Ladies, what behavior do you find unacceptable in guys who are attempting to date/dating you?
1. He pays the check but keeps talking about going dutch the next time (is that worse than splitting the check straight off?)
2. He's constantly asking if you're a gold digger
3. He thinks that you're using him for social connections, network, membership for party entrances, etc.
4. He refuses to walk you to the nearest train station from his house even though he only lives 10 minutes walking distance away
5. He picks his teeth after eating (every meal)
6. He thinks that sex is the only way of beginning a relationship
7. He's constantly asking you to give compliments about things he's really OBVIOUSLY not good at
I happen to know a guy who possesses all the above "qualities". Am I being overly demanding...or is he just not gentleman/normal enough? I've been used to conventional gentleman actions of generously paying for meals, having good etiquette, driving/walking me home/to the nearest station and flattering each other...and not just his fishing for compliments ALL the time. What do you think?
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Most guys don't do all those. They do different things. XD But none of those are acceptable.
Girl, those are BASIC no-no's as far as dating etiquette goes. If he talks about himself all the time, makes you go dutch on the first date, doesn't open doors for you... the heck with him. "he's like, so whatever, and you can do SO much better!..."
I'm wondering why he went on a date with you if he was so paranoid. Y'all would be better off not wasting each others' time.
He kinda sounds like a d-bag. No offense.
I would be completely turned off if a guy ever did this to me.
For me recently, a guy I work with has been trying to take me out on a date for a while. At first I agreed to go to the movies with him until we started talking a little more. He confessed to being an asshole and I confessed I was one too. He would make some remark and then I would naturally give one back. All in good fun. But he took it too seriously and got butt sore over the whole thing. Finally I told him I wasn't interested and now he's a douche to my friend at work and doesn't even talk to me.
That's a no-no to me. If you can dish it out but not take it, move along because I'm kind of abusive.
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Sounds like a jerk.
I'd drop him.
Hm, if a guy ever did any of those, I'd drop kick him. Another couple things that are unacceptable is him being super jelous (to a point where he wont let you see your guyfriends) or he gloats about everything. His money, his job, his car, his house etc...
Unacceptable dating behaviour doesn't only come from guys. Don't generalise.
i think your response is legitimate. There are a lot of things that girls do routinely that irk me. Getting fussy or annoyed when I open doors or pick up the check, or ever using the words "you really didn't have to do that" probably top the list. Guys know that they don't have to do those things. If we had to, it would be pretty unimportant.
Yeah he's an idiot.
What a loser.
As a guy, I don't do these things- on a date or otherwise. Whatever happened to good manners and courtesy?
Drop the guy.
Yeah, perhaps it's best not to get involved with someone like that.
It sounds to me that you've hooked in a city boy. These "gentlemen-like" characteristics that you look for in men are common in the South, as in within the Bible Belt. Generally speaking, men from the North tend not to be as gentlemen-like than those from the South. This is also true of men coming from major metropolitan areas like Los Angeles, Chicago, New York, San Francisco, Detroit, etc. There is a tendency for men to be less gentlemen-like as you approach a big city. The opposite is also true. As you move away from the big city, you tend to find men who are more gentlemen-like.
Now, this is not to say that this is true for all men living in or out of a big city, but this to me seems true based on personal observations. Incidentally, though perhaps not very surprisingly, this also applies to women but since you're not a man, I suppose it doesn't really matter if you know this or not.
... you're not asking too much you're just dating a douche bag. simple as that.
@t_zie@xanga - That's some pretty bad date behavior, but I see your point. :)
well, he sounds like a meanie:(
there isn't a chance i'd put up with that guy.
Lose that one. A guy's gotta treat a girl well, and obviously vise versa.
wow that's a disgusting guy.
he reminds me of someone. and that someone was a d-bag. -.-
He's Stooopid.
Bleh, after number 2 ... I branded him as a 'loser'.
my bf is 'weak' than me...we are far apart and i seldom complain anything bout it...he's like a small baby who always want me to pamper him...is there any problem?..i thought i'm the one that suppose to be 'baby'....but now, he is the 'baby'....
Get away from that loser!
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