Saturday, 23 May 2009
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Hypocrisy, Making Out And Questionable Friendship
I got really pissed at a friend of mine. I know it's stupid in regarding to boys in general, but...I'm getting sick of her being annoyed with me for things she does as well. I don't tell her I am annoyed with it, too, when she does it, because I also talk about them a lot, so no point in bringing up something that one self does, too, right?...I kinda can't help it to talk about them a lot sometimes. Usually, when people bash me for things they do, too, I am not entirely too sure if they notice they do them back, too, not only that...worse.
Like, for example, she says she gets annoyed with me whenever I talked about liking or dating or wanting to make out with "everyone". We have this mutual guy friend that she likes. I used to kind of like him a little (like four years ago), but now I don't really care, honest to God I don't...I have another person I want it to work out with but I'm not sure where it is going. She tells me not to make a move on him because she likes him...one night I just said I felt like making out with someone, while we were out (not necessarily have sex with anyone, just make-out).
I asked her, why should I not go after him? If he goes after me, he goes after me, too, I am going to let him. All of my life she has always been going after people I like (heck, I even almost stopped being her friend twice because of it)...and she thinks it's okay to just because they either don't like me anymore or that she knows I could never have them in the first place...but she could.
She says she's tired of hearing me want to make out with everybody, but almost every guy I have ever introduced her to she ends up making out with them at least...even my ex. You think that doesn't annoy the heck out of me when I unintentionally set her up with my guy friends? Then she was, like, "it's not my fault they like me better," blah, blah, blah. I didn't introduce her to my guy friends so she could hook up with them, but so we could all be friends, though usually it did not happen that way.
I know I hate my ex so it should not matter, right? But the fact is, she's bashing me for wanting to make out with everyone, but she's the one who actually does it and does not care who the person is - she has absolutely no boundaries. She even made out with one guy in front of another guy she had already made out with, and yet, I want to make out with everyone?
She says she wouldn't care if a person she likes winds up going after me in the end, but I know she would. She knows it would never happen, though, that's why she says she does not care. If one of her exes ever went after me, I would not even think about it, because that's just an unwritten rule, whether or not you hate an ex.
I don't know what to do about hypocrites anymore, especially when they are actually my friend. This one girl who I actually hate kept going around telling people how I am such a slut...but she's an even bigger slut. And my friend gets pissed at me for wanting to make out with "everyone," but she doesn't care who she makes out with as long as it's someone she "likes".
Anyone else have this problem with their friends?
Seriously, it is very stupid, in regard to boys, but I am just sick and tired of people constantly getting on my case for things they do, too. So, only they are allowed to do it, but no one else, right?
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that is one terrible ass friend. what the hell are you thinking?
This is why I rarely befriend girls. There's too much drama. So I stick with male friends. :)
gah, hypocrites annoy me so much. she sounds like a horrible friend. my advice? back off. you don't need her or her drama.
lol u have a weird friend lol!
best friends dont do that!I dunno what this is about because I stopped reading after the first paragraph... But um...
Friends come and go. Very few come and don't go.
I had a girl friend who always got crushes on my boyfriends or crushes. And when she'd told me I was the good friend who dumped him only to have her date him for a week. After a while I got sick if it though and I'm not really friends with her anymore.
You call her a friend when all she ever does is bring you down and make out with the guys you like? I would never call a person like that my friend, more like frenemy. Real friends do not treat each other like that. There is a rule my girlfriends and I have, we make out with someone the other person likes and that includes going out on dates. Friends are there to support you.
My friendships with the opposite sex is often met with specualation. The best part of it is, they have no problem on discussing htings at an emotional level.
Like, like, like, like, like, heck yes.
agree the topic ....
why do you feel like you have to say out loud to her that you feel like making out with someone then? maybe your friend feels that you intentionally say that to get on her nerves as if you're a bigger flirt than her, and it is basically what she sees as a challenge
that's probably why she goes after the guys that she likes because you sort of provoked her by saying in her face that you feel like making out with someone even if you really didn't.
edit: "that's probably why she goes after the guys that she *thinks* that you like..."
I don't have that catty friend problem.
get yourself a better, more-loyal minion >=]
that one no good, find new one. throw away old one. hah ha!
mkay, seriously though. If that's the case, why are you still wasting your time hanging out with her? What benefit is she to you if all she's good at is keeping your self-esteem low?
in the most lady-like way I can say this:
tell that bitch to fuck off and bite me.
:)
Whoa.... I don't think my closest gal pal and I have ever argued about boys before... Usually we're talking about how stupid they are for not doing something they should've...
My best friend is like that too.
She has a boyfriend but still whenever she finds out who i'm interested in she flirts with him until he forgets about me.Friends can suck at times... just look for someone else to be friends with if she doesn't respect you.
I don't usually have girl friends any more, because a lot of girls annoy me. Lately guys have become more and more drama-loving though. What is this world coming to?
I know exactly how you feel. There's some kind of competitive issues here for both sides. You should just be honest with her about your feelings and if that doesn't work out, then you're better off without her.
Yeah I had a best friend who was jealous about the guys she liked liking me., So when I say I like a guy, she lunges right after him! She even went after the guy she tried hooking me up with that I had a crush on. And then when I get a boyfriend, she gets jealous that my attention's going to my boyfriend. W. T. F.
No longer with that best friend. Life's been so drama free with my current girl friends.
She likely has no idea how to measure what is good or not, so she uses you as the yardstick, and just goes for whatever you like.
Find a cow and tell her you want to make out with it. She probably will.
but it might be a bit mean for the cow.
Chicks just go about "making out with everyone" these days?!
Tramps like you and your loose friend are the reason why herpes and hepatitis are so rampant these days.
Wow, how old are you guys?
Your friend is an idiot.
this post was kind of a waste of my time... yet I'm commenting on it lol.
you two obviously need to grow up... wow. First of all... stop saying you will "make-out" with everyone... because that's just stupid. You need to STOP hanging out with your one friend... she seems like a total back-stabber and why the hell would you want her as a friend? Because if EVERY guy friend of yours she meets and wants to make-out with... that's a huge freaking red flag right there. Do not talk to her anymore... get new friends... then the drama (hopefully) will subside.
why do you want to make out with everyone? haha sorry but that just sounds different to me because this is the first time I've ever heard of someone wanting to do that (and I think I'm too sheltered... lol). But do you like hanging out with this girl? It's hard to just drop her like that, but talk to her about her hypocrisy and what not- because she needs to know! If she doesnt change.... well you need to stop hanging out too much with this girl.
For goodness' sake, dump her. *eyeroll*
@rzimmerman08@xanga - AGREED!