiCelesta@xanga -its easy if you don't like clubbing, lol i'm out quite often, not because of any specific purpose don't get me wrong, but just to hang out and have fun. how's japan btw?
you can meet anyone in the street, park, club, etc. love is possible but don't mistake love for cruel intentions
i actually met this boy at a dance (like a club) and we hooked up (in high-school terms meaning make out) and i thought it was over until he got my number from someone. It was so hard to figure out his intentions when he said he wanted to "hang out." now he is about to ask me to be his girlfriend and honestly i dont think i want the "clubbing" type. How i act with my friends at clubs in such really isnt who i really am and i completely agree that i CANT feel anything when i kiss him because i already shut my heart of to him the first time i met him.
One of my best friends met her now husband at a club we all went out to once. I also dated one of the guys I met there that night for a few months. So I think, you can find love absolutely anywhere. [:
I'm too young to go to clubs. Hah.
i'm not a fan of meeting guys at clubs...i just feel they're usually not good quality men.