Sunday, 17 May 2009
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Should I See A Guy Who Might Be A Jerk to Me?
Ladies and gentlemen, I need your opinion.
Remember this story? (Summary for those who can't be bothered reading it: my best friend and I used to hang out heaps with the guy I liked, she moved, I left the church we all went to and he stopped speaking to me.)
Well, my best friend is coming back. Not for good, just a week, and she suggested we visit our old church - his church. Now I need to decide whether or not I want to go back and see him. If we go there, I figure one of three things can happen.
1) He'll ignore both of us and he'll be deemed a jerk
2) He'll ignore me and talk to my best friend (because I'm not the one visiting, just the one who abandoned the church) and I'll be devastated
3) He'll talk to both of us, we'll end up hanging out as usual and I'll like him even more
None of those situations sound too great, because even though I want to talk to him, hang out with him, even see him, I know that after my friend leaves, that will probably it. But if I don't go, I'll always wonder if I should've tried again.
So what do you think? Should I see him? I really want to, but am I just setting myself up to get hurt?
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Comments (29)
Don't bother seeing him, it'll only get your hopes again.
He IS a jerk, why waste your time like that?
well... just go if you feel like going because you may regret it in the end for not going and meeting them. Just think it this way... At least you are being the friend that you are and you are doing your part to make good memories for your friend who is visiting. Go for your friend not for the jerk.
I say that you should go just to find out. If he's a jerk, that's that. You can move on and find someone who isn't a jerk. If he talks to you and you like him again, maybe things will progress between the two of you. If things don't progress, you're a big girl and you can control your emotions -- IE: Move on.
I see no reason for you to avoid going simply because he might be a jerk. Wouldn't you want to know if he's a jerk? You sound like you still want him, so finding out whether he's a jerk or not could help you move on. Even if he's not a jerk this could be a good thing for you.
Try it out and see what happens. The best of luck to you.
better safe than sorry.
why bother wasting time?
"Should I see a guy who might be a jerk to me?"
......Really? Are your standards low enough to accept that as an ok trait in a relationship?
No you shouldn't..but then again if you have to ask that, maybe you should, just so you'll learn from the experience.
i think it's a waste of time to be honest.
you have a crush on him.. and perhaps it will forever remain just a crush.
I thought Christians were supposed to love their neighbor; love the person, hate the sin? You may have left his church, and while he doesn't have to agree with your decision, if he's going to be an ass about it, he isn't worth having much less wondering what could have been. However, I don't see why you should not go just because he may be a jerk. If you want to go, go. It's a free country and nobody, including him, can tell you where you can and cannot worship. If he doesn't like it, he can either leave, or shut the hell up and deal with it and sit somewhere else.
No, you deserve someone better.
Ah, Church, the good old-fashioned way of hooking up with people.
i don't think you should go
@coolmonkey@xanga - hahaha!!
Well ...
If you go, he could turn out to be a great guy and you could fall even harder for him which could lead to him hurting you ... or you two getting together.
If you go, he could turn out to be a jerk, which will hurt you, but allow you to get over him faster.
If you don't go, you will spend a long time asking yourself "what if?" and you could regret it.
It's tough, but I think I would go. And he is only visiting for a week, so if things get bad, you won't see his face for a long while, right?
Good luck!
Last time I checked, church was for the purpose of worshipping and praising God, not seeing some guy that you crushed on a while ago.
It's just for a week. This is for your best friend, not some guy that stopped talking to you. So in other words, ignore it and just go. Who knows, he might not even be there that week. And if he is, so what?
You'd better not...
some things are best left in their appropriate time and place in our past.
if you will always wonder what would have happened then go because you want to have a little regrets in your life as you can even if that means dealing with a little pain along the way
It doesn't seem like too much good will come out of it. It's probably better to just stay away.
wel your bestfriend is visiting, and she just wants to visit there, why not? Just don't really let him bother you
forget him!!!
I agree - forget him!
go or you'll regret it.
The so called relationship will just be misery with him hurting you and not caring. Bad investment.
visit the church and see him but keep your expectations low. I know it's easier said than done but the best you can do. I'm not saying keep liking him but don't try figure out what he is to you... hey, a lot of ppl sometimes form bonds due to same classes, religion, organizations, club whatever. once that bond is broken because you've left it for whatever reasons, he's not really being a jerk unless he's talking to your friend via email but not with you. maybe he's just... *shrug* moving on?