I was in a meeting last week and the subject of crushes came up - one of my female coworkers was wearing a Jack Sparrow t-shirt. One of the guys in the meeting asked why girls liked Johnny Depp so much, and the girls answered that it was because he was hot and versatile and off in a world of his own. "But I wouldn't want to hook up with him or anything," the Jack shirted coworker said. "I just want to be friends with him."
She had a good point - most of my past crushes have been completely non-sexual, mostly because I just wanted to hang out with the guys I liked to try and figure them out. Maybe it's because I was a late bloomer, but I never had any innate desire to jump a guy's bones - I wanted to goof around and play Frisbee.
Have you experienced platonic crushes before? Is there such a thing, or are my coworker and I not really attracted to these guys?
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Yeh, I have. It's possible to have platonic crushes. Most of my crushes are like that, just wanna hang out or play basketball together.. nothing sexual.
i think it makes sense. to me at least. i've been "intrigued" by girls before and just kinda been like damn she seems cool i wanna be her friend. but i guess i'm like that with anyone, if they seem cool or interest me right off the bat i immediately want to get to know them. not necessarily always a crush either.
i have those all the time. even with guys i've really wanted to date, i've never really had a burning desire to do anything. i just wanted to be with them.
Definitely. I have a huge "friend crush" on David Gilmour (of Pink Floyd). He seems like he would be an awesome person to hang out with.
I get platonic crushes all the time.
It's not that you aren't attracted to someone, because you are. Wanting to be with a person is a sign of chemistry. Just because you only want to be friends with someone doesn't make it any less of an attraction - after all, you have to like your friends to want to hang out with them, amirite?
yes. but most of my friends don't understand ):
yea back in 1st grade. i had a crush on this kid named kevin- he was missing he's two front teeth. i just wanted to play with him cuz he was fun
I never was really attracted to guys sexually either. Until I met "V" I was beginning to think I was A-sexual. My current crushes are (all but one) non sexual. I can have a crush on an 80 year old or on a 19 year old and it doesn't even matter if it's a man or a woman. I wouldn't say friend crushes because I don't even know some of the crushes I have or at least not in the sense that we have had a personal conversation.
I've had that before, but I would never call it a "crush" because to me, a crush is someone you're physically attracted to and do want to be with in a sexual way.
Hmm...I don't know, but I always liked hanging out with guys, especially since I have 2 older brothers and they bring friends home every now and then. It's fun playing games, cards and sports games with them. However, I also like hanging out with girls because they talk about stuff and we share our points of view.
I've had so many of those, "I think he's so versatile, I really just want to be friends with him." type of deal-ies. I don't find anything wrong with it, but the relationship usually just gets into a friendship, nothing more.
I've experienced what you're talking about. I try to befriend those guys. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. This is how one of my good friendships started out. I saw him around, thought he was a cool guy (going off his demeanor and attitude), asked for his help one day when he was the teachers' assistant for one of my classes and the friendship bloomed from there. I took him up on his offer to help me with my papers and after the class was over we kept in touch. Now we're buddies. ^_^
I totally had these kinds of crushes. You're not alone :P
I have platonic crushes. Currently I have two or three, haha. They have been my long-time friends and I love them dearly. I would date them in a heartbeat but not because I'm sexually attracted to them, but moreso that they make me feel comfortable. However, they don't see me in that light (at least not right now) and I'm okay with that. I think it's possible to be good friends with the opposite sex if you communicate and be honest with your feelings.
I've had platonic crushes all my life until I met my boyfriend. I, too, was a late bloomer, and the very idea of sex never crossed my mind until much, much later. And why would you want sex with Captain Sparrow -- when was the last time he bathed?? =)
not really, I'd love to jump jack sparrow's bones
only when johnny depp is in pirate costume though, in regular clothes, I'd like to have to have a coffee date with him
when he is in his edward scissorhands suit, I'd like to go ice skating with him while we hold hands on the ice rink arena
and exchange adoring glances
so it depends on my mood and what he is wearing that day.
"Jump a guy's bones"
LOL
Yep I've had a lot of this kind of crushesÂ
i have one of those...
my friends dont understand it though haha
yeah i guess i do! but aren't those the best kind? they're the relationships that will last
I have a lot of crushes like this too... however usually those desires to be friends end up becoming full-blown-normal crushes, which is unfortunate. I always like my friends, who usually just want to be friends. -_-
Yeah! I think so! There are always these few girls around school that I find interesting and want to know better and it definitely felt/feels like a crush.
My ex once asked me if I would make out with Johnny Depp (my crush) if I had the chance. I thought about it... And no, I had no intention on kissing JD.
I guess that's what I feel about most of my guy friends :D
Actually a good chunk of my friends started out as 'friend crushes'. Which is a really interesting way to put it, I never would have thought to word it like that.
But most of the people who I'm friends with - both male and female - I started out thinking looked like interesting people and somehow we started talking and the rest is history.