Dr. Datingish
I have been going out with this guy for about 4 months. About a month ago, he heard something bad about me. His cousin, who I've never met, said she had seen me at some fast food place with my ex, which is untrue - I don't even go out with anyone but my BF.
Well, he had a difficult time believing that I didn't do it and now he's dumped me because he says "he's confused and doesn't know what he wants".
I don't know what to do because I go to school with him and see him every day; it drives me crazy to see he acts like nothing ever happened. I try to stay away from him, but my mind always wanders back to him. I've grown attached to him very quickly, but I feel like I am bugging too much.
Should I just forget him? If so, how do I do that when he's all I think about?
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Drop that chicken dinner he's obviously insecure or just wanted a reason to break up. Luckly it was 4 months as oppose to 4 years.
If he's willing to let something as small as this come between you, cut your loses now and be thankful. I agree, it's better to have only wasted 4 months than much longer.
Go out with friends (if you have any left since you mentioned you don't go anywhere without your now ex), get busy, live life. Learn to balance your priorities.
If he reacts that way over something as little as this, then he is too insecure to be in any kind of relationship.
@TornadoChaser@momaroo - You took the words out of my mouth. I agree.
You should also take some time for yourself. It's really important to take care of yourself & pamper yourself after you get out of a relationship.
Hmmm...he's either looking for a reason to break up, really confused or just doesn't trust u enough. Did he even give you a chance to say anything?
If he clarify the story with you and still doesn't believe you, then is it worth it? He didn't even give u a chance. As your bf, he should believe you (unless something in the past happned that tells him otherwise). I donno the entire story behind this, but between bf/gf, if there's a misunderstanding, then you'd talk about it. However, in the end if he really cares about you and cherishes you, then he'd believe you. Plus, he didn't have proof and if you really wanted to prove yourself innocent, you can give him proof that you didn't go out with ur ex. His cousin might have mistook some other girl for you. But to decide a break up just for that is really going overboard.
If he doesn't trust you enough to let some silly gossip ruin the relationship, I don't think it's worth the trouble. It sounds like he ended the relationship fairly quickly without debating whether or not you were telling the truth, and that's a bit suspicious. This spat looks like it was the easy way out for him. I think you should let him go and find someone better suited for you, but that's just me. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you =].
If he'll let you go over hear-say, let him go.
Sounds like kind of a strange story. Maybe he's the one who is lying to you. Either way, he sounds like a loser.
Dear Done,
Forget about him. I'm not saying it'll be easy to do, especially since you go to school with him... but I think it would be best for your sanity if you did. Other friends are usually wonderful distractions. I agree with what someone here said earlier: if he's going to break up with you over something like that (and NOT believe YOU), it's not worth it. Find someone who isn't an insecure dweeb.
Signed,
Me.
Yeah, there's definitely something else going on there.
I think you should move on. He's obviously got some serious trust issues. If he's willing to listen to someone else without even considering your side of the story, you're lucky that the relationship didn't progress any further.
It hurts, but something like that is very hard to get over. My last girl dumped me because she didn't think she could trust me going to another state. Which I went there to visit my dad to help him get through his divorce. Other people usually aren't mindful of your intentions, and we have to pay the consequences. It'll take you a while to get over him probably but you need to move on. Try to break off all ties to him until the feelings finally go away.
man, shit.
once he doesn't trust you anymore
he won't learn to trust you again
fuck him. do you know how hard it is trying to persuade convince someone that you didn't do something/
however, if you really love him, then fight for it.
and if you can't, then Fuck him
Well if he's quick to believe some line of bulls*** his cousin told him that easily, he doesn't trust you. Drop him. He's never going to fully trust you or learn to trust you. He's always going to question your every move and thought, and he's always going to be quick to believe someone over you when he should be trusting you above all others for the most part. There are far better fish more worth dating than him.
if he wants to trust his cousin over you, that shows how immature and weak-willed he is. unless his cousin has proof
He's willing to believe his cousin over you. Not worth it.
I wonder what motivated his cousin to tell such a blatant lie.
Sounds like he's making an excuse? Boys are scum anyway, learn to love life with just friends again and then find yourself a MAN.
I think better ask the cousin, ur bf and u face to face to clear the misunderstanding...
If ur bf doesn't trust u, it can't do anything too...
A bf tat do not trust u, continue the relationship also useless
face to face to solve it, its the best way for u now
@Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga - "Drop that chicken dinner" that....is....AWESOME!!!
forget about him. he doesn't deserve your love.
Wait a sec, he broke up with you because he heard you got food with your ex? That's not even cheating, unless you're all touchy-feely while you're out. I don't get it - it's not like you went on a date, you just went out for food with a member of the opposite sex! Controlling much?
Maybe I didn't read it right, but that's the impression I got. If I wasn't allowed to go out with guys I'd never see my friends! All my girlfriends live in other cities so my local friends are guys.
If he's not even listening to your reasons, then he's not worth it. He doesn't even think about the fact that his cousin never met you before.
@Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga - lol i gotta agree with you. haha he's just too insecure.