So besides waiting by the phone in high school, I also wondered why I didn't have a boyfriend. I'd had crushes on guys and other ones liked me but didn't
like me like me.
I have this particular memory of sitting in the car with my sister (she's two years younger) singing Avenue Q. We didn't say it flat out, but it was pretty clear that we were both on the hunt for a gentleman friend...but things weren't going too well.
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No. Not really. I started dating when I was 18 so I think it's safe to say I was ready. I'm single now at 20 years old but it really doesn't matter much. Dating isn't all i care about. I'll find that one person eventually, we all will. When you're in high school, it's like dating is really the only thing that matters. Once you get to college people start understanding that they have their own life to take care of and won't pay as much attention to having an SO.
I waited to date until I knew I was ready for that very reason. Thankfully, I had the wisdom and foresight to realize it. I had my first girlfriend at age 17 (senior year of high school), and it was a good, mature relationship.
I advocate waiting until you're personally ready for a responsible relationship. Don't let peer pressure, unreasonable expectations, and "what everyone else is doing" dictate your actions.
yep. all the time :o)
I had my first boyfriend at thirteen and we dated for two years. I don't think I made mistake cuz those two years were great, just the way we parted was kinda bad. I think I'll wait a year or two until someone good comes my way to finally date again.
Well, I guess you could say that. When I look back now I realize that I wasn't mature enough, I wasn't even what I wanted to be yet. I didn't even know who I was. I find it helpful to know who you are and what you want before you start to date. That doesn't really matter, I don't guess, for someone who isn't dating for an actual relationship though. Past middle school I didn't have many crushes though, so I'm mainly thinking of the middle school years ; and honestly nobody is mature enough for actual dating then.
im kind of on the same boat right now. I get thinking about it and I know that I am just not ready. I want to have fun and when you are tied up with someone, you have boundries. It kind of sucks because I want both. To date and be single when the time is right hahaha
nope. i had my first boyfriend in fifth grade, and shoo, it was fun (:
My boyfriend and I started dating when I was 19- so pretty much that's how long I waited until I thought I was ready. Never really thought about dating because high school was just a bunch of friends :)
yea! I mean death row is looserville and most the cute girls know it.
Meh, no. The boyfriend I have right now is my first real boyfriend, & at 18, I think I'm mature enough to do this.
Mm, I don't think so.
And I just have to say that I LOVE Avenue Q. <333
I started dating at 16, I wasn't quite ready eventhough I was interested in a boy and we flirted for over a year. You really have to allow yourself to soul-search and grow up before you're really ready.
The only time that I really ever really feel that "it sucks to be me" (and btw, Avenue Q ftw!!! ♫) are those times when my group of friends - and my closest friends are all the the female variety with the exception of my brother - are in relationships and I'm the only single one left. Like now. But it's alright, because I realized a long time ago that dating isn't everything, which is probably why I have a relatively clean record. =P
i never thought i had much of a choice dating whoever i dated whenever.
i reach out and grab anything that i can have that would make me happy when it comes with relationships.
ive only regretted dating one person in my life.
Lol Avenue QQ.
Heh offtopic, but yeah my first relationship seems a bit. . . immature. Oh well, I learned from it.
It's too soon to tell but right now I think I'm starting to get into the real dating scene.
I think it just depends on the person... Though you change so much as you grow up. My boyfriend was in a relationship for three years (8th-10th grade) and he really loved her.
Now we're sophomores in college, and I've asked if he'd ever wanted to go back to her. He told me he had hung out with her recently, like his freshman year of highschool, and that he now found her a little annoying and obnoxious.
At this point, we both acknowledge that we're still changing but want to make an effort to change together. I think it's hard to pull off any kind of LDR around a high school age because of how much changing you're doing, but if you're a mature person, I think you can make it work.
i might have had a bf back when i was going into 8th grade with this high school friend of mine.. but ... i wasn't ready so ...
now that i look back, i think about how i may have turned out.. i think i'd be more of a dependent woman.. i'm glad i waited to date. i'm much more of an individual now :)
my first boyfriend and i just ended about a week ago. i'm trying my best to get over him, but i don't think i'm ready yet. i'm too picky. i expect boys to treat me the way i treat them, and they don't. or haven't. which is life, obviously. but i'm seventeen now (as of monday) and i mean, it'd be nice to have a boyfriend. but after dating that one guy for two months, i don't know. i wasn't really ready. and i doubt within a week i can say i am.
i'll be ready eventually. i think of it more as... i'll be ready for the right guy when he comes. until then, i'll just let everything flow and see how it goes. there's no point searching right now. plus i've found that the guys i really fall for are the ones i was never really looking for in the first place.
Oh god, like right now? I finally ended a STUPID STUPID SUPER STUPID relationship (well we weren't even going out--- maybe seeing eachother.... but... we weren't relaly that either). It's crazy, and I coudn't agree much with you either, up until 12th grade, I never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy, never did ANYTHING with BOYS... until 3 motnhs ago, WHICH i was DRUNK for the first time and hooked up with this guy AND was stuck with him up until last week.
I regret EVER losing my first kiss to him, REGRET spending time with him BECAUSE i was seriously not ready to be in relationshp at all, and especialy when I didnt' really like him. And I didn't want to be committed or date anyone at all, and ever though of it etiher.
Bad BAD mistake.