Okay, so the title technically is a lie. We were dating for two years when I decided I couldn't handle his immaturity anymore. I moved on from the high school mentality to the college mentality and he didn't. So I broke up with him.
Mind you, I was expecting him to grow up, realize his immaturities and change. We both agreed that it definitely did not feel like the end of us, and that after we'd had some space we would get back together and live happily ever after.
Boy, did he throw me for a loop.
Eight days later he started seeing someone else. A girl a year younger than us, who went to my old high school, where he consequently hangs out constantly. Funny part being we never went to high school together.
If you've ever been replaced by a rebound, you probably know the gist of the way I felt just then. Especially if the relationship lasted a while.
Humiliated. Worthless. Used. Betrayed.
How do you deal with an ex moving on before you do?
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All in due time.
Don't worry. Don't stress. Move at your own time.
Oh god thats why I basically hate my last ex. We dated for a year and a half and two days after we broke up he was hooking up and dating one of my friends. Pissed off.
But sorry, you have no foot in this. You broke up with him hoping he change and it backfired on you. Get angry then get over it.
Sounds like my story except I don't think he's moved on (maybe he has since well, we haven't talked in six months) and neither have I. I'd say leave him behind, and go find someone else. He has, so why shouldn't you?
this keeps happening to me. we were together for to years. my twist.. he keeps going after my friends. and my friends dont see a problem in it.
i wish there was an easy solution to this
Honestly, let him. I'm going to come off as a bitch but the truth is, you're too young to believe in happily ever after with him. There are a ton of people out there that you haven't met, there are a lot of experiences that you haven't experimented and knowledge to be learned.
Focus all that extra energy towards something more positive. To move on, I started doing charity. Volunteer at local events, hang out with your friends, take an extra class or two. Knowledge is power. Even if that doesn't bring him back (if that's what you want), at the end of the ordeal, you've become a better person from it. I promise.
Good Luck!!
Just ... yell, vent, write a list of things about him and burn it and then move on. I don't know exactly, since I haven't had an ex .. but I know I would be hurt if my boyfriend did that to me. :/
hopefully time will heal your wounds.
story of my life.
my ex has moved on with a girl he is not only more affectionate towards, but is actually OPEN about their relationship(we kept ours quiet), and has been seeing for, by now, almost twice as long as we did.
oh, and he's 18, almost 19, and she's 15/16. HUH....ergh.
so actually...sorry, I don't have advice :/ but i want to point out that you shouldn't expect people to change....they always disappoint you.
You just need to find another boy toy eZ
Oh don't say such things. This worries me. My boyfriend of 5.5 years decided to break up with me a few weeks ago, and now I'm terrified of him moving on quickly. I don't care if he moves on first, but I'd really like it to take at least 6 months. l0l.
Date a guy with your maturity level. You broke up with him for a reason right? Hehe
Keep yourself busy with family, friends, work, school, etc.
That's what helped me.
Um yeah...happened to me. Dated my first ex for a year, then she broke it off and a week later is dating her current bf....its been 8 months, close to 9. *sigh*
i was about to say "find someone else" but that really doesn't help YOU move on. i'd just cut all ties from him for awhile (if you ever want to open up and speak to him again when you're ready, go for it), live your life, enjoy being single..
you know though. maybe he hasn't really moved on - maybe he just feels like he needs to be with someone, even if you guys decided to have some space. maybe this is his definition of "space"..idk, he's a guy. even the nicest ones tend to turn and do something that makes them an asshole. and you don't deserve that.
Time.
Ah yes. The rebound.
My ex had a rebound. She got pregnant with his baby and theyve been living together ever since, well, since before we even broke up.
So yeah. I know how the whole rebound thing feels. But how would you like it if they lived together and had a family?
i'm still trying to figure that out.....if you figure it out let me know!
anger and then acceptance. if it's meant to be then it will be. but honestly, this guy isn't really worth your time if he moved on right away like that. just use this time to improve yourself, take some classes, go meet more people :)
ugh.........sorta the same thing happened to me. i was tired of my ex's crap so i decided to end things. he ends up dating a chick that he dated before me, and is nice to her mom (he wasnt very affectionate or nice to my mom), does things that he NEVER did with me and it just.........pisses me off. it's hurtful. whatever though, it's his loss because his new g/f is nowhere near as good looking as me (i'm not conceited, but i honestly am better looking). i hope that he's happy and doing all that stuff for her, but in the end she's the rebound and he's only doing it to prove me wrong. meh.
I'm a bit afraid that I might be the rebound girl because he recently broke up with his ex and I'm much younger. I myself took so much longer to get over my ex than he did, so I'm not sure whether I am the rebound girl or not. I hope not.
I find it terribly ironic to have this as a post shown today. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, last week actually. And then I find out this past sunday he's got someone else. As a matter of fact, she's one of my friends. One who dated 2 of my other previous ex's as well. And attempted to get me to not hang out with one of them when they were dating.
I'm begging for it to be rebound but I have no clue what to think anymore especially because the day before they apparently started dating, he and I were cuddling and he kissed me like nothing happened and nothing could stand between us. Ever. Damn was I wrong. Betrayed? Absolutely.
seriously, let me help you smack him in the face.
Mm the slightly immature but effective way to do it is to find an unbelievably hot guy to be your arm candy the next time you know your ex will see you.
@roflicopterxD@xanga - That really sucks...sorry.
Oh, right, but if you mean how to deal as in how to get over it yourself, then I'd suggest making your life very busy. Schedule meals and movies with friends more, go to a club and dance, study...basically things that stop you from sitting and thinking about him and maybe crying.
fuck it and have your own life. if he's going to be that shady then he's not worth it.
go out with your girls and get a make-over. it will help you feel like a sexier new person who your ex is definitely missing out on.
when you're ready you'll find another guy who won't be so immature!