This isn't quite as weird as it sounds, but it's still pretty weird.
About a week or two after my current SO (Steve) and I were "officially" dating, his ex-girlfriend's mom, Mrs. P., came to visit. I was over at his house at the time and Steve had been texting Mrs. P. about when she could stop by and say hello (or something to that effect). At any rate, he gave me a heads up that she was coming over, citing the ever popular "I love her mom. She's so cool!" argument, and tried to ignore how strange this whole thing was.
Now, I understand because Mrs. P. is a pretty awesome lady. She's the perfect catalog mom - bakes, goes to every school function, helps out in every club, is encouraging, etc. She has her flaws just like every other mom - the controlling straight A's type, and can also be a bit of a gossip monger - but for the most part, I wasn't totally upset that she was stopping by.
Until she got there.
You know how ALL new girlfriends are zealously protective of their relationships? Well, I was no exception.
I might be crazy, but I'm almost entirely certain that half of the reason she was there was to check up on Steve and I. I clung to him, smiled - A LOT - made sure to be polite, but also clearly normal (which means my same sarcastic attitude) as an emphasis that we were doing JUST fine and that you could pass that along to your daughter, Mrs. P.
My relationship with this ex is a completely different very ugly story (there's more than enough blog posts to prove that one), and it was my solemn duty as Current Girlfriend to put any ideas of her conquests with MY boyfriend to rest. Knowing that Mrs. P wouldn't be able to keep her mouth shut about the visit, I thought it would be a good idea to leave her no hint of weakness.
Crazy, I know. It's not like it was a death match or anything! But greedy new girlfriend will be greedy new girlfriend!
I think that if we were to run into her again, I would make it clear that I don't need to latch on him to keep him. There's not a worry in my mind about that one!
(I still want to avoid both her and her daughter at all costs, though!)
Have you ever had a relationship with your SO's ex's family? Do you know them?
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My SO doesn't talk to his ex's families, and I don't talk to my ex's families. That's way too weird. Especially if they're like family in your case, most likely going home to gossip to the ex about the persons current relationship. Yech.
I know my ex's parents on some level, but I don't talk with them on a regular, personal basis, and neither does my fiance as far as I know. He doesn't seem the type. But yeah, that's kinda freaky.
That's weird. I would think that if you had an ex ... the parents of the ex would be on their child's side and think the boy/girl is a creep and not want to talk to them. That sounds scary!
that's... a bit weird.
I still feel weird seeing my ex's family here and there.
my SO doesnt have exes. I was kind of his first girlfriend. But my exes, I don't really keep in touch with their family, maybe only one, and that's only once in a blue moon
I have a friend who broke up with his girlfriend about 3 months ago. The wierd part is that the girl's mother still texts and talks to the boy. She'll leave him comments Facebook wall. When she sees him in person, she will not stop talking to him. It kind of creeps me out.
once the ex is gone...so are their parents...and that is that.
hmmmm kind of weird if u ask me...no matter how u look at this picture it is weird....grrrrr
@xXnightshadeX@xanga - That kind of the relationship that these two had. Definitely a little creepy, especially since she was never that nice to me!
@irishgrrl690@xanga -
That's exactly how this relationship is. I could be talking to him and she would come over and sit down beside him and start talking up a storm. It is rather annoying.
My ex's family and mine were real close so we all knew each other. They moved 3000 miles away though... so we havent exactly kept in contact.
nope.. never works out.
I don't know if the current guy I'm crushing on's ex still keeps in contact with his family...but one time I was over at their house, his mom/sister thought his ex was over...but it was me =/
that is ridiculous.
id only get to know them at all if it was necessary.
i remember,
i hung out with his whole family.
damn was it weird without him there
wow. that is annoying. perhaps she got a crush on your boyfriend?
Yeah that's pretty awkward. I think you handled it well.
@Neurotically_Mine@xanga - HAH! God. I hope not........
I still talk to my ex's mom, I think she likes me more than her daughter! hahah jk jk
she does care about me and everything though. Maybe cause she knew me before I dated her daughter. not really awkward for me ^_^;;
She's not my ex'es mom..but..I still talk to one of my ex'es best friend's mom..if that makes any sense...lol
not really weird or awkward at all..until she tells a story about my ex..or something like that...
My boyfriend is convinced that his ex's mom tried to kill him by putting peanut butter in chili at a church function and serving it to him.
It's safe to say she's not coming over to visit any time soon.
Happy mother's day to all mothers!!!!! And if you want to do something for Mom this Mother's Day, first at least call her (unlike last year, admit it!), and then if you don't want to get out your credit cards for Mother's Day gifts, you could try sending her one of the Mother's Day poems that are all over the web. There are a myriad of websites that have Mother's Day poems that you can get for free (even if she'd rather you wrote it – and know her children are literate, creative, and not lazy) and some of them are real tear-jerkers. Many holidays have free gifts available for them, so you don't need online payday loans to send Mom some Mother's Day poems.
i agree with vietman88. unless the mom is a friend of ur mom or something, where she knew u before u dated ur ex, WEIRD! mebbe she still has hopes that he will date her daughter!
My best friend's ex's whole family loves her and keeps in contact with her.
Um... are you sure there was the need for all that?