I was a big dork in high school and crushed on guys that had no interest in me. There was one in particular that remained elusive and I still thought about him throughout college every once in a while. Both his and my mom were convinced we were going to get married even though he didn't like me the way I liked him. Anyway.
We went our separate ways after high school - he went to school a few states away and I lived about an hour and a half from my hometown for school, too. But we were both home for Christmas break a few years ago and had a night with nothing to do and a house to go to because I was house sitting. He suggested we grab dinner at a place he'd loved in high school, so we drove around looking for it, only to discover that it was closed and had been for, oh, six months. That was our bad.
Because it was only 9:45, I suggested we buy alcohol and hang out at the place where I was house sitting. This apparently did not sound like a horrible idea, so we bought disgusting cheap vodka and went to the house to hang. He insisted on doing twice as many shots as I did (...how impressive *eyeroll*) and after a while, we were both feeling pretty good. One thing led to another and we ended up making out.
It was an experience where I really felt like two different people at once...and I kind of regretted not just making a move during high school because he was a really good kisser. The whole time I was, like,
yesssssssssss, Current Me is finally getting to do what Past Me had always wanted! He was telling me how soft my hair was and going "mmm" at the right times and it was actually really nice...
that is, until he threw up.
Drinking significant amounts of cheap vodka and not eating dinner is not a good combination, guys.
I got him water and asked if he was okay; he was, but he wanted to go home and I didn't feel great, either, so I drove him back to his place and that was the end of our night together.
Now whenever we're both home and we hang out, we wave and talk normally and it's not weird for either of us. My parents and his never found out about it, and I'd rather it stay that way. He was cool about the whole thing, and after having a crush on him for so long, I'd finally exorcised it - I think it was just a matter of getting it out of my system (even if it meant drinking to make it happen).
What was it like getting over your past crushes?
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It took mad rejection to get over my last crush. It really sucked, but I'm over it :]
Wow that was a pretty random event and it worked out so nice and neat for you. I would say time apart worked best to get that crush out of my system.
Thankfully I've never had a crush that was so serious that it required getting over. My crushes are generally just lighthearted little flirtations and pleasant exchanges with guys who have a certain combination of intelligence and humor. I don't let crushes get so deep that they require extraction. A crush for me is not so much romantic as just that magic ah ha when I run into someone who challenges me. I hope I never get over them.
Actually, I would forsee eating dinner and then drinking copious amounts of cheap vodka to be a worse problem. At least it's mostly just alcohol and acid if there's no food in someone's system, as opposed to undigested food chunks, alcohol, and acid. But maybe that's just me...
I've never had to work to get over a crush. They all sort of faded on their own in due time.
Time helped mostly! And not seeing them much.
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I'll tell you when it happens hehe
I guess distance and time helps
every 15 minutes, someone dies as the result of an alcohol related collision.
please don't drive after drinking alcohol. =(
No contact with him over time, got me to get over him.
Now that I do have contact with him, I don't feel anything.
As bad as it sounds, the easiest way to get over someone really is to find someone new to focus your interest on...it's just easier if you don't fall for the second person as hard as you did for the original person...
If that makes any sense to anyone at all...hahaI guess when I had crushes, I never really imagined them to be more than a crush lol. I would daydream, but I didn't know what a boyfriend would feel like.
Until my boyfriend asked me out. lol I still see the guys that I used to like (from time to time) and I either think to myself "ew, what the heck was I thinking?" or "aw, he's still pretty cute but my boyfriend's cuter" lol :D
@justXforXyou_beautiful@xanga - that is actually exactly what I do. If I really feel the need to stop liking someone (usually because they aren't interested and never will be) I find someone else to like, bounce to him, find some stupid reason to not like him anymore, and then I'm totally cool not liking anyone.
A number of them faded away after the feelings became mutual--that is to say, I changed my mind about them. Horrible, right?
As for the ones that aren't reciprocated (at least not openly), just telling myself "he doesn't like you, so it's a waste of time" usually works. I've dealt with so many guys I liked and guys that liked me that I can almost always tell if they have feelings for me.
Makes sense. I had a deathly crush on this 19 year old guy when I was 15 and he seemed attracted too but didn't do anything because he didn't wanna be That Guy.
I cried like every day for a semester of school until I was finally in a good place regarding him. But I never fully got over him. Then four years later, he decides I'm old enough and wants to make out with me. So we did for like a week.
Yep. That's all it took. He's out of my system and now I barely ever think about him.
Omg! I was like 'Awww this is sweet, she's kissing the bloke of her dreams...' and then like 'Bloody hell, wtf!!! Disgusting!!!!!!'
Good story though...
it took realization after many yrs that it would never happen and finding a new crush that made me get over my old one....lol. I get over crushed with new ones. At least thats how I was in highschool. I dont really crush anymore....
i dated someone else, hahah.
LOL
I just get over them. I get a hobby or a new 'crush'. Usually it isn't hard for me
I get over a crush once I start making myself pay attention to an even hotter guy. Like yesterday, my school had the whole day at the park for field day, I forgot about my ex for a good thirty minutes when I saw this hot guy with his shirt off & a niceeeee body. 6 pack, nice arms, and running around showing his stuff. I was lusting hahahaha, until it hit me that they both have the same name. FML. But yeh, it doesn't take long for me to forget crushes... my ex on the other hand, is another thing considering we dated for two years.
I would say time apart, no seeing or talking to the person.
Actually, I had a little crush on my current bf before we started dating. We were friends back then and he never seemed interested in me like that. Then just when I decided to try and get over my crush (so I don't ruin our friendship), he decided to make the move and ask me out. So I never did get over my crush, and now we've been together for more than a year =D
Once I found out that my crush didn't like me or he was already taken, I would just try and will myself to get over him.
Eventually, it always works ! :Dahahabut sometimes they hold strong, so that always sucks. But by some grace of god, they do disappear at some point :P
Every single time, I hit my head against the wall. Hard. Because I realized they had all been a waste of time. Whether or not my feelings were returned, most of the times I had crushes on guys, they were all for the wrong reasons, like for simply being nice... I mean, we all want a nice person with whom to start a relationship, but again, you also need someone who shares similar values and hobbies and interests...
When I look back on all the crushes I had, I feel like a foolish, foolish little girl again...
Hahaha! That's so awful, but I guess it'll do the trick. :) It's good you guys are still normal.
Typically, my crushes fade. And it's excruciating to wait until that happens. I've even had repeat crushes on guy friends.
Mine are mostly harmless. When I was with my ex and developed a couple crushes, I knew they would pass and so let them ride out. I knew I'd never jeopardize anything because I'd never act on them, and that they would go away.
It just sucks, waiting to get to the point where they've gone. :/
I found out he was gay w/ one of my really good friends. I accepted the fact that they loved each other and they helped me out with MY guy problems. So it's all good now. =)
in everything in life, one just need closure that's all