Monday, 11 May 2009
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Meet A Guy...Everything Will Be Magical!
I'm doomed.
No, don't laugh. It's true. And do you want to know how I know this? Do you? (You know you do...I'm just screwing with you.)
Because the media tells me so.
A few years back, one of my good friends and I were comparing ourselves to well-known, female, protagonists in the movies, and our observations led me to that very simple conclusion: doomed.
(I tried to find a clip of C-3PO proclaiming doom to emphasize my point...but alas.)My position:
I'm about to graduate with my English MA (and studied English and Communications as an undergrad). I write and plan on going into a writing/editing/communications related field. I'm shyish around boys who I'm into. I'm nerdy. I wasn't particularly popular in high school. I haven't found much success with the dating game.You know what happens to women like me in movies?
The Holiday:
Kate Winslet's character: a beautiful, talented writer in her thirties heartsick over a jerk who doesn't deserve her. Things have been...rocky for her. Now, this woman spent the whole of her twenties sucking at relationships, but this is not what she pictured for her life.
Of course, now that she's thirty, she makes a decision that changes her fate, meets a nice guy, and everything is MAGICAL.Moving on...
Bridget Jones's Diary.
Bridget: a lovely, if slightly unbalanced, woman who works in publishing. She, too, is heartsick over a guy who totally doesn't deserve her. Now in her thirties, she makes a decision to overhaul her life, and, though her past relationship luck is nothing to write home about, she suddenly finds herself the object of two men's affection.
Of course, after realizing which of the men is right for her, she makes a decision, runs into the street in her underwear, has a dreamy kiss with the perfect guy, and everything is MAGICAL. (Until she hits the edge of reason, but that's another topic entirely.)
And, we continue...
Music and Lyrics
(You'll notice a lot of actor overlap in this list...it's a coincidence...)
Here we have Sophie, a wonderfully talented, beautiful, well-trained writer, roughly age thirty. She was damaged by her previous relationships, and now undervalues, among other things, her talent.Then she meets a nice guy who encourages her in her talents (albeit, initially for selfish reasons), and she decides to go for it. Then, of course, everything falls into place, and things get MAGICAL.
Are we sensing a trend?
Never Been Kissed
She beautiful, but she doesn't realize it. She's talented, but they won't give her a chance at work. (Of course, at work, they don't realize what a brilliant writer she is, so her boss wants her to remain a copy editor.)Then, when she's nearly thirty, a wonderful accident puts her in an unexpected situation wherein she gains confidence and meets a gorgeous man who happens to be totally into her. It's MAGICAL.
FINALLY (though I really could go on...)
Kate & Leopold
She's beautiful. She's talented. She's recently out of a failed LTR. She works in a "communications" job. She's in her thirties. A series of unlikely events involving the time-space continuum lead her to her perfect guy.
And, you guessed it,
It's totally MAGICAL.(Other examples that I'm not going to detail: Miss Potter, Alex and Emma (that one, incidentally, works both ways), You've Got Mail, The Truth About Cats and Dogs, and Someone Like You.)
So, you wonder, what's the problem? All of these women end up with a great guy.
The problem is that they all suck at relationships for a really long time. The problem is that, if I use these to judge, I should plan to settle in for a rough seven or so years.
Of course, after that...Magic
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Comments (54)
Eh, the media lies. They're just trying to sell it.
Oh, and why are all the women BLONDE?!
Screw the movie storylines. Write your own. :)
i love all those movies XD
Hey, I mean, at least you get to be Drew Barrymore along the way, ya know?
Besides, "magic" doesn't happen. You'll just have to tough it out being the spunky out-of-luck protagonist for a while. And that's not anything to complain about at all.
fairytales just don't happen in real life anymore sadly. There's no magic but only happiness from being contented
And I wonder why a lot of women have such preconceived notions about love...LOL.
Sure, it is great to meet a guy and have "magic" happen (most of the time, though, it really doesn't), but relationships in real life take a lot of work, and there are times when they can be good or bad.
@Dare2BDiferentt - Because blondes have more fun, especially as spunky, out-of-luck protagonists.
hahaaha you might have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince.
Many good movie.
Cute post.
The target audience for these movies is single women in their late 20s. A writing field is chosen because most people think they are skilled writers or could easily get a job as a writer.
Now you have a character who is relatable. It has nothing to do with the profession or how you'll end up.
Movies are bound to scripts.
You're bound by nothing but your imagination.
in due time my dear. you'll find a great guy once you're content with yourself, when this happens you'll know exactly what you want and get it. thats what i think
Eh, I've found more and more that you have to make your own magic...which comes from being satisfied with everything else in your life first. Once that happens, the guy you need may just fall into your lap. Be your own Fairy Godmother and things'll start looking up
-Katie
It could be worse. You could be a character from a Japanese horror film.
Movies are based on gross stereotypes. It's not a trend, it's an inaccurate perception that the media creates. Don't base your life off of a movie [or many movies]
we make magic happen =]
it's cause women keep convincing themselves that they "deserve" things.. "i'm such a great catch, i spent all my time in my 20's being completely unbalanced and focusing only on my career and myself, so why don't guys like me?"
if you phrase it like that, don't you think the answer is clear?
@akatiegirl -
Agreed.
maybe you should have majored in something other than english :p and since i love to argue with people: i don't think popularity in hs is a good indicator of future coolness. i was pretty unpopular in hs and now i'm kind of the shit...though this is a secret i don't tell people irl.
just don't have such high expectations of guys and you'll be set for life lol also an aging woman with a freelance career should also work on acting super cute, such that of drew barrymoore, renee zellweger, and meg ryan's annoyingly cutesy smiles
then more guys will be magically drawn to that type of smile where it looks as if they are about to burst out laughing but they try very hard to hold their laughter inside their annoying face
good luck.
I think when you're not looking for a relationship ... that you'll find the one. :D
well, at least you're active about your situation