Tuesday, 19 May 2009
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"Oops! I Did It Again" And The Accidental Relationship
We all know that Britney Spears song, right? Whether you like the lyrics or not, they convey an interesting message: a girl gets into a relationship, and before she realizes it, her guy has fallen for her. She didn't plan it, didn't want it, didn't think of it. She was just having fun.Oops.
There are times in a girl's or guy's life when a serious relationship just isn't cool. Your senior year of high school, perhaps, when you have dreams of college and have no intention of love or long distance relationships. A summer vacation in Cuba perhaps (Dirty Dancing, anyone?). You like someone, you want to get to know him or her and have fun, but at the end of the day, you know you're going home to your place, and he's going home to his. Or maybe the two of you go home together at some point, but in the long run, you're going to your home/college/country and he's going to his.
There's one thing, I think, that relationships like this overlook (in theory, at least). It's the fact that no matter what, the decision to "give people something to talk about" is based on feelings. Interest can very easily grow to something akin to love. Or lust can be mistaken for love. Okay, so this really is just something missed in theory. Pop culture and literature makes it painfully clear.
Have you ever been in a situation where you thought you were in love with someone, but found out you were just "caught up in the game," as per Britney? Or have you been in a casual relationship, where you found out that your "partner in crime" fell in love with you? Experience or otherwise, what's your opinion on casual relationships like this?
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Never really had that issue, but been on the other end.
almost was on the other side of this issue, but I snapped out of it before it got to far.
i just had the same issue, twice. Except that once, I was the partner in crime who fell in love and the other, I was the really casual one. It's kinda messy. I'll say causal relationships are fun sometimes when both keep it casual and expects nothing more. But when one party starts to get serious, things can turn ugly.
Sometimes a guy likes me more than I like him, and he thinks we're dating because we hung out a few times, but I don't because...just because...and that's always a weird situation that seems to happen a lot.
Casual relationships are easy to get caught up in. But then again, if you know that you don't want to get caught up in a serious relationship, don't date at all. Wouldn't that be easier? Almost like....if you don't want a disease or a kid or anything...don't have sex! lol
Never been a casual dater and never will. I'm always serious in a relationship and if I'm not interested in the person, I try to make that clear. I draw a fine line between friendship and intimacy.
i love that song. i can relate.
been on both sides. it was fun while it lasted. but it ended ugly
After I broke up with my ex, I immediately started to "crush" on random guys I saw at school. I found myself doing this to get over him & our two year relationship.. kinda glad that they didnt fall for me.
I don't really believe in casual dating. When I date, it's for real aha :D But then I'm still in my first relationship, and it's been almost three years.
i'm stuck on the other side... somehow I got a guy who didn't want a serious relationship to fall for me... and now he is pushing me away. awesome!
That would kind of be considered leading someone on. If you don't want anything serious, tell the other person you just want to have fun.
Hahah... my life right now... leaving for college in three months and was getting caught up in a relationship. Its probably best he decided it wasn't a good idea :/
Lol, I've had both happen. I thought I was in love with one guy, turns out to just be an infatuation. I had a "fling" with another, until the night he told me he loved me. Dropped him like a hot potato.
I think it's human nature to get ourselves into situations like these, and it really doesn't help at all that most people are most definitely NOT in touch with their emotions. :/
oohh.. it sucks to be led on.
I dont pay attention to such relationships, i want a real one and life-long one....no one two timers!
I have been in both sides of a relationship like that, the thing is when you get into a "fun" thing, if it goes on for long enough, eventually someone will want it to be more then just fun. Then it gets messy, my advice would be to just steer clear and not start it. No matter how clear you both are about it just being a fun thing at the beginning, time changes everything...
Relationships, in my opinion, are not meant to be "casual". Serious relationships aren't always convenient. Maybe, if the time isn't convenient for you, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all right then.
I'm all for serious relationships. Serious is the definition of an actual relationship. "Accidental Relationships" sound very childish.
story of my life.
@wolvenchic@xanga - me too
Yeh...and falling for someone after they got over you is also hard. :-/
Yes. I've had that happen to me twice. You'd think I'd have learned my lesson after the first time XD
But yeah, I've never had a real relationship yet. Two summer flings is all I can chalk up to my track record.