Tuesday, 12 May 2009
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Do You Have to Have Similar Interests to Date?
Has anyone ever seen One Tree Hill (known for sappy love stories), or any other love TV shows, for that matter?I've noticed that show at least, has promoted only couples with similar interests would work out in the end. They say people have to like the same exact things and are soulmates/destined for each other. They downplay the best couple they have on the show, who are polar opposites from each other (Lucas and Brooke - yeah, I said it!).
Not only that, a friend and I got to talking once and even she thinks that couples who mainly work out have similar hobbies.
Granted...the guy I am kind of seeing now is very similar to me and we are working to see if something could happen; still, I think people shouldn't rule out total opposites.
I mean, who would want to basically date a clone of themselves? I like the idea of people from two different worlds coming together and showing each other their worlds.
Are you and your SO opposites or similar?
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VERY opposite. But we haven't been together too long. I'd say a little over two months?
man, i think he likes a mirror image of himself..
Mehh, don't have a SO, but I do agree with what you had to say. My ex and I weren't total opposites... we had a few similar hobbies and few others that were different. Neither of us had a problem with learning about the different ones.
we're very opposite. i'm good with starbucks and talking, while he's more of a partier. we balance each other out, though. "opposites attract because they are not opposites, but complementaries." :)
Hmm depends...similar hobbies and such (we're both nerd =P)
But pretty different personalities. He's over sensitive and I seem to be an insensitive bitch... sad, but trueI think the idea is along the right track.. whereby "same interests" doesn't mean you "love" the same things. For example, my biggest academic passion is philosophy while my SOs is psych... but we still have an "interest" to hear about each others subject. I think if you don't have an interest in what your SO does, its hard to truly share things... like I don't really play that many instruments but my SO play everything so he'll always write music and ask me how it is... if i wasn't so into music it would probably be tough cause he couldnt' share his passion
I just think its nice to be able to share passions in a relationship and makes it easier when there less free time...
I believe you need to have some things in common. I can't seem to get along with people who are opposite of me...at least relationship-wise.
I think personalities need to be complimentary. Relationships work best when there are similarities in what is closest to your heart, beliefs, religion, politics, hobbies. I think you have to share the same future goals and desires for a relationship to pass the test of time. Heck, most relationships I know, including my own, diverged because people had different goals, visions, ideas of commitment.
I gave it a shot with someone who was very much different from me and it didn't work because of such reasons. I think you have to balance head and heart. Yes, I want chemistry but I also want that connection on an intellectual level and a "soul mate" that understands the things that are most important to me.
It definitely helps to have similar hobbies and interests, but it's also important to have personal interests and hobbies that you partake in once in a while that don't involve the other person. It's not healthy to revolve one's life around the SO's 24/7. But do you need to have everything in common together to be successful? Not necessarily in my opinion, but it really does help to have some major similarities in a relationship.
we think alike, but action wise, it's a little different
lol Nathan likes basketball and Haley likes music. Nathan isn't so smart while Haley is supersmart. They're differentt and they worked out pretty well <3 lol I lovee OTH.
I don't think you need to have similar interests. It can help, but it's not necessary. My boyfriend and I both met on the swim team but we don't usually have the same taste in movies, music, books ... It's actually pretty cool because you get exposed to different types of things that you never thought you would.
My boyfriend and I both like the same kinds of food ahah :)
We have many interests in common. I wouldn't want it any other way.
We're total ossopites.
jk.
Freakishly similar I think...sometimes we end up typing the same thing to each other on MSN...
Similar in background and personality but different in lifestyle.
@laurenmaureen@xanga - I love that quote. I'm going to have to steal it lol =) Where did you see it originally?
it's hard when they know nothing of the things you like, and you don't know of theirs... especially when you dislike the things they like.
I don't believe if you are TOO opposite that you will last, I think you have to have some of the same interests to work out, No way would I date some one I had nothing in common with, nor would I date someone too similar, but would rather date too similar than too different.
My personal beliefs are that you have to have enough in common to enjoy things together but not so similar that you can't grow together and have time apart to enjoy your own hobbies/activities, but that you do have to have a certain amount of interests in common.
okay its not just couples with similar interest one tree hill talks about. what about nathan and hailey!? they couldn't be more different.
as for couples with or without similar interests ....
without similar interests, you would have to work HARDER for your relationship. you would have to be understanding towards your SO's thoughts.
its just easier to have a relationship with someone who has all those things in common with you.
I agree that Brooke and Lucas were the most amazing couple on the show!!
I think that you have to have some similar interests in order to establish something. If you totally despise everything your significant other takes pleasure in ... things wouldn't really work out. Of course, that's not to say you can't have any opposing interests!
@xo_vintagelove_xo@xanga - http://koti.mbnet.fi/neptunia/quotes/love2.htm haha
We have similar personalities and like some of the same things but not all.
We're extremely similar.
I used to think that we were very similar but I guess because we live in different environments with parents who value different things, we aren't as similar as I originally thought we were.
Oh well. I still love him <3
I can't think of anything Lucas and Peyton have in common besides their blonde hair.
And that they're both pretty deep and understand each other.
But that's about it. Their blonde hair..