Someone left this in a comment and I wanted to see where you guys would start with the situation. It sounds like there are several (7) problems going on.
me n my bf have been together for two years. he is married. three months ago i found out his wife had a baby. the hardest thing is for the first year i worked three nights a week and couldnt be with him three nights out the week. for the past year i stopped working at night and he has been with me every single night. last month his wife found out that he has been cheating on for the past two years. she kicked him out and now he is living with. i love him to death.but i feel he is just a liar. should i drop him and move on or should i stay with him and try make things work. He take meds for his anger issues. every since we have been together he doesnt always cum when we have sex. i never been with a guy where we have sex and he doesnt cum everytime. i dont know what to do.
So...
- She's dating a married guy
- Married guy has a kid
- They have different schedules
- Married guy got kicked out of his house
- He lies
- He takes medication for anger issues
- They are having sexual problems
Play Relationship Counselor for a minute. What is the first thing our commenter should do?
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Drop him like he's hot, imo.
Then maybe go to some couseling. Sounds like she might (she may not) have deeper issues than just a crappy boyfriend choice.
she should seek counseling for her own self esteem issues; why else is she holding on this man? She can clearly outline the problems that he has, and yet she's been putting up with for this long? Yeah, her self respect and esteem has dropped for sure!
Dump him, save up, seek some therapy. oyI know I should be expressing empathy, and all, but ... I read this and didn't even try to restrain myself from rolling my eyes...
DROP HIM! What kind of redeeming value could an idiot like this have? He's a cheater (on his wife, if not you, for all we know), he's a bad father, he lies (openly), he has anger issues that require medication (openly), there isn't a connection what with differing schedules and sexual problems ... seriously, I'm failing to see what you're getting out of this AT ALL. Security can't be it. If anything he's just a bad habit that you need to break pronto!
Drop the Jerk!!! And THEN ... get some counseling so you don't make the same mistake again, please. Oy.
I always hate giving relationship advice the only thing I always say to those who are dating married people. If they will do it with you don't be surprised when they do it to you.
Yeah. Seriously. The red flag to dump him should have been raised when she found out he was married. And the his wife had a baby, too? If she doesn't have enough self respect to leave him, she should have considered his wife. Can't really offer much sympathy.
Then she should probably work on not dating married men.
*sarcasm intended
drop him, then get counseling and go to a basic English class. sorry, pet peeve of mine. can't stand people who can't write out a full sentence.
also since he's taking medication, she might want to find someone to protect her from him. if he loses everything, he's sure to go on a rampage.
Um, this is going to sound harsh (and this is probably why I'm NOT a counselor) but this woman isn't too smart. She needs to dump him before he turns psycho on her and then she needs to get some self esteem and a brain too.
When she kicks him out (hopefully she will) tell her to have some people there with her too cause if she's dumb enough to choose a guy like that, he's dumb enough to probably do something harmful to her. She is, after all, the "other" woman.
That's a no brainer, drop his ass! What good is ever going to come out of that relationship? She has nothing to lose.
last month his wife found out that he has been cheating on for the past two years. she kicked him out and now he is living with.
Cheating on the wife right? And is now living with her ... ?
The problem is that she is with a married man. And now she is complaining about his lying and him not being able to perform. Well, she probably encouraged his lying when he had to lie to his wife in order to see her ... so I'm sorry I'm not sympathetic, but you both need to get some counseling or something. And stop dating!
you're dating a married guy and you worry that he's a liar?.......enough said.
There's a line you have to draw at some point when it comes to problems. I think having THAT many is just too many. Move on. And WHY were you fucking a married man? NONONO.
She was dating a married guy and KNEW it? What the heck?!
I always say, "If you cheat, cheat with someone who's worth it." In this case, she chose a dead beat loser. SHE needs to seek help; not him imo.
RUN!
Toooo many problems with that list already. =/
First of all, don't date married men.
If he cheated on his wife, then its almost promised he'll cheat on you.Â
Second of all, pick a relationship that has a stable environment. No one needs the flip-flop of an immature man who is supposed to be the leader.
Drop him. It's that simple.
a friend cannot steal from me for all I have is their's. To steal from me requires hiding the fact he took it. Stealing is a tactic of lying. Murder is an act of lying. To be around a person that is known to lie puts things on shaky ground of lack of trust.
This one is like a new wine gone sour. For a new friend is like a new wine it should be aged and tested before they can be appreciated. Old friends are treasure and blessing beyond measure should be savored and praised and enjoyed.
Tell them to stop seeing each other. It's a train wreck, and seems to have been since the beginning.
Going out with someone who is married is a really really stupid and bad idea. *rolls eyes* I thought that everyone would just know that. I guess not.
This relationship is no good! He's a cheater, liar and has anger issues. Why would you still hold onto a relationship that looks like a ship wreck? I think you already know the answer to your problems; move on...
She should see her doctor for a prescription for Smart Pills.
Too many problems in that situation. :\
First off, she needs to get rid of this guy ASAP. And secondly, she needs to get some counseling because obviously she has some self-esteem issues. :\
im cant imagine why you would need any advice regarding this....Everything that can be wrong in the picture IS WRONG...get OUT NOW!
LOL. Just take a deep breath and say, "FUCK MY LIFE" then post it on FML and drop the guy's ass.